Redesigning Ourselves

Grayscale photography of black man standing in front of cross smiling

Praying For Each Other

Everyday selfishness is what prevents humanity from coming together to defeat the evilness that rules this world. Human nature, by design, is filled with selfishness but this does not mean that we cannot redesign ourselves. But the problem is that many do not know how to do this . . . many have not yet found it within their hearts the will to redesign themselves.

People wrongfully believe that redesigning themselves comes from within. It does to a certain extent but the percentage is small compared to asking God for help and guidance. That’s because when you attempt to redesign yourself without God’s help, you rely on the power found within you, and that power is humanly-derived; it can only take you so far.

That’s why you need God’s power to more effectively redesign yourself, and that can only be achieved by accepting and loving God in your mind and heart. Don’t bother if you’re going to be superficial about it; God knows you better than you know yourself. You must put God before your parents, siblings and significant other . . . you must put God before any human.

If you disagree with this, then you are disagreeing with the idea of putting your maker or creator before other humans. If it were not for God, you would have never had life and the chance to meet these humans who you call your “family.” God has blessed you with life, so if you want to redesign it, you must go back and reconnect with the source!

Fancy rituals, prayers in public, avoidance of certain foods, animal sacrifices . . . this is not what God is looking for; He does not want religious nuts but spiritual fruits! What God wants is a pure loving heart that is selfless and prays for others to improve as well. In praying for each other, you are not only redesigning yourself but are contributing to the improvement of others’ lives.

This is how humanity will improve and this is how we will better tackle mental illness, substance abuse, hatred, division and worldly pandemics.

This is how we will come together and love each other just the way that God envisions it for us.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Moving On From Lovestruck

Two people in love on beach during sunset

Love Island

We’ve all experienced situations when we meet someone who we really like, only to have it end sooner than we desired or expected. Experiencing lovestruck can happen at any age; you never know when a certain person will push your buttons and unexpectedly activate you. But when certain buttons are pushed, they can provide you with one of the best feelings in the world; however, moving on from lovestruck is important for your mental health.

The worst days are the immediate ones right after the person who you really liked is no longer in your life. The thought of being alone once again quickly touches down in the center of your mind, eliciting a punching bag of emotions, including tears. The connection you had formed with the other person on love island is no longer at play.

But you cannot continue living on love island if the other person is now gone; it’s not mentally healthy. You have to be thankful that God placed that person in your life for whatever amount of time, and happily move on. It’s tough at first because you dearly miss them, but you have to treat yourself with respect, and suffering from lovestruck is not fair to yourself.

The way that you move on from lovestruck is to remain optimistic that you will