Losing Hope

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Not Seeing Any Results

There are many reasons for why one may lose hope, but there are also many reasons for why one should keep hoping. Living in a culture that feeds on immediate gratification, it’s very easy to fall into the mental trap of expecting instant results. Sure, you can receive instant results, but are they quality and beneficial to your growth as a person?

Social media has a huge influence on our expectations. Whether we are conscious of the process or not, we often compare ourselves to those who have more materialism: your Dan Bilzerians, Kim Kardashians, rappers, Instagram models, Oscar winners and more. We are so attracted by their lifestyles, that we become disappointed when we don’t see our small expectations become a fruitful reality.

Social media is a big problem with why people easily lose hope. Many times, people don’t realize that their goals are unrealistic or unnecessary; they are only shooting for them because they believe that’s what everyone else must be shooting for. They want a BMW when they can’t even afford a Honda!

Your hope for a better life will always be lost if you don’t adjust your expectations. Don’t shoot for unrealistic goals or ones that won’t serve you well; don’t try to be like the rest of them. You must realize that celebrities are celebrities for a reason: they are either extremely talented and gifted, lucky, full of connections or all of the above.

Even if you aren’t shooting for unrealistic goals, don’t give up just because you haven’t seen any meaningful results. For instance, many people believe that they won’t find their significant other because “dating apps suck.” Even though the consensus is that dating apps are not the best way to meet someone, and that even the “hottest” people struggle with them, that doesn’t mean that you should give up hope!

Do what you have to do while maintaining a positive state of mind. You are going to have days when you will feel like giving up, but don’t allow those days to be the end of your dreams. If you want something, are working towards it and believe wholeheartedly that you will accomplish it, then you are already in a much better position to achieve it!

In Matthew 17:20 of the bible, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

Plant those seeds of faith and keep watering them every day.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Suffer The Results Of Your Behavior

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Knowledge Takes Practice

Knowledge is very important to have: it helps you build connections, maintain intelligent conversations and keeps you educated about different concepts in life. Knowledge can be acquired through life experience and reading.

No one can question your life experience! What you have gone through and seen with your own eyes is yours; you were there in that moment to take away something from it. Life experience is very valuable because it teaches you concepts and ideas which you cannot obtain from a book, such as relationships, decisions and valuable information learned from other people.

Reading teaches you information that can make you more knowledgeable on various topics. But one important point to make is that knowledge takes practice; you cannot read for a certain amount of time and expect to maintain the knowledge indefinitely. Your brain is constantly repressing old information no longer being used and applied and learning new information presented to it.

Your behavior is determined by many factors, including life experience and knowledge obtained from books. Therefore, if you lack significant life experience or you are not well-read, your behavior will deliver you results that may be subpar; you will suffer at the subpar level.

The solution is to expose yourself to as many different life experiences and to become educated through reading and learning from others. Knowledge does not last forever; you have to practice to maintain your current level of knowledge and to escalate it to higher levels!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)