Nobody Cares Work Harder

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Whenever you find yourself complaining about the difficulty of your job, remind yourself, “nobody cares, work harder.” After training your mind to work hard over many years, you start deriving pleasure from the process. Anyone would prefer to relax and not have to work for a living if they had the opportunity, but even then, happiness is not guaranteed. Hard work has the potential to bring you satisfaction which often translates into happiness. But you must balance your hard work with free time and leisure activities. If it’s all work but no play, then happiness will fly away.

Whenever you are experiencing those long grueling days at work, remind yourself that you are not the only one going through them. Happiness will be your reward before your turn off the lights at night. But you must enjoy what you do. This cannot be reiterated enough. If you went to college and are now working a job you dislike, somewhere along the way you made a mistake. Rather than continuing to devote the rest of your life to something you don’t enjoy, make a change today. You control your present which influences your future.

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Nobody Cares Work Harder and Stop Complaining

A common mistake many people make is complaining a lot about their job. The complaints are endless and often quickly pile up. One of them is that their job or schoolwork is too difficult and demanding. Nobody cares work harder! People don’t care about the process; they are only impressed with the results. In reality, the results don’t matter that much. What matters is the hard work you clocked in for many years to achieve those results. Why don’t people care about your hard work? Because it’s not attractive. They don’t want to hear about your complaints. People want to see the fancy cars and flashy clothes that your hard work earned you.

Besides luck which cannot be depended on, the solution to getting impressive results in life is working harder. No one can put in the work for you; only you can do it. So stop complaining and work harder. Don’t forget to also keep your dreams alive. Dreams provide the sugar that keeps your work effort bitterly sweet. Without some occasional sugar, your hard work becomes dull. Don’t make the mistake of working hard without dreaming. I like to remind myself of this formula:

60% hard work + 40% dreams = 100% success

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Peaceful Life

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A peaceful life matters a lot. Once you learn how to carry yourself with peace and comfort, life becomes much more enjoyable. Practicing living in peace and comfort is not an easy task for many people. Life circumstances, negative emotions and even mental illness often get in the way. But once you learn how to harness peace, your days will progress more smoothly, helping you achieve a happy state of mind. But when you lose touch with your inner peace is when your days become inflicted with pain and misery.

So how do you go about instilling a peaceful state of mind? The key is to slow things down by absorbing every moment of your waking state. A lot of us feel rushed and tempted to power through work and activities, forgetting how to relax. Powering through the day gives us a sense of accomplishment, but at the expensive of our mental health. Instead, you want to slow down your perception of doing things while preserving the quality of your work. This can be done by practicing mindfulness and learning how to enjoy being present in the moment.

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A Peaceful Life for Your Mental Health

Imagine all the people living life in peace! No more temptations to do each other wrong. Life would involve unconditional love and envy would cease to exist. Rather than feeling rushed, your perception of time would disappear; life would just be. You would no longer feel rushed to get done with work and get back home. Instead, you would cherish every moment of life while bathing in a peaceful state of mind. People would no longer make fun of each other because peace would overcome insecurity.

Now the above describes a fictional scenario but the point is that peace can bring you comfort. But the question is how do we obtain peace? With today’s hectic society, it sometimes feels impossible to find peace. As I mentioned above and in many previous articles, practicing mindfulness is key. The difficult part is not the actual mindfulness; it’s easy to sit and just think. I personally find that the most challenging part is getting myself to sit down and actually doing it. Right when the thought of mindfulness comes to my mind, I think, “but it’s so boring!”

If you can overcome that initial resistance that prevents you from doing mindfulness, then you’re golden. Once you sit down and get in that moment of mindfulness, the act is not difficult. You tap into a peaceful state of mind and become one with the present moment. You learn how to disconnect from your environment and focus on your inner thoughts and emotions. Once you practice mindfulness enough, you’ll start to notice that things don’t bother you as much. You’ll realize that your resilience and tolerance to stress and adverse outcomes improve. And once you overcome stress, your mental health also improves.

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Keep Chasing Your Dreams

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It’s Not All About Hard Work

Everything starts with your dreams and imagination. What’s the point of working hard if you don’t know why you’re working hard in the first place? What’s the point of endless hours of devotion if all that hard work is not aligned with your dreams? Do you even have dreams? If you’re stuck and don’t know where you’re headed, then start with your dreams. Keep chasing your dreams and you won’t regret the process looking back in the future.

