Peaceful Life

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A peaceful life matters a lot. Once you learn how to carry yourself with peace and comfort, life becomes much more enjoyable. Practicing living in peace and comfort is not an easy task for many people. Life circumstances, negative emotions and even mental illness often get in the way. But once you learn how to harness peace, your days will progress more smoothly, helping you achieve a happy state of mind. But when you lose touch with your inner peace is when your days become inflicted with pain and misery.

So how do you go about instilling a peaceful state of mind? The key is to slow things down by absorbing every moment of your waking state. A lot of us feel rushed and tempted to power through work and activities, forgetting how to relax. Powering through the day gives us a sense of accomplishment, but at the expensive of our mental health. Instead, you want to slow down your perception of doing things while preserving the quality of your work. This can be done by practicing mindfulness and learning how to enjoy being present in the moment.

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A Peaceful Life for Your Mental Health

Imagine all the people living life in peace! No more temptations to do each other wrong. Life would involve unconditional love and envy would cease to exist. Rather than feeling rushed, your perception of time would disappear; life would just be. You would no longer feel rushed to get done with work and get back home. Instead, you would cherish every moment of life while bathing in a peaceful state of mind. People would no longer make fun of each other because peace would overcome insecurity.

Now the above describes a fictional scenario but the point is that peace can bring you comfort. But the question is how do we obtain peace? With today’s hectic society, it sometimes feels impossible to find peace. As I mentioned above and in many previous articles, practicing mindfulness is key. The difficult part is not the actual mindfulness; it’s easy to sit and just think. I personally find that the most challenging part is getting myself to sit down and actually doing it. Right when the thought of mindfulness comes to my mind, I think, “but it’s so boring!”

If you can overcome that initial resistance that prevents you from doing mindfulness, then you’re golden. Once you sit down and get in that moment of mindfulness, the act is not difficult. You tap into a peaceful state of mind and become one with the present moment. You learn how to disconnect from your environment and focus on your inner thoughts and emotions. Once you practice mindfulness enough, you’ll start to notice that things don’t bother you as much. You’ll realize that your resilience and tolerance to stress and adverse outcomes improve. And once you overcome stress, your mental health also improves.

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Monday Motivation

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Many of us experience fatigue at the start of the week but feel great on the weekends. In other words, we lack Monday motivation. This mental fatigue is likely related to burnout at work. Counteracting burnout involves instilling a positive mindset every day and making the most of what you have. You’re more likely to experience burnout when you’re not being thankful for what you have. When you focus on the negatives in your life without appreciating the positives, work becomes more mundane, stressful and exhausting. This increases your chances of experiencing fatigue on Monday mornings and an eventual burnout.

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Monday Motivation: Why We Hate The Start of The Week

We hate the start of the week because as human beings we dislike being put to work. We dread routines; waking up, putting on our work clothes and driving or taking public transportation to work. Furthermore, when we arrive at our job we also have to work under the direction of a supervisor or boss. Why do we hate all of this? Because it feels repetitive, day after day and week after week. Repetition does not bring us excitement and it makes us feel like we are stuck in a matrix. The problem is that many remain stuck in this matrix and never learn how to break free.

When you don’t like what you’re doing, this is when your chances of experiencing burnout increase. Burnout is a psychological syndrome caused by chronic interpersonal stressors in the workplace. The symptoms of burnout include an overwhelming exhaustion, feelings of cynicism, detachment from the job, a sense of ineffectiveness and a lack of accomplishment. The obvious risks from experiencing burnout is that you may quit your job, become depressed and start abusing substances. Believe it or not, one can experience burnout rather quickly; it doesn’t always take years to manifest.

The Solution to Mondays

Take one moment at a time and become as mentally present in the moment as you can. You can learn to become better at this by practicing mindfulness. This is a form of meditation that teaches you how to become nonjudgemental to your thoughts. It also helps you become present in the moment. When you get good at this, things don’t bother you as much; it’s as if you’re floating. This can come quite handy at the start of the week when you dread going into work. Rather than starting off the week in a negative mindset, mindfulness can help you start it off in a positive one. When you get good at consistently being positive, your chances of burnout go down. Make mindfulness your Monday motivation.

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Group Mindfulness

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The Power Of Unity

Mindfulness is a form of meditation where you become nonjudgemental towards any thought that comes into your mind. It generally involves closing your eyes, focusing on breathing in and out and becoming a bystander towards the thoughts that invade your mind. Group mindfulness involves practicing the above, but with multiple people present at the same time.

Group mindfulness is a little different than mindfulness performed on your own, because practicing on your own requires a greater will and drive to actually sit down and perform the meditation. When in a group setting, there’s a higher tendency that you will perform mindfulness when others around you are doing it.

The power of unity really becomes evident during group mindfulness. When a leader guides the session, the act of hearing each other’s breathing in and out feels refreshing, as if everyone becomes synchronized. Unity is a great feeling, especially if you are battling loneliness or depression.

It’s very relaxing and exciting to partake in group mindfulness, especially when you are with people who you are comfortable with. There is something very calming about being together in a room full of people, practicing an exercise that is meant to calm you in the first place.

The room becomes filled with a feeling of positive energy; you can really feel it in your mind. Your mind becomes very relaxed as if washed over by a warm and gentle ocean wave. It can really set your day up nicely, especially if the group mindfulness is performed in the morning or even around noon.

