The “Secret” To Weight Loss May Lie in the Mind – And No, It’s Not About ‘Willpower’ — Eris Goes To

Hey guys! Today’s post is going to be a long one – it’s about my weight loss progress and how dealing with my personal issues helped with it. My weight has always been a touchy subject for me, but I feel that I’m finally ready to share my thoughts on it, how I’m trying to overcome […]

The “Secret” To Weight Loss May Lie in the Mind – And No, It’s Not About ‘Willpower’ — Eris Goes To

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I Am Physically Fit

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Positive Affirmation: Staying In Shape

“I am physically fit because I put in the effort every day to maintain a great body by exercising and eating healthy. I enjoy to exercise because it makes me feel good about myself, including my mental health. Exercising makes me look more physically attractive and people notice how fit I am. I feel great waking up in the morning knowing that I exercised yesterday and that I have more motivation to exercise today. The more that I exercise, the more motivation and desire I harness to keep pushing forward. I am physically fit!”

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I Am A Great Athlete

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Positive Affirmation: Improving Your Athleticism

“I am a great athlete because I have what it takes to work out longer, run father, lift more and compete at a higher level than ever before. Even if I’m not naturally athletic, I am improving every day because I have the will, drive, motivation, strength and determination to keep improving my athleticism. I no longer give up when I lack strength and I no longer give in to others when they put me down. I am capable of doing extraordinary things and one of these things is being a great athlete. I am athletic!”

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Getting Your Workout On

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Working Out Even When You Have No Drive

One of the most challenging tasks throughout the day is working out when you have no motivation. Growing up playing competitive tennis in the USTA juniors, I felt the experience of having days when I lacked drive and motivation to practice or even compete in tournaments. The worst part about it was traveling to other states for tennis tournaments and attempt to compete in 90 degree weather with no passion for the sport. When you have no motivation to exercise or compete, it often feels like you just want to quit.

But quitting gets you no where exciting when it comes to that realm. The more you allow your lack of motivation to prevail, the harder it’s going to become to get back into a solid routine. That’s because it’s not easy to work out, exercise or competitively play a sport. You have to power through even on the days when you don’t feel like doing it. That’s because if you can get through those days successfully, you often end up with a renewal of energy and interest for your next session.

What you don’t want to do is power through on those days and not enjoy it one bit. This is because it will lead you to burning out rather quickly. I felt that with tennis when I was 14. I was an extremely hard-working tennis player who reached a national boy’s 14 USTA ranking of 69th in the country. But as I entered high school and realized that I didn’t have many friends and that my entire life revolved around going to school and getting yelled at by tennis sergeants at the local tennis club, I lost passion for the sport.

It’s not that I ever disliked tennis to begin with; otherwise, I wouldn’t have played for that long (by the way, I still play tennis today). But as with anything in life, you need a balance of different activities. Even if you are focused on working out, exercising or playing a sport, make time and room for other activities as well, such as socializing, spending time with family and friends and even kicking back and watching a documentary or two. You are not a robot to be doing only one repetitive task continuously.

So whenever you feel burned out or have no drive to work out, remember to push yourself to still get some in that day, but mix it up with other activities as well. On the other hand, you don’t want to just stop working out because then your lack of motivation will take over and you’ll soon lose interest altogether. It’s normal to lose interest in exercising here and there, but don’t lose it completely to the point of quitting.

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I Am A Fitness Beast

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Positive Affirmation: The Drive To Exercise

“I am a great athlete who has the strength, stamina, drive, willpower, energy, ambition, desire and motivation to consistently exercise on a daily basis in order to keep my physical and mental health topnotch!”

Improving For Life

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It Never Stops Ending

As a human being, there is never a limit to how much you can improve. Even when you think that your physical and mental health are top notch, there is more that you can still do. Sometimes when we have everything going for us, we start to become complacent, allowing room for error to creep into our lives. Life is a journey and it never stops short of improvement.

Even spiritually, you can always improve and better yourself. There really is nothing that you can argue against the process of improvement. This is because improvement is very subjective; what may be considered “awesome” for one individual is considered “subpar” for another. The process of improvement is different for everyone, but it should be universally accepted that there is always room for improvement no matter how great everything may be.

If you lack the motivation to improve, then that’s a big problem on your hands. You may not see it now, but over time you will realize how your lack of motivation in the past contributed to your current problems. One of the greatest concepts to live by is something called delayed gratification. This is based on the idea of working hard today while living for tomorrow; delaying gratification in the present moment so that you can enjoy prosperity in the future.

Not many people have the will or stamina to apply delayed gratification in their lives. This requires sustained discipline to live by this concept day in and day out, especially when encountering many setbacks and failures. Many people fall short of reaching their full potential because of the lack of sustained discipline; they allow life’s adversities to prevent them from progressing in the right direction.

But if motivation has never been an issue for you, then remember to never stop improving. There is always something that you can find in your life that needs to be worked on; you just have to be honest with yourself and find the energy and time to dedicate to the task at hand. This is especially important when it comes to your physical and mental health; no one is going to help you be healthy without you first helping yourself.

Most people think of physical health but forget the importance of improving their mental health. As the body gets rusty year after year, you think the brain remains invincible? You have to make adjustments to your thoughts, perception and perhaps even interests in order to keep your mind in alignment with your present reality. One big traumatic experience may be the trigger to your slip and fall, turning you into a raging alcoholic and sacrificing your mental health in the process.

Always aim for improvement even when you think that you have accomplished everything; it never stops ending.

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Don’t Give Up On Your Mental Illness

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Tomorrow Is Another Day

There are many days when you just feel like giving up. No matter what you do, your mental illness is slowly taking over, controlling you as it pleases, when it pleases. Sometimes it feels like you’re just a bystander observing another entity running your life; you’re just on the sidelines in pain and discomfort. You keep trying to find ways to control it but whatever you do, it strikes back harder. Sometimes the most entertaining thought is giving up on everything.

