The Stressful Nature Of Life

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Remaining Cool, Calm And Collected

One of the most annoying things about life is the stressful nature that comes with it. It seems that no matter how well you are doing, life still finds a way to annoy you and provide you with stress. But is it life that is doing that to you or are you doing it to yourself? It’s a complex question because I don’t believe that all fingers can be pointed to only one source. Sometimes you are to blame, while at other times life just gets in the way.

You don’t always have control over your environment. You should always strive to do your best, but unfortunately, life throws at you obstacles which you have no way of avoiding, besides giving up. We all know that giving up should never be an option because to do so is like accepting a negative fate because of your lack of effort and belief. As a matter of fact, life often throws at you difficult situations so that it can shape your character and help you become a stronger person.

If it weren’t for life’s obstacles, we wouldn’t be growing as human beings. There is no such thing as a perfect life without obstacles and if there is, it’s probably experienced by people in the middle of nowhere who lack motivation and are satisfied with sitting in a cabin. If that’s what you want, then so be it; we are not here to judge. But is that what you want? In order to gain more out of life, you need to face life’s challenges and obstacles without running away.

Sure, it’s annoying and sometimes you just want to pull your hair out or drink five shots of bourbon to calm your nerves, but none of that is necessary. The key is to remain cool, calm and collected and know that this phase will eventually pass. What you have to do is to learn how to handle difficult scenarios by living in the moment and not worrying about the near future.

When we worry about the near future, our mind comes up with many “what ifs” which only stress us even more and slows down our course of action. A good way to help you remain calm in the moment is by practicing mindfulness or the act of being nonjudgmental to your thoughts; you have to allow the thoughts and emotions to float away like clouds. When you practice mindfulness on a daily basis, you’ll start to notice that events that previously annoyed you will no longer have as strong of an impact.

Mindfulness is like a bulletproof vest for your mind. The key is to actually wear the vest and not just utilize it once; in other words, mindfulness requires much practice but it pays off in the end.

How do you handle life’s stressful situations?

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Life Is Too Short To Be Bitter

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Life’s Obstacles

No matter how many times we hear the saying “you cannot always get what you want,” we still find the energy to become bitter and negative. What do we stand to gain from hating the world when something doesn’t go our way? Instead, we put ourselves in a position of losing more than we anticipated.

As soon as you change your mentality and accept that fact that anything can go wrong in life, you will become more prepared and equipped to deal with life’s obstacles. There’s a difference between becoming angry and recovering in a healthy manner than becoming angry and remaining bitter for days on end.

One reason many people become bitter is because their expectations are way too high. When they consistently do not see the results which they desire, they become bitter and pessimistic. They start to adopt a “what the hell” mentality and believe that life is to blame.

In reality, it doesn’t matter so much who is at fault; it’s how you deal with the event. If you happen to be at fault, then learn from your mistakes and move on. By adopting a mature and responsible mentality where you acknowledge your mistakes and attempt to learn from them, you will set yourself up for better outcomes in the near future.

But people who fail to learn from their mistakes usually repeat them again at some point in the future. And this is what promotes this vicious cycle of bitterness and possible burnout. They’ve exhausted their optimism and positive energy and end up settling for less. It’s very sad when one doesn’t reach their full potential because of dysregulated emotions.

Be smart. Stay positive. Talk to someone about it.

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