Whenever you become down in life and hopeless that your future is over, remind yourself of your dreams. Allow your dreams to fill you with power, motivation and inspiration. Every time you feel derailed off your path to success, use your dreams to get you back on track. You’ll encounter many moments of discouragement, disappointments and even failures, but it’s how you get yourself back up that matters the most. Use your dreams as an anchor to prevent you from falling too many times; to prevent you from drowning.

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Keep Chasing Your Dreams – There is No Other Option

A life without dreams is a life without substance. You can have the best job in the world, but if the process and experience are meaningless, then you’re likely lacking dreams. Keep in mind that a great job does not equate to a great dream. You can use your family, intelligence, education and connections to land a great job. But to land a great dream, you need to use your imagination. No human can provide you with that if you refuse to utilize that part of the brain to begin with.

Ok so you have a dream. Now what? The next important thing to remember is to never allow failures to throw you off course. We’ve all experienced failures and had to get back up and restart the process. The restarting part is the most difficult, especially after you put so much work in and still failed. I mean, why keep trying right? Wrong. If you stop trying, then that’s when your dreams start wilting. You have to keep watering your dreams and get ’em back up strong. Once you recover from the failure at hand, about 2-3 weeks later, you feel back on a roll and continue the journey to success.

The formula is simple: 40% hard work + 60% dreams = success

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The Psychology of Money

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Money in the Bank

Our everyday interactions are intertwined with the psychology of money. From the day we discover money as children, we immediately appreciate the power that lies at our fingertips. Whether it’s that yummy cheeseburger at McDonald’s or those candy bars at the local convenience store, we realize that money can bring us immediate happiness; the food or candy provides us with a sugar high and a dopamine rush. Our brain then associates the currency with the awesome feeling, and so we seek to ask our parents for more of it, work for an allowance or get a job as a teenager.

Something changes in adults however; some become very motivated and learn to make handsome amounts of money, while others are lazy and unmotivated and settle for much less than their potential would have afforded them. Why does this happen if most of us appreciated money from a young age? It doesn’t matter where you grew up; even those in urban and poor neighborhoods appreciate the value of a dollar when they see their favorite athletes on television or even drug dealers on their block rolling on 24 inch rims.

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Psychology of Money: Accumulation

Is there a psychology behind accruing larges amounts of money? I believe that there certainly is and that it has a lot to do with drive, belief, vision, motivation and dreams; don’t forget luck. Keep in mind that most of those factors have to be present for one to be successful at obtaining large amounts of money. You can’t just have dreams but not work towards them. You can’t just work hard but not have dreams; otherwise, you’re adopting the role of a robot and you will eventually burn out.

Belief is a very important factor behind the psychology of money; definitely a top 3 factor. Belief is the gasoline in the engine; it keeps your ride moving forward. The engine is your drive, the motivation is the rider and the dream is your destination; don’t forget luck because that’s responsible for a smooth ride. Now do you see how all of these factors are connected?

What is your experience with making large amounts of money?

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Exercise and Fitness

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Exercise and Happiness

Exercise and fitness is like a tug of war for your mind. For instance, part of you envisions yourself getting stronger and fitter, while the other half prefers to sit on the couch and watch Netflix or play video games. Negative thoughts about exercising include:

  • Why put more effort into my life?
  • I’m fine doing less work
  • Working out requires effort; I’m already tired from my job
  • I won’t lose weight
  • I’ll probably get tired within five minutes of exercising
  • I don’t see any results
  • It’s too much work

Right off the bat, your mind comes up with negative thoughts and reasons as to why you shouldn’t exercise. This is because it’s easier for your mind and body to relax and not put in any effort. Why? Because as humans, we prefer the easier route in life that maximizes results with little effort. The problem is that you can’t obtain the benefits of exercise and fitness if you don’t make an effort. Some people try to get away by exercising here and there; inconsistency leads to inconsistent results. Eliminate your negative schema about exercise with the following positive thoughts listed below.

