Integrity Comes Before Self-Interests

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Doing What’s Right Even If It Means Feeling A Little Pain

The easy way out in life does not deliver you respect from others; it shouldn’t even deliver respect from your own self. People choose the easy way out all the time out of fear and insecurity; they know deep inside that they are succumbing to anxiety. But you have to learn how to control your anxiety; if you don’t, then it tends to become pathological. Remember that integrity comes before self-interests.

Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. Someone who has integrity does what is right in a certain situation, even if it means exposing themselves to a little pain. The more integrity that you display, the better you will feel about yourself and the more respect that you will earn from others.

Don’t expect respect when your integrity flops at random times. It means that you cannot be trusted and when you cannot be trusted, certain doors will close for you in life. Sometimes the best things in life are saved for those with the most integrity because actions always speak louder than words.

Would you not be willing to help someone out more who displays consistent integrity? Someone’s integrity gives you confidence that they can be trusted and can be there for you when they’re counted on. Unfortunately, many people are afraid of negative outcomes and so they sacrifice their integrity so that they can feel comfortable.

You have to understand that comfort has to be sacrificed at times in order to do what is right. Everyone wants to be comfortable; it’s part of human nature. But not everyone wants to do the right thing. The more that you practice doing what is right, the easier it will become and people will take notice! And when people take notice, they spread the word to others about how impressive your record of integrity has been.

You just never know what important person may hear about you and give you a call one day asking, “Are you interested in this offer?” And your life may change right there and then.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Women Keep Us Going

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International Women’s Day

If it weren’t for women, men would be running around like headless chickens with no direction in mind. Women are much more nurturing than men, are smarter in different ways and frankly, much more beautiful. In other words, women keep us going. International women’s day is a time to recognize women’s rights and raise awareness for anti-sexism and anti-discrimination.

Women have just as much knowledge, determination and stamina as men do when it comes to the workforce. Gender should no longer matter in regards to salary. If a woman holds the same position as a man, then both should make similar amounts. A man should not be making 30 grand more per year just because of his gender. Gender inequality should no longer be taking place.

Women also view the world differently than men. Because of less testosterone, women tend to be less violent and more nurturing. Maybe it’s time for a female president? It’s time that women hold higher positions in the government and in the workforce in general. The world deserves less aggressiveness and more nurture.

Women deserve ongoing support for domestic violence and sexual assaults that they encounter throughout their lives. Keep in mind that there are a batch of men with antisocial personality disorder or psychosis who adopt the sexual predator role, but that not all men should be thrown in the same category. Women should no longer be exposed to violence and sexual assaults in this day and age.

Asides from the fact that women should have equal rights with men, international women’s day is a time to respect women overall. They are beautiful creatures with awesome personalities who are funny, caring, loving and fun to be around with. If there were no women in this world, man’s downfall would be just around the corner.

Women are great! It’s time to continue respecting them.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Respect Others As You Respect Yourself

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What Does It Mean To Be Respectful?

Without taming our human nature, we’d be running around like a wild pack of animals with no remorse for each other. Human nature does not mean that society works best on what is “natural”; just because something is natural and universal does not make it effective and productive for modern-day society.

From a Freudian perspective, every person has an ego, superego and ID. The ID is the animalistic side of us seeking pleasure: food, sex, sleep and fun. The superego takes societal values and morals into consideration and balances our ego and ID. Some of us are more in touch with our ID.

The problem with too much ID is that respect for others is sidelined while selfish “natural” drives take priority. This causes many problems for society:

  • Women are looked down upon as sources of physical pleasure (lust)
  • Too much emphasis is placed on the self rather than helping others (pride)
  • The quest for power, fortune and control take over (greed)
  • Habitual greed or excess in eating (gluttony)
  • Looking down upon others who hold qualities or possessions which one lacks (envy)
  • Extreme anger towards others for no good reason (wrath)
  • The reluctance to work or make an effort to better humanity (sloth)

One can argue that the seven traits mentioned above are part of human nature; all perfectly “natural” behaviors that serve to benefit us. And for the most part, they are part of human nature. But the argument is that human nature is not always what is best for mankind.

Clearly, the seven traits mentioned above are destructive to an individual and those around them. The solution is it sideline your ID and begin to respect yourself and others. Respect is the due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights or traditions of others.

When we begin to respect ourselves, respecting others no longer poses a challenge.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Defeat Any Type Of Addiction With Self-Respect

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Addiction Ends When You Want It To

It’s no shock that we are currently experiencing multiple drug epidemics: methamphetamine and opioids. Some even suffer from Gambling Disorder. But what is driving humanity to becoming slaves to addiction? The answer is: lack of self-respect and control. We often seek a change in consciousness because we get bored with our reality.

We want something more exciting and enticing that will bring us stimulation. But that is where the problem lies; these addictions hijack our brain like a virus does to a computer, to the point that we must function under the virus until we feel motivated enough to undergo reprogramming.

Reprogramming is not always successful, truth be told. Sometimes the virus is so destructive that we end up losing the hardware. The solution is to increase your self-respect and avoid/prevent/or stop the process of addiction from taking place.

By self-respecting yourself and realizing how much you have to be thankful for (just the fact that you are living) should be enough! Resist the urge to seek a replacement for your current reality and instead find fulfillment in healthy activities that can bring you peace of mind and joy.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)