Don’t Forget About Your Family

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Stuck In Your Own Ways

As we continue to isolate ourselves due to evolving technology, it becomes much easier to forget about our family. With so many social media platforms, entertaining websites, Netflix and other outlets of entertainment, we sometimes end up getting stuck within our own world, forgetting about the important matters of life. One of the most important matters is maintaining a strong and meaningful connection with your loved ones.

As you grow older, it becomes easier to depart from your family as you gain more independence. Your thoughts change, the way you view the world evolves and your past relationships are not necessarily interpreted the same as in the present. As you continue to go down your path, by slowing losing touch with your family, you grow more distant from them, only making the process of reestablishing rapport and a meaningful connection more difficult.

Don’t allow technology to ruin your family relations; think of technology as a bonus and not a necessity. The beauty of technology is that it provides us with greater access to information and entertainment, but sometimes at the expense of face to face communication, and nothing is greater than in-person interactions. Don’t tip the balance on technology’s side; family and friends should always come first.

Especially during this pandemic and social distancing, it’s much easier to isolate yourself at home and get lost in your own little world, forgetting to keep in touch or simply losing interest in doing so. The more you spend time by yourself, the more you become comfortable going without the opinions, thoughts and beliefs of others in your life. In other words, you become comfortable distancing yourself and sometimes you don’t even know it; others have to tell you.

Enjoy every moment that you spend with your loved ones because tomorrow is not promised. Even though it might seem like a “been there, done that” feeling whenever you gather together, change that thought and replace it with “just being in the moment.” You want to learn how to appreciate the present moment regardless if it reminds you of a previous experience in the past. Make each moment something new and special; just enjoy every second and imagine instructing your mind to slow down your perception of time, so that you can make sure to capture every detail as vividly as possible.

Every moment spent with your loved ones is a blessing; treat them like so.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Appreciate The Time Spent With Loved Ones

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Crazy, Stupid Love

Nothing compares to the quality time spent with loved ones, especially when it’s spontaneous and unexpected. Appreciating the presence of your loved ones is very important, because you never know when they may go away. One minute you’re planning something for the next weekend, and the next you find out that they are moving to another state. Enjoy and appreciate every moment spent together!

When you take the time spent with your loved ones for granted, you’ll feel much worse when unexpected scenarios play out in the future. One of the worst feelings is experiencing disappointment in relation to a person or event that you took for granted. Not only does it feel like you’re dying from 1000 paper cuts, but you feel ashamed and embarrassed about your foolishness.

Whenever you feel like you’re taking people or events for granted, remind yourself to snap out of that mentality. If you don’t, it’ll become automatic and you won’t catch yourself doing it in the future. You want to appreciate every single moment that you spend with your loved ones, even if you feel like repetition is at play.

The thing about “crazy, stupid love” is that we can’t understand it; it’s like a pot full of unknown ingredients being stirred inside of us, not knowing what is causing us to feel so connected to our loved ones. Perhaps love truly has no definition; it’s just a set of powerful emotions that drive us in circles with no clear destination in sight.

Whether it’s crazy, stupid or both, love should never be taken for granted; it’s not worth the pain that follows when a loss presents itself. Even if you do not take love for granted, you’ll most likely still experience a loss with accompanied pain in the future; it’s inevitable. But at least you’ll know in your heart that you fully enjoyed and appreciated your time with your loved ones, while they were still present.

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Best Black Friday Deals

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Being With The Ones You Love

Here is an example of a day which we mentally and emotionally flock to, hoping to score the best deals on materialism. While there is nothing wrong with enjoying materialism, it’s important to understand that it will not bring you potent happiness that can last you a lifetime. The potent happiness that will last you a lifetime is obtained by being around your loved ones.

When we seek materialism, we are searching for a source of happiness that comes outside of us. The difference between this outside source of happiness and others, is that the concept of materialism is similar to a drug: the more you have it, the more you want it. It all has to do with the pleasure center in our brain called the Nucleus Accumbens.

The pleasure center is responsible for rewarding us with dopamine, a feel-good chemical messenger released when we perform pleasurable activities. In this case, directing our attention and energy on scoring the best Black Friday deals, revs up our dopamine neurons which reward us with pleasure and good feelings.

The best deal that you can receive on Black Friday is the presence of your loved ones. Nothing compares to having your spouse, parents, children, family members and pets around you for a nice long weekend! It’s family that brings you love, peace and happiness. When you replace materialism with family, then that’s when you know that you have lost touch with the values of life.

We often search for more in our lives because we have a very deadly habit of taking things for granted. When we take things for granted, we no longer appreciate them as much as we once did. Our attention becomes directed to other things in life, such as drugs, alcohol, materialism and lust.

When we take things for granted, we often lose them sometime down the road, tormenting us and inflicting mental and even somatic pain for years to come. We then heavily turn to drugs, alcohol or lust to alleviate our pain, and the process repeats itself until we end up in a psychiatric hospital or rehab.

The best Black Friday deal is right before your eyes: your family, friends and pets! And you have already received the greatest blessing from God: life itself.

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