But you can’t give up because that would mean that your mental illness has defeated you. No one deserves to lose a war against a mental illness; you may lose many battles but don’t lose a war! Losing a war is equivalent to losing your life, but losing many battles is like encountering many potholes on your journey throughout life. Potholes are okay as long as you keep pushing forward.

Even if you are medicated and still find it challenging to control your mental illness, you do not give up! There are always therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists and even family and friends who you can continue talking to. Giving up should never be the go-to strategy because with enough persistence, you will end up taking back control over your mind and defeating your mental illness.

But what do I mean by defeating? I’m not necessarily implying that you will never experience symptoms again; depending on your illness, that may prove to be a difficult task. But controlling your symptoms and learning to live with them when they do appear is what I mean by defeating your mental illness; reaching the point where you are no longer as bothered by them and you can live your life more comfortably.

You have to be realistic at times; symptoms do have a chance of recurring in the near future. For some, they enter remission and never experience symptoms ever again, but for many, symptoms do come back even if residual in nature. But with persistence, dedication and ongoing therapy, you can reach the point where you won’t be as affected and you can continue to carry on a comfortable life.

You just have to really want it and believe that you can reach that point in your life. Doubting yourself is definitely not the solution and living hopelessly is even worse. It can be a difficult process at times, but once you reach that stage where you feel like you have taken back control over your mind, you will feel amazing and discover a new type of confidence; one that will make you feel empowered and stronger than your mental illness.

Always remember that your mental illness does not define you. You define yourself.

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Keep Pushing Forward

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Questioning The Things That You Do

I think no matter how good or bad you have it, it’s human nature to question your thoughts, decisions and behavior. It doesn’t matter how much or little money you have; materialism is irrelevant when it comes to analyzing your life. We often question our lives because we are curious beings by nature. As long as we don’t know how we got here, we are going to always continue questioning. We question because we don’t understand the concept of life; if we did, then we wouldn’t be questioning in the first place.

How many of you question your ways of being on a daily basis? Even if you’re having the best day ever, you somehow still experience a moment where you wonder why you do the things that you do. It seems that no matter how much you improve in life, you still find something to complain about or question. It’s as if we’re not capable of experiencing peace and acceptance. We’re always searching for more.

But do not fall in the trap of being left behind. There’s a difference between questioning your ways and pushing forward versus questioning your ways and falling behind. Believe it or not, many fall behind because stress overloads them, paralyzing them in the process. They either give up on their goals and dreams and rewind back down to an easier path based on comfort, or they turn to substances to assist them with their daily struggles; some even develop a mental illness.

No matter how many lemons life throws at you, you cannot slip and fall. You have to always keep pushing forward, even if you’re tired, mentally exhausted and emotionally drained. You have to find a way to replenish your body and mind with positive energy and move forward. It’s always doable because you have gotten this far in life and you can just as easily continue marching forward. But you must not give up.

Giving up is quite tempting when you are mentally exhausted; who doesn’t want to accept an easier path in life? But if you want to achieve success, abundance and financial freedom, you must keep pushing forward. The easier path in life may bring you happiness but it will not necessarily bring you success. The harder path in life may bring you happiness but it might also not necessarily bring you success.

You just have to know what you want out of life and strive for one that will bring you happiness in the end. The point is to not allow the difficulties of life to prevent you from reaching your full potential. When potential is wasted, it increases your chances of future regret and living a life full of regret will not contribute to your happiness; it can even lead you into depression.

Always be on guard when it comes to your mental status, but learn to also take it easy in life and enjoy the journey no matter how rocky your path may become at times. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.

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Your Dreams Rock

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You Are A Rock Star

With more time on our hands because of the virus that has decided to take a world tour, we have no excuse but to dream bigger and work towards making our dreams a reality. Utilize this free time as an opportunity to grow and plan out your future; no time should be wasted. Life always throws you opportunities for improvement, even if it’s during deadly times.

In other words, do not sit idly at home waiting for evilness to pass away; it never will. The coronavirus is just a small piece of the arsenal when it comes to Satan and his army; unfortunately he took out one of his more powerful weapons this time. But casually sitting around complaining about how your world has changed for the worse is not doing you any good.

Did you know that you are a rock star? We all are. But we have to start thinking like a rock star, believing like a rock star, dreaming like a rock star and eventually living like a rock star. No worldly event, no matter how negative and evil it may be, should be holding you back from progressing in life.

And it all starts with your dreams! Are you waking up every day believing that this will be the day that you will accomplish X, Y, and Z? If you are not, then you aren’t thinking like a rock star. You must feed your drive and motivation the minute that you wake up, no matter how pissed off you are and no matter how unfortunate your current circumstances are.

You can’t allow your environment to make you its slave; you will not allow that to happen! You have to learn to put yourself in a position of power where you are the one controlling your environment and this does not mean controlling others; you never want to control others. You want to be a leader, not a boss. Bosses tell people what to do; leaders show people how to do it!

So start dreaming and living like a rock star and watch your success and happiness skyrocket. And when you start demonstrating leadership qualities, people will start to respect and follow you to learn more from your awesome ways! This is the rock star mentality that you need to start adopting today.

Together we can and we will!

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5 Easy Steps to Develop a Success Mindset — Human Performance Psychology

Success is an individual thing. Each person has their own definition of what it means to be successful. However, while the end point varies, most people want to have some version of success that allows them to feel whole, at ease in their own skin and happy with their situation in life, whatever it […]

5 Easy Steps to Develop a Success Mindset — Human Performance Psychology