Encountering The Memories From Your Teens

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Riding The Wave When It Brings You Memories

They say to never live in your past but that only applies if your past is haunting or preventing you from moving forward. Your past can hold you back if you don’t let go, especially if you have encountered traumatic experiences. Sometimes people hold onto their past, reanalyzing their mistakes over and over again, as if revisiting those memories will do anything productive. I think you get the point; avoid your past if it doesn’t contribute anything meaningful to your present.

But if your past is full of beautiful memories, by all means, revisit it as often as you get a chance! Beautiful memories from your past can still serve as insightful lessons which you can utilize as refreshers. Think of your memory vault as a bookshelf full of useful information; all you have to do is dust off the pages and dive in. Don’t let the memories stored in your hippocampus go to waste.

If your hippocampus is good enough to still hold onto childhood and adolescent memories, why not use them to your advantage? Diving into the past can help you relax in the present, especially after a long week at work. But many don’t revisit their awesome memories because they are afraid of feeling sad in the present moment, especially if their present moment is not as exciting as their past.

This is a bad way to view the situation. Many people don’t have as good of a present situation as they had in their past, but this does not mean that they should not revisit their past. Your past is not something that you should feel jealous or envious of just because your present is not as exciting. If anything, revisit those memories and learn from your past to see if you can implement some of those tactics in the present.

In other words, utilize the power of your brain; don’t just live in the present. Your brain is capable of so many extraordinary tasks, but many don’t take advantage because they are too caught up in the present moment. Sometimes you have to check out of the present moment in order to obtain a greater clarification of your life. The saying, “focus on your present and future cause those are the ones that you can change” is not completely useful because it’s leaving out the past.

It is true that you want to focus the majority of your energy and time on the present and the future, but dedicate a small percentage to your past as well. Retrieving memories is one of the most beautiful capabilities of the human mind; utilize this to your advantage and don’t let it go to waste.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Evil Thoughts

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Living With Evil Thoughts

We all experience evil thoughts; some more than others. Evil means profoundly immoral and wicked. What is evil for someone may not necessarily be evil for someone else. But in general, there are many evil thoughts that are universally agreed upon as being immoral.

The reality is that you cannot escape evil thoughts; they are here to stay. That’s because there is no way to control what thoughts pop into your mind. But there is a way to control how you deal with evil thoughts! If you find yourself struggling with evil thoughts, then you have not found the right way to deal with them.

There is no secret to properly dealing with evil thoughts; you won’t find a magical way of putting an end to them. You can meditate all you want but even that won’t take them away. But there is one way that will help you control them: just letting them be and not reacting to them.

You may ask, “how?! They are just so damn powerful and disturbing!” You are definitely right about that! Evil thoughts make you want to bang your head against the wall. But guess what happens when you give in? They just keep coming back, trying to make you go crazy.

The best way to deal with evil thoughts is to not react to them; allow them to pop into your head and just be. Don’t even try to ignore them; ignoring is a reaction! Just let them be and don’t care about them. You will find that the less you react to evil thoughts, the easier it becomes to live your life in peace.

And the evil thoughts will start to not matter anymore; they won’t bother you any longer. Evil thoughts have a life of their own but so do you! By not reacting to them, you allow them to live in the background while you are focusing on your life! Consider them parasitic; so be it. But you are not affected by this parasite!

You are in charge of your mind!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)