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Positive Thoughts that you need to start Implementing Regarding Exercising:

  • Hard work pays off
  • My mental health will improve
  • My body-mind connection will improve
  • I will feel more confident and better about myself
  • My discipline will improve
  • People will compliment me on my improved physique
  • I will have more confidence in my ability to work hard

Exercise and Fitness: Just do it

You see, as with anything that requires hard work in life, negative thoughts often get in the way of succeeding. Negative thoughts have to be intentionally replaced with positive ones until your attitude shifts and the process of exercising becomes easier. It’s definitely possible. You just have to be willing to make a change and then put yourself out there to accomplish it. Ask yourself, what is it that I’m trying to accomplish? Are you looking for an improved physique? To lose weight? Or do you simply want to feel better about yourself? Also keep in mind that exercising is also great for your mental health and you’ll feel much better after a workout. The question is, are you willing to start?

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Mental Health Analysis

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Self-Analysis is Key to Success

Everyone is talented at something they find more interest in. Some are great with visualization and goals, speech and entertainment, and others enjoy academia. One key to success that they all have in common is self-analysis; or at least they should have it in common! Without mental health analysis, you risk becoming too dependent on the environment to understand yourself and where your fingerprints tend to fall in society.

But it requires courage; lots of it. Imagine the brain as a vault and your unconscious mind is locked in the deepest layers; your goal is to get down there! Do you even know how to? I guess we should first ask, do you even care? If so, prepare for a life journey with many twists and turns; many chills in the mirror.

There’s no rush with self-analysis, as long as you remain honest with yourself and don’t cheat out. You already have all the tools you need:; intuition, dreams and faith. If you can consistently utilize all three elements as much as possible, clarity of your life will become more apparent.

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Mental Health Analysis: Clarity

I guess many of us lack clarity in life. Clarity is not correlated with success, but a lack of it can possibly contribute to a lack thereof. When I refer to this, imagine as if your invisible being is wearing a pair of eyeglasses, the problem being that they’re blurry most of the time; can you really see what lies ahead weeks, months and years into the future?

Whether you’re suffering from an infection, virus or self-analytical pain, chills in the mirror are the common denominator. It’s a long process that is very-well worth it in the long-run and can bring you many benefits, a peaceful state of mind and that much needed, but very-well deserved clarity.

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Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

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We Become Sad Because We Don’t Take Action

We become used to our comfort zone, preventing us from trying new things in life. Whenever this happens, we experience pain, sadness, frustration, annoyance and many more emotions. But to step outside your comfort zone is something else. You are the one in control of your decisions. If you want to do something, then get out there and do it. By holding yourself back, you complicate your life. Just do it.

To Step Outside Your Comfort Zone Requires Courage, Curiosity & Discipline

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To step outside your comfort zone takes courage. It’s not easy to leave a mind state that you’re used to for so many years. The problem with remaining in one mind state for a long period of time is that you get used to it; it no longer is flexible at adopting new ideas or plans of action. Mind states become fortified with time, meaning that it becomes more stable, in some cases unstable, and then become more comfortable to associate yourself with. In other words, you find yourself too comfortable to care about changing your situation.

To step outside your comfort zone requires intellectual curiosity. If you’re the type that becomes easily content with a non-progressive mindset, then you’ll be happy where you are. But sometimes you wont. Some people get really uncomfortable with their mind state but lack the power to change anything about it. So they become stuck. Imagine being stuck in a mind state? It’s like a jail cell of the mind; to some a penitentiary.

Lastly, to step outside your comfort zone requires discipline. Going at once or thrice here and there won’t cut it. You need to make it your new state of mind; the determination to succeed in brain, body and soul. This has to become your new reality. You must know that you want it! Are you ready to take a leap of faith out of your mental bubble and into the unknown? If the answer is yes, then you’ll find yourself chasing your dreams outside your comfort zone in no time. When you can expand your mind in two different horizons, then that’s what’s called multitasking.

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Monday Motivation

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Many of us experience fatigue at the start of the week but feel great on the weekends. In other words, we lack Monday motivation. This mental fatigue is likely related to burnout at work. Counteracting burnout involves instilling a positive mindset every day and making the most of what you have. You’re more likely to experience burnout when you’re not being thankful for what you have. When you focus on the negatives in your life without appreciating the positives, work becomes more mundane, stressful and exhausting. This increases your chances of experiencing fatigue on Monday mornings and an eventual burnout.

