The Last Loner

Loner man looking through glass window from inside his room

Relaxing In Solitude

Modern-day society believes that if you spend too much time by yourself, you must be weird, different, asocial or even depressed. In reality, many people are happier than ever at enjoying their own presence, not having to depend or rely on others. Relaxing in solitude does not mean any one of the above labels, it just means that there’s a last loner in every one of us.

With so many superficial relationships swarming our backyards, it’s no wonder why many would agree that it feels good spending time by yourself! You don’t have to worry about the masks coming out of the closet almost every single day. People are realizing that they can be more motivated and productive with their time.

The last loner in each and every one of us does not mean that we do not enjoy socializing. If anything, socializing is one of our favorite pastimes: enjoying life with the many different perspectives surrounding you. Socializing helps us to escape our appreciation for “loner-ship”, and rather allows us to connect with others!

Connecting with others is one of the best feelings, especially when the connections are right from the very first moment! For instance, consider yourself talking to the opposite sex and just clicking at every opportunity, resulting in flawless conversations. These are the types of connections that we hope to encounter.

There’s nothing wrong with relaxing in solitude: it complements our social animal. Therefore, do not listen to the remarks thrown around by society; it doesn’t control your mental health! You do. If you believe that solitude mixed with socialization is healthy and good for you, than listen to your heart and mind and do as you believe.

But it must be made clear that no polar opposite is better than the other: too much solitude can contribute to lack of friends and relationships, and too much socialization can contribute to too many distractions from oneself. The self comes first because the self is your life. But before yourself comes God.

God bless.

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Socializing Is Good For Your Mental Health

People socializing beside lake and forest

The Social Butterfly In You

We often become so caught up in our daily routines, that we forget the importance of spending time with friends. Socializing is good for you because it keeps you disengaged from your work and hobbies and allows you to rewind and loosens up your working self.

The benefits of socializing:

  • People with social support tend to live longer than those who are isolated (a general wellbeing is associated with socializing)
  • Your physical and mental health improve (it is associated with a stronger immune system and decreases feelings of depression)
  • You may lower your risk of dementia (it is associated with better performance on tests of memory and other cognitive skills)

Isolation prevents you from growing; all that time by yourself will cap your knowledge on certain life events. Only through social interactions, you can learn certain things in life that you will not find in a book.

We are social creatures by design and we must make an effort to maintain a social life. Go out there and meet people; force yourself if you have to. You will realize that the more you socialize, the better you will feel.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)