If you have never performed mindfulness before, then start doing so on your own. After about 5-10 sessions, start seeking others who would be willing to partake in group mindfulness. The power of unity can really be felt during these sessions; there is nothing to lose, but everything to gain in regards to your mental health and overall wellbeing.

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Negative Thoughts

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Hurt By Mindfulness

You’d be lying to yourself if you came out and said that you never experience negative thoughts. We all experience negative thoughts much more frequently than positive ones. That’s part of the reason why the human race is so evil at times: there are many who do not know how to control their negative thoughts and end up acting on them.

Negative thoughts have to be constantly dealt with if you want to maintain a proper state of mind. In a way, you have to learn how to coexist with negative thoughts, but not in a destructive manner that will hurt you or others around you. There are two types of ways in which our mind deals with negative thoughts: repression and suppression.

Repression is the unconscious act of placing your negative thoughts into your unconscious mind and not having access to them. For instance, this can occur when you have experienced a traumatic or uncomfortable event: your mind disposes the negative thoughts from your conscious awareness.

Suppression is when you purposely decide to bury negative thoughts into your unconscious mind. For instance, you just broke up with your boyfriend and want to move on, so you intentionally stop thinking about him in order to make the recovery easier. There is nothing wrong with repression and suppression, as long as they’re not unresolved conflicts.

Unresolved mental conflicts should not be disposed to your unconscious vault without first processing them appropriately. If you do bury them without processing them, they will only come out in the future with a stronger effect, causing you to experience a possible breakdown.

One way of properly processing negative thoughts is through mindfulness: the act of being nonjudgmental to any thought that comes your way. But with practice, you will realize that you are going to become exposed to a lot of baggage stemming from your unconscious mind, especially when you gain more stamina and can perform mindfulness for a longer duration.

You can essentially be “hurt by mindfulness” because of the powerful negative thoughts that are resurfacing into your conscious awareness. But do not allow this process to discourage you from practicing mindfulness. In actuality, the resurfacing of negative thoughts is healthy for you, because it gives you the opportunity to develop resilience towards negativity.

And the more resilient that you become as a person, the stronger your character becomes towards experiencing negativity or any potential mental health problem.

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Mindfulness For Beginners

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Being Mindful Of Mindfulness

Mindfulness is achieving a mental state that focuses one’s awareness on the present moment, while accepting feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations; it is used as a therapeutic technique. Many health benefits can emerge from mindfulness if practiced consistently.

The benefits of mindfulness:

  • Stress reduction (increases positive affect and decreases anxiety and negative affect)
  • Reduced rumination (also improves working memory capacity and attention)
  • Improved focus (helps you suppress distracting information)
  • Less emotional reactivity (helps you disengage from emotionally upsetting situations)
  • Improved cognitive flexibility (helps you recover faster after being negatively provoked as well as improves self-observation)
  • Improved relationships (helps you respond better to relationship stress and communicate your emotions more effectively)
  • Enhanced self-insight, intuition and morality
  • Improved immune function
  • Increased information processing speed
  • Promotes empathy towards others
  • Enhanced self-compassion (being nonjudgmental and non-reacting)
  • Improved counseling skills
  • Improved social connectedness and emotional intelligence
  • Helps decrease symptoms of PTSD

Find a quiet place in a comfortable environment and close your eyes. Allow all thoughts to flow and become nonjudgmental, no matter how negative and uncomfortable the thoughts are. Each time you perform mindfulness, attempt to go for a little longer; this will build your stamina and allow you to reap more benefits in the long run!

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Mute Your Ego

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Keep Yourself In Check

The ego is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. Freud postulated that every person has an ego, ID and superego. The ID is the “animal in us”; it represents the part of us that seeks pleasure. The superego is the “teacher in us”; it represents the part of us that seeks a high moral ground and values social standards.

The ego balances the ID and superego. But just because it balances the two does not mean that we always benefit from it. As you can see for yourself, a lot of people walk around with a bolstering ego which makes them unlikeable, slimy, over-competitive, miserable and ugly on the inside; they may even be blinded by their own ego.

Think of the ego as the mask we put on for society; but we also internalize that mask which affects our decision-making and course in life, sometimes for the worse.

Learn to mute your ego; this can be accomplished through mindfulness. Sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes and let any thought flow into your mind; your job is to be nonjudgemental, no matter how emotional the thoughts can be.

Be present in the moment and allow your ego to dissolve into thin air; it takes patience and much practice, but you will start to notice a sense of relief with time.

It is probably almost impossible to get rid of your ego completely, but that is not the goal; we still need it to help us balance our ID and superego. But too much ego is detrimental; we need to keep our ego in check, and mindfulness is a nice and effective tool to do that.

Another way to control your ego is to be humble with yourself; lower your importance and shine with humility.

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Free Yourself From Stress

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Utilize Mindfulness To Alleviate Stress

We feel it everyday; it hits us from all directions. It stabs us in our chests, mind and soul. This 6-letter word is so agonizing that some people turn to substance abuse or even kill themselves. But stress can be utilized as a source of energy for improvement! But it needs to be tamed at the same time. Whenever feeling this negative energy, remind yourself “I do not need this at this moment” and instead, think of something positive, and preferably, jump into a pleasurable activity in that moment. Some find success with “mindfulness”; an activity involving closing your eyes and being nonjudgmental to all thoughts coming into your mind. Believe it or not, this relieves stress.

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