Disappointments In Life

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Dealing With Disappointments

They can hit you unexpectedly, leaving you wondering “why me?” A disappointment is sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations. Sometimes you don’t see a disappointment coming, while at other times, you can expect one.

It is always easier said than done, but you almost have to train your mind to expect future disappointments. Living with the belief that everything is going well is a great mindset to have, but know that somewhere along the way, the pattern will be broken by an upset.

It’s just the way life works. It may or may not be your fault. Sometimes you understand what led to the disappointment, allowing you to learn and grow from the mistake. Other times, you may never find out why a disappointment has occurred; there’s nothing wrong with that!

Not all disappointments are learning lessons. Sometimes you are just meant to experience the suffering and pain. Some of you may ask, “how much pain am I supposed to go through in life? That’s all I ever experience, pain!” A lot of us feel this way too! It’s not an easy question to answer.

But the best thing that you can do is to stay positive. It may feel as if this advice is overplayed, but in reality, it’s so underused! Be honest with yourself and recount how much negativity there truly is in your life:

  • People in your surroundings
  • Arguments with friends, coworkers and family
  • Your own thoughts chirping away in the background

Set this truth into your mind today: do not be upset with disappointments, for they help you appreciate what is positive and beautiful in life.

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Spurts of Hope

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My Living Hope

There are days when everything seems gloomy and all hope is lost; we can all relate. You lose interest in all of your activities and become bombarded with a deep feeling of sadness as if an elephant were sitting on your chest. The last thing you want to do is smile and be optimistic.

You wonder if life is even worth living anymore. You search for cracks of happiness only to return back to square one: sadness. You somehow find the strength to engage in some of your usual activities but with much less passion and enjoyment. You wonder if there is a magic pill that can take away the gloominess; there never was and never will be one.

As the day passes, you appreciate the short spurts of hope that creep into your consciousness; they somehow alleviate the pain, at least momentarily. But the key is to build off these spurts of hope and dig yourself out of the blackhole. These spurts of hope are the antidote to the start of depression; use them to avoid the development of a serious mental illness.

Feeling sad is part of life; there is no way to avoid it. The important thing is how you handle the sadness; some get over it and move on while others spiral down into major depressive disorder. Sadness is the yang and happiness is the yin; complementary forces in which the whole is greater than the individual emotions.

To appreciate happiness is to experience sadness; without the negative emotion, we would not know what happiness would feel like. But when there is way too much yin or yang, there is concern for mania or depression. Therefore, a healthy balance is always key to enjoying life.

Find your living hope and allow it to help you today!

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What To Tell Someone Who Is Sad

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Genuine And Gentle Support

Sadness is part of everyday life. The emotions feel like they are boiling in your chest; your mind wonders if the pain will ever go away. Experiencing sadness can be very difficult because it can make your mindset very negative; you start turning against yourself, losing self-confidence and feeling like a failure.

The first thing to understand when someone you know is sad is to give them their space; nobody likes an annoying person attempting to be of help. Giving a sad person their space allows them to decide how to handle their situation. As long as they know that you are available for support, then that is all that matters.

If a sad person is willing to talk to you, make sure to approach the conversation very gently; approaching from the wrong angle may make their situation worse. The most important step is to listen to them; don’t jump into the conversation with suggestions and sympathy. Listen to what they have to say; be their shoulder to cry on.

A sad person will be much more appreciative of your presence if you show them that you are listening carefully; it feels good to be heard. After letting them spill their emotions onto you, recite some of the things that they have told you along with some gentle suggestions; this will reinforce the fact that you were carefully listening to them.

Your suggestions, advice and empathy should be done genuinely and wholeheartedly. Why waste your time trying to help a sad person if you are not going to use your heart? It is very easy to tell when someone is genuine or fake.

Be the genuine person!

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