When Patients Split

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I Want A Second Opinion

There are times when patients will blame their psychiatrist for worsening symptoms, “I don’t think the medication is working; my suicidal thoughts have gotten worse since starting the antidepressant; I want a second opinion!” Patients will split due to many reasons:

  • Age and immaturity
  • Lack of patience
  • Frustration and taking it out on their psychiatrist
  • Unconscious inner conflicts
  • Boredom with therapy
  • Drug use and getting carried away

. . . and many more. As a psychiatrist, you have to understand that it’s better to allow the patient to seek another provider’s professional guidance than trying to convince them to stick around. As a patient, you have to understand that we are not perfect and cannot always effectively help you with your problems. As a patient, you should also understand that seeking a “second opinion” does not mean that you will be satisfied and might actually set you a few steps back, because that means that you have to start all over with a psychiatrist who does not know you.

The best recommendation for psychiatrists is to stick by their professional expertise and utilize empathy as much as possible. The best recommendation for patients is to trust their psychiatrist and avoid making impulsive decisions based on frustration encountered in therapy.

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When Depression Haunts You

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Uncontrolled Depression

You may have experienced depression five or ten years ago but it doesn’t mean that you’re now in the clear. Depression can always reemerge like a deadly virus that no one expected to turn into a pandemic. That’s because unresolved depression can go unnoticed for years at a time, only to make itself noticeable unexpectedly. You may have been feeling depressed the whole time and not even know it; sometimes life has a way of keeping you distracted from your own feelings!

The last thing that you want to do is ignore your depression and bury it somewhere in the closet hoping to never having to deal with it; this is a recipe for disaster. Depression is not something that you sweep under the rug only to return to it centuries later. The symptoms of depression are too powerful to ignore and they will soon catch up with you; you will either seek treatment and recover or spiral down into a dark pit full of misery, alcohol or drugs.

So what is my recommendation to you? Don’t be afraid; don’t be shy; don’t be ashamed to seek help and talk about your feelings. What’s the worst that can happen? Nothing. You have everything to gain by opening up to a psychiatrist, therapist or psychologist and seeking treatment and better days. It’s time that you put your ego aside and seek the care that your mind, body and soul deserve!

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The Unpredictability of Psychosis

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0-60 In a Heartbeat

One thing to keep in mind with psychotic patients is that their behavior is very unpredictable. They can literally be having a pleasant conversation with you for 5-10 minutes, and 15 minutes later, they are yelling, cursing, agitated, banging on the walls and demanding medications! You scratch your head and wonder, “What in the world? I was just talking to them and everything seemed to be going well!” Psychosis could care less if everything was going well; when it wants its patient to terrorize, it will unleash all of hell’s dogs to get its fix. This does not mean that you should always expect psychotic patients to become dysregulated and violent; just be aware that the chances of that happening are higher than with other patients.

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15 Self-Care Ideas to Help Improve Your Mental Health — Olivia Lucie Blake

It’s so important to look after not only physical health but mental too. As this period of time continues where there is so much worry, anxiety and stress.I think it’s even more important to look out for each other and acknowledge that we need to take time for ourselves. And don’t feel bad for it […]

15 Self-Care Ideas to Help Improve Your Mental Health — Olivia Lucie Blake

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7 Times When Anxiety Will Completely Ruin The Moment — Thought Catalog

1. After sending a text. Sometimes I’ll be in a good mood, ready to socialize, and will text a friend to check in on them. But by the time they text me back, my anxiety will overtake me. I won’t want to have a conversation anymore. I’ll be nervous the entire time I’m waiting for…

7 Times When Anxiety Will Completely Ruin The Moment — Thought Catalog

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7 Natural Ways To Improve Mental Health — Jenny in Neverland

AD – This is a paid advertorial but all thoughts are my own. Information in this blog post should not be taken as medical advice. I talk about mental health a lottttt on my blog. Most recently about how I’ve been un-diagnosed with my anxiety disorder and how my medication has literally changed my life.…

7 Natural Ways To Improve Mental Health — Jenny in Neverland

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I Am Free Of Pain

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Positive Affirmation: Mental Pain

“I am free of mental pain because I have learned to manage my negative emotions and redirect my attention on the positive things in life. Whenever I feel sad, I allow the pain to surface without any hesitation, as I know that if I try to fight back, the pain usually persists even longer. I give my pain room to breath but I do not identify with it because my pain is not really mine; it just comes and goes like the foreign clouds in the sky. Just as I cannot feel the clouds in the sky but just observe them, the same applies to my emotional pain; I can’t physically touch it but just observe it from the sidelines. Just as I can’t make a storm go away, the same applies with my emotional pain; I let it take its course until it evaporates into the distance. I am free of pain because I have learned how to respect my mental health and take care of it on a daily basis!”

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Depressed As A Doormat

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When People Stomp All Over You

There are many people who were raised to not disobey their parents and argue back, but at a very extreme level. As children, they feared their parent’s disapproval and did everything they could to appear perfect. As they slowly exited out of adolescence and entered the real world, they soon realized that the way they were brought up was not suitable with people outside their culture. They found themselves to be depressed by their interactions with others because they always cared about what others thought of them; they also never had the strength to stand up for themselves.

Your upbringing defines your adulthood to a great extent. It’s when you’re a child and adolescent that your personality is molded and shaped into the person who will carry you to the end of your days. If your personality is not shaped well from a young age, you will experience difficulties in relationships later on in your life. When people stomp all over you, it means that you do not have the courage nor strength to argue back and stand up for yourself.

You give others the power and even turn them into authority figures, similarly to what you did with your parents growing up. When others make fun of you or point out your flaws, you become ashamed of yourself, almost internalizing and believing everything they say, rather than standing up for yourself. You may even experience what some like to call a “shutdown;” an episode of low energy, drive or motivation to do anything besides being paralyzed on your couch or in your bed. You become a doormat and everyone keeps walking all over you.

Even though you may have a job, raise children and still be functional, your interactions with others limit your happiness. If people are nice and get along well with you, then you find yourself having no problems. It’s only when those who argue back and critique you that you become frozen in time and no longer know how to react. You want to fight back, experiencing an internal desire to stand up for yourself and tell them, “stop saying these things! They are not nice and I don’t believe in what you are saying!” But sadly, you never learned how to do that growing up.

But it’s never too late! Psychotherapy is the process of analyzing your life and learning how to change your thoughts and behaviors. Anyone can benefit from psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy; you don’t need a mental illness to be qualified for therapy. If you find yourself in this category of persons who are functional but struggling with depression and problematic behavioral patterns, then I highly recommend you start psychotherapy! You will not regret it.

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Trypophobia? – Afraid Of Chocolate Chip Cookies — Overcoming OCD

Most people I know adore chocolate chip cookies and some of my friends are simply addicted to them. So, I guess it may come as a surprise if I tell you that I have never tasted them and I am not even planning to do so. I can totally imagine that they taste good – […]

Trypophobia? – Afraid Of Chocolate Chip Cookies — Overcoming OCD

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Mental Health for Moms: Maternal Mental Health —

Moms and Mental Health Series Here at MSB, we specialize in talking about Mental Health issues from the unique perspectives of those who experience them. That’s why we’re dedicating this series specifically to Moms who struggle with their Mental Health. Why? Because Moms don’t get the choice to step back and work on their Mental…

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