Importance Of Avoiding Arguments

Man holding white telephone at work screaming and arguing

Avoiding Arguments At Work

An argument is an exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one. Unless done on a friendly and playful basis, they are an unnecessary waste of time and energy. Arguments increase your stress level, affect your reputation and make you look unprofessional.

The workplace is an especially important location to avoid getting into arguments. Negative attention spreads very easily; oftentimes, much easier than positive attention. Your coworkers may become influenced in a negative way by your involvement in an argument, depending on your words and actions.

Arguments also make you look weak: they promote awkwardness, insecurity, unreliability, defensiveness and uncertainty. Negativity often sticks in peoples’ minds much longer than positivity. This is because positivity is temporary while negativity is much more impactful on one’s emotions.

The solution is to stand your ground by stating what you believe without actually getting into an argument. If you find yourself dealing with someone who is heading towards an argument, back down before it escalates. Backing down does not make you look weak; it actually demonstrates maturity, confidence and leadership.

Be a role model and avoid arguments. People are always searching for someone to look up to! If you become involved in arguments, it will be very difficult for people to view you as someone they want to imitate; being argumentative is not an attractive characteristic. It is important to maintain a consistent reputation backed by high quality traits!

Arguments lead to losses. Reasonable and professional disagreements lead to gains!

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Negativity Breeds Negativity

Man holding his hands on his face demonstrating negativity

Negative Blackholes

The more time that you spend around negative people, the more you will become like them; negativity is contagious. There is something magnetic about negativity; it spreads like wildfire through everybody that it touches. And the more that you expose yourself to it, the more that you inhale its toxic fumes!

People do not seem to realize that once they enter a state of mind that circles around negative topics, complaints and bleak outlooks, they end up attracting more negativity into their lives. At the unconscious level, negativity attracts more negativity because you become comfortable in this state of mind.

Negative comfort” is when you start feeling remorse for yourself because of the situation that you are dealing with. By feeling bad for yourself, it paradoxically becomes soothing and comforting, but in a negative manner. You start to believe that you are the victim fighting against the “bad guy” or “the system.”

To make things even worse, when other people start feeling bad for you and join in on your negativity, the energy exponentiates itself; groupthink can have a very powerful effect! Now you are receiving more “negative comfort” from others around you, which feeds more into this negative cycle that has entered your life!

The solution is to not partake in negativity and back away as soon as you sense it. Do not let it creep into your life; it is very easy to fall trap to negative forces. Whenever you are feeling negative, allow the emotions to marinate for a few hours at most, and then transition into a positive state of mind. Brush it off and move forward by staying positive!

In addition, do not partake in the group negativity that may surround you at certain times in life. If you have no choice and you have to be surrounded by negative people (i.e, your co-workers) then let them be negative, but do not add gasoline to the fire. Show them the opposite: that you portray positivity and high spirits!

Be a leader by demonstrating high moral grounds and a positive attitude!

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