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Monday Motivation: Why We Hate The Start of The Week

We hate the start of the week because as human beings we dislike being put to work. We dread routines; waking up, putting on our work clothes and driving or taking public transportation to work. Furthermore, when we arrive at our job we also have to work under the direction of a supervisor or boss. Why do we hate all of this? Because it feels repetitive, day after day and week after week. Repetition does not bring us excitement and it makes us feel like we are stuck in a matrix. The problem is that many remain stuck in this matrix and never learn how to break free.

When you don’t like what you’re doing, this is when your chances of experiencing burnout increase. Burnout is a psychological syndrome caused by chronic interpersonal stressors in the workplace. The symptoms of burnout include an overwhelming exhaustion, feelings of cynicism, detachment from the job, a sense of ineffectiveness and a lack of accomplishment. The obvious risks from experiencing burnout is that you may quit your job, become depressed and start abusing substances. Believe it or not, one can experience burnout rather quickly; it doesn’t always take years to manifest.

The Solution to Mondays

Take one moment at a time and become as mentally present in the moment as you can. You can learn to become better at this by practicing mindfulness. This is a form of meditation that teaches you how to become nonjudgemental to your thoughts. It also helps you become present in the moment. When you get good at this, things don’t bother you as much; it’s as if you’re floating. This can come quite handy at the start of the week when you dread going into work. Rather than starting off the week in a negative mindset, mindfulness can help you start it off in a positive one. When you get good at consistently being positive, your chances of burnout go down. Make mindfulness your Monday motivation.

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Never Stop Believing

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The Power Lies Within You

It’s very easy to allow society to discourage you from your wildest dreams. After all, why would anyone want to see you succeed? Use that as motivation when society laughs at your dreams. You can climb as high as you’d like because this is your life and you are the player; God has given you free will to live as you wish. Don’t allow lavish goals to become impossibilities. Anything is achievable if you can envision it within your eye’s mind. Forget all the details of, “How, when or even why.” Just keep dreaming and believe that life will position all the pieces in their right place. The next thing you’ll know after you open your eyes is your newfound reality based on a once upon a time dream. Never stop believing.

It’s also very easy to get discouraged when you don’t see the results you want. Many people motivate themselves by believing in something new, only to become disappointed when they don’t achieve it. A belief does not always immediately manifest; oftentimes, it takes years for a result to become apparent. People are very easily influenced by their environment. Whenever something bad happens that is not even related to their beliefs, they quickly become discouraged and give up. This is what separates successful people from those who plateau; they never stop believing.

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Don’t Give Up and Never Stop Believing

No one ever said that life is easy. Even for people born into wealth, they struggle with mental health problems due to insecurity of not having achieved their own wealth. You have people who don’t have wealth and struggle, and people with wealth who struggle. Mental health has no boundaries. Wealth is materialism and does not guarantee happiness and satisfaction in life. What guarantees happiness and satisfaction is the way you view the world and the thoughts that you experience. If you constantly experience self-defeating thoughts, your beliefs will crumble and your motivation to achieve your goals will fumble.

You have to understand that your environment will constantly challenge you; there’s no avoiding it. There are simply too many factors in our environment that easily influence us, such as people, the media, employment, education, etc. The only way to minimize environmental influences is by isolating yourself remotely in the countryside. But what will isolation accomplish you? Isolation is just a form of running away and hiding from your own expectations. People who isolate are either depressed or scared to work for their goals; they’re afraid of failure. You cannot be afraid of failure. The most successful people in life have admitted that it was through failure that they learned to become successful. Don’t ever give up and never stop believing in yourself.

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I Am Physically Fit

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Positive Affirmation: Staying In Shape

“I am physically fit because I put in the effort every day to maintain a great body by exercising and eating healthy. I enjoy to exercise because it makes me feel good about myself, including my mental health. Exercising makes me look more physically attractive and people notice how fit I am. I feel great waking up in the morning knowing that I exercised yesterday and that I have more motivation to exercise today. The more that I exercise, the more motivation and desire I harness to keep pushing forward. I am physically fit!”

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