To Win Is To Suffer

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Keep Pushing The Limits

Perseverance, persistence, confidence, repetition, hard work, motivation, etc. All of these traits are necessary to push to the next level and elevate your status. But to achieve higher levels of success requires experiencing more hurdles of pain. Without pain, there is no easy ride.

Many obstacles can present themselves on your path to success. But obstacles are not meant to be viewed in a negative manner; they are there to help you develop more resilience and strength. Some obstacles are more difficult than others; but the more difficult ones bring the most memorable rewards.

To develop an attitude of winning is to remain humble, hungry and respectful to yourself and to others around you; those who are not, only win to a certain extent. What comes around goes around: to consistently win and climb the ladder of success requires a persona that can be appreciated by many.

The consequence of winning is recognition: people notice when achievements are earned. To win is to achieve a successful result in a contest, conflict or endeavor; every human being wants to win! It’s a natural feeling that brings joy, bliss and a sense of well-being.

Many people don’t achieve their full potential because they become comfortable with their current level of success. If you have achieved success, why stop now? As long as your mind, body and soul are willing, that means that there is more gas in the tank for you to keep pushing the limits!

Most importantly, the process of winning is meant to be fun. That means that the process of suffering is meant to be fun, since to win is to suffer. Fun means enjoyment, amusement or lighthearted pleasure. Why is suffering fun? Because it brings you one step closer to achieving your goals!

But the actual process of suffering feels miserable. It’s accompanied by pain, tears, stress, anger, sadness and uncertainty. But remind yourself that without experiencing these emotions, it becomes very difficult to win and achieve success. Therefore, retrain your mind to view suffering as a fun process, that will one day deliver you the goods which you have longed for!

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True Confidence Is Living In Uncertainty

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Stop Fighting Uncertainty

No matter how successful we become in life, there is always a feeling of uncertainty that haunts us in the back of our minds. You believe that the more you accomplish, the more relaxed you will start to feel. But this belief does not firmly stand; uncertainty seems to linger at every intersection that we cross.

You attempt to fight the uncertainty by coming up with ideas and ways to make you feel better. You scratch your head wondering, “why in the world do I feel this way when I have everything going for me?” You recount all of your past experiences and the strength and stamina you have garnered; you are fully armored!

Yet, the feeling of uncertainty persists. This is because it will never go away. It’s not supposed to! It always keeps you in check and prevents you from becoming too comfortable in life; it is like an alarm that keeps ringing in the morning even though you have been consistently waking up half an hour earlier for the last couple of years.

The solution is to not fight the feeling no matter how successful you are. Maintain your confidence by living in uncertainty; allow the feeling to motivate you and push you forward in life! Rather than spending your time and energy wondering how to curb the feeling, utilize it to your advantage by learning from it.

Sometimes uncertainty prevails because life has something different in store for you and you may not be seeing it at the present moment. It is very tempting to become complacent after achieving a set of goals; why keep pushing forward? In reality, we are meant to keep growing and learning as human beings.

Life occurs in stages: birth, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, elderly and death. Among each stage, lie smaller stages that we must successfully experience and go through. Each stage may be different for every person. And if we become stuck at a certain stage, guess what happens? The feeling of uncertainty rises!

This is why true confidence is living in uncertainty!

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Imagery And Repetition Are Aspects Of Success

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Suffering From Success

To accomplish is to first see it in the eye of your mind. Visualizing your goals before achieving them preps your path towards making them a reality. Living it in your mind before in reality allows you to connect with the emotions of that event; it increases your belief that you deserve whatever you want!

It takes much repetition in your mind and in reality to achieve success. Without persistence and hard work, success moves farther off into the distance. Most people do not want to put in the hard work because it is easier to become complacent with the current situation; this mentality promotes mediocracy.

There is suffering before success and suffering from success; one indicates that you are on the path to achieving it and the other indicates that you have achieved it but still in pain. Suffering does not go away once success has arrived; it is part of life whether rich or poor. It’s how you handle the suffering that separates resilient individuals from the rest.

To become successful, you must be willing to sacrifice time, energy and even situations; to gain something greater requires losing something lesser. For some, time is precious and are not willing to sacrifice it; they may never see success. For others, time is pointless and are willing to take up as much of it to see results; success might be around the corner.

You decide what it takes to become successful, but one common theme remains: imagery, repetition, thankfulness and sacrifice usually deliver you the results!

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The Uncertainty Of Hard Work

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Enjoy The Bones Along The Way

Let me answer the question before you even ask it: it pays off. We have felt it so many times: the uncertainty of whether our hard work is getting us anywhere. The reality is that we often feel like our hard work is for nothing, because we expect immediate results; we are forgetting about the important concept of delaying gratification.

Delaying gratification is a mature way of thinking that can help you remain on the right path in life, if applied consistently. It means: working hard in the present moment while sacrificing pleasure and results, and expecting gratification to occur sometime in the future. When applied consistently, it feels quite amazing when you start to reap the benefits along your path to success.

As soon as you come to acceptance with the fact that hard work comes with uncertainty, sweat and tears, and possibly no results in the near future, you will be at peace to continue grinding and working hard to achieve your dreams! It takes perseverance to achieve success, and 99% of the time, it comes with hard work only.

The beautiful thing about hard work is that it throws you a bone from time to time; these small rewards refuel you to keep you journeying towards the end goal! Do not lose sight of your goals just because you’re swamped with fatigue and misery; these experiences are shaping your character and building you into a stronger and more valuable person.

The DSM Ready Movement is about working hard together to achieve prosperity, peace of mind and most importantly, love!

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