Running Away from Challenges

Toddler facing challenge of climbing up beige concrete stairs

Don’t Make Excuses, Make Improvements

Many people do not learn to live up to their full potential. It is not because of the lack of opportunities. It is because they are presented with challenges! Opportunities always present themselves, whether one admits it or not. Life always gives us a chance to better ourselves!

But due to different environments which we are born and raised in, different upbringings and schools of thought, not every person capitalizes on an opportunity. Two similar folks may be presented with the same opportunity, but one anxiously jumps on it while the other kicks rocks.

Whenever someone complains of lack of opportunities in life, they are just making excuses rather than improvements. What holds them back from grabbing an opportunity is their mindset. Whatever the circumstances of their environment, they still have the inner strength to say “yes, I will jump on this.” But the key is to get in touch with this inner strength.

A common mistake many people make is that they run away from challenges; they view them as laboring and time-consuming obstacles rather than opportunities for improvement. But to succeed in life is to suffer through all kinds of twists and turns. There is no way around it.

The more that you run away from challenges, the more difficult it will be for you to ever accept them in the future. You are training your mind to only work at a certain level; whenever a challenge presents itself, your mind has been automated to decline the greater work requirement.

But the more that you accept challenges, the better you will get at working through them and the easier it will become to handle them in the future. Mastering challenges improves your confidence and potentially your success level. They give you strength along the way, allowing you to become better equipped for future opportunities.

Therefore, stop making excuses and start making improvements!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Negativity Breeds Negativity

Negative Blackholes

The more time that you spend around negative people, the more you will become like them; negativity is contagious. There is something magnetic about negativity; it spreads like wildfire through everybody that it touches. And the more that you expose yourself to it, the more that you inhale its toxic fumes!

People do not seem to realize that once they enter a state of mind that circles around negative topics, complaints and bleak outlooks, they end up attracting more negativity into their lives. At the unconscious level, negativity attracts more negativity because you become comfortable in this state of mind.

Negative comfort” is when you start feeling remorse for yourself because of the situation that you are dealing with. By feeling bad for yourself, it paradoxically becomes soothing and comforting, but in a negative manner. You start to believe that you are the victim fighting against the “bad guy” or “the system.”

To make things even worse, when other people start feeling bad for you and join in on your negativity, the energy exponentiates itself; groupthink can have a very powerful effect! Now you are receiving more “negative comfort” from others around you, which feeds more into this negative cycle that has entered your life!

The solution is to not partake in negativity and back away as soon as you sense it. Do not let it creep into your life; it is very easy to fall trap to negative forces. Whenever you are feeling negative, allow the emotions to marinate for a few hours at most, and then transition into a positive state of mind. Brush it off and move forward by staying positive!

In addition, do not partake in the group negativity that may surround you at certain times in life. If you have no choice and you have to be surrounded by negative people (i.e, your co-workers) then let them be negative, but do not add gasoline to the fire. Show them the opposite: that you portray positivity and high spirits!

Be a leader by demonstrating high moral grounds and a positive attitude!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Mute Your Ego

Keep Yourself In Check

The ego is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. Freud postulated that every person has an ego, ID and superego. The ID is the “animal in us”; it represents the part of us that seeks pleasure. The superego is the “teacher in us”; it represents the part of us that seeks a high moral ground and values social standards.

The ego balances the ID and superego. But just because it balances the two does not mean that we always benefit from it. As you can see for yourself, a lot of people walk around with a bolstering ego which makes them unlikeable, slimy, over-competitive, miserable and ugly on the inside; they may even be blinded by their own ego.

Think of the ego as the mask we put on for society; but we also internalize that mask which affects our decision-making and course in life, sometimes for the worse.

Learn to mute your ego; this can be accomplished through mindfulness. Sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes and let any thought flow into your mind; your job is to be nonjudgemental, no matter how emotional the thoughts can be.

Be present in the moment and allow your ego to dissolve into thin air; it takes patience and much practice, but you will start to notice a sense of relief with time.

It is probably almost impossible to get rid of your ego completely, but that is not the goal; we still need it to help us balance our ID and superego. But too much ego is detrimental; we need to keep our ego in check, and mindfulness is a nice and effective tool to do that.

Another way to control your ego is to be humble with yourself; lower your importance and shine with humility.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

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