Domestic Violence While High On Crack

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The Crack Shack

The impact of drugs on the human mind is so powerful, that an addict will often remain in an abusive relationship despite the adverse consequences. It’s very sad to hear about such stories, but they are quite common. Imagine a female crack addict who presents to the emergency room because her husband beat her with a broom. Domestic violence while high on crack is not a joke.

Many women who remain in abusive relationships continue to use drugs and return to their husbands despite being severely beaten. Usually their partners abuse drugs as well. In this case, crack is cheap, alters the mind and gives users more energy and confidence. When a crack husband beats on a crack wife, this is to show a force of authority.

Both of their self-esteems are already low from poverty, disease and addiction. For the husband, by demonstrating a dominating role, he starts to feel a little better about himself. The wife on the other hand has no place to go, so she comes back crawling to the husband, who is situated in the crack shack higher than a kite.

When the wife comes back, the husband looks at her like a cockroach invading his territory. But rather than stomping on it, he accepts her back for company and pleasure. But as soon as his mood goes berserk again, he reverts back to stroking his ego by beating her. This pattern can literally happen dozens of times with no end in sight.

The sad part of this situation is the wife who shows up to the psychiatric emergency room depressed and suicidal; even psychotic at times from her excessive drug use. What usually happens is that she’ll get admitted, become consistently medicated for a week or two at most and then discharged back into the community. She may be referred to a rehab but she probably won’t follow up.

Guess where she’ll end up? That’s how powerful drug addiction is. The crack shack stays open 24/7.

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National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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Upholding Respect For Women

Domestic violence affects both men and women; it sees no boundaries. But as you can imagine, it affects more women however. The act of abusing anyone, but in particular your partner, is outright immoral and degrading of character. This month, we intend to unite and stand against domestic violence in all parts of the world.

Domestic violence roots itself from psychological conflicts: a sense of control, narcissism, lack of empathy, insecurity, etc. Many men who abuse women feel entitled and take out their anger onto them; they view women as the weaker object who they can displace their frustrations upon.

Many battered women remain with their aggressive boyfriends or husbands out of fear of speaking out. They believe that if they do, their partners will batter them even harder. Some women believe that by “obeying” their partners, their brutality will lessen. This usually is never the case.

Domestic violence awareness month is not an outlet to put down men and promote a feministic movement. Men are not better than women and vice verse. This movement should be about uniting women to stand against men who psychologically and physically abuse them.

Keep in mind that men who abuse women are suffering from a character pathology (personality disorders) or a mental illness. They should not be looked down upon as savages who should be shot dead. All humans were created equal but mental illness does not equally affect all humans!

Therefore, domestic violence awareness month should also keep in mind the role that mental illness and character pathology have to play in human relations. Keep in mind as well, that many women who are victims are also dependent on their partners; they cannot or at least refuse to survive by themselves.

Domestic violence and mental illness have no boundaries. We are all victims to some extent. Our role should be to unite and to stand up for each other!

Together we can. Together we will. Together we are DSM!

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