Be Strong and Courageous

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Courage: The Road Less Taken

Our automatic response is often, “no, I don’t want to, why should I do that” whenever we’re presented with a new situation, idea or encounter. Why do we shy away from being strong and courageous? This is because we’re comfortable in our bubble; the space where no one can bother us and where we feel in total control. Whenever new ideas pop up, they threaten our bubble by risking inducing uncomfortable feelings, emotions and a general discomfort; we often don’t want to put effort into a situation or person that is not already in our existing bubble.

We all do what I mentioned above, but the question is how do we prevent that? It’s simple on paper but harder in reality: you say no to your bubble and take the opportunity to step out of it. You just have to do it by just saying yes when the opportunity arises. You will feel discomfort and annoyance but the key is to say yes without putting much thought into it. The more you dwell on whether you should do something or not, the higher your chances that your mind will convince you not to do it; your mind loves the bubble.

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Strong and Courageous: Conclusion

So in other words, sometimes you have to pop the bubble and break yourself free. Relying on others can be hit or miss, but relying on yourself is success if you’re willing to try it. But courage is required from you. Courage is the road less taken because people don’t enjoy taking chances and risks in life. The most successful people are those who take risks. Risks provide you with opportunities you didn’t even know existed; they reward you for being a brave human being who is willing to explore a brave new world. In the end, try being strong and courageous; you’ll feel better doing it.

What is your experience with courage and stepping outside of your comfort zone?

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Lost Opportunities

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Your Daily Mental Battles

One of the worst feelings in life is when you have been presented with an opportunity and you failed to capitalize on it. The pain that follows is like an emotional bee sting, except one-hundred times more painful. It tends to linger for hours on end, sometimes even into the next day. Nobody enjoys lost opportunities, but is there anything that we can do to avoid the pain that is associated with them?

It depends on what you consider a lost opportunity. For every person, an opportunity may be interpreted differently. But it really does not matter if somebody else does not understand your lost opportunity, because to you it feels very real. Your job is not to convince someone else about your lost opportunity; it’s to find a way to either avoid the pain or to deal with it in a healthier way.

When we miss out on an opportunity, we often feel guilty, weak, worthless, annoyed, hopeless, desperate, angry and sad. Sometimes the emotions may become unbearable, killing all of our motivation and ruining our day as a result; this is the worst case scenario. When you allow this to happen, you are only worsening your mental health by unnecessarily stressing yourself out.

The reality is that there is no way to prevent lost opportunities. You can always tell yourself, “I’ll do this next time and it won’t happen again! I’ll actually act on it!” This kind of positive thinking may be helpful, but realistically speaking, it won’t be applicable on every occasion. There is no way to control how you will think and feel when your next opportunity will present itself.

Remaining optimistic is definitely the way to go, but just know that on any given day you may not be on top of your game, and that is when an opportunity might present itself. What will happen is that you will once again miss it, resulting in your unhappiness. Therefore, prevention of missed opportunities is not the solution.

The solution is to simply not care that much when you do miss out on an opportunity. Yes, the experiences will hurt and you will feel some kind of negative emotions within yourself. But the key is to handle them in a mentally healthy way, and allow them to pass swiftly without any lingering.

Don’t bury your emotions because they will not go away in the long run; they will resurface again in the near future. Burying your emotions is only delaying your processing of them. You have to find a way to train your mind to not be as negatively affected by missed opportunities. Rewire your mind along the lines of, “Oh well, it wasn’t meant to be even though I really wanted it to be. Next time I guess. I’m going to enjoy the rest of my day now!”

Don’t waste unnecessary energy beating yourself up because you didn’t capitalize on an opportunity. Just remember that things always happen the way their meant to happen, even if you feel otherwise! Move on and remain optimistic that you will capitalize on the next one!

And don’t think so much about it. Just go with the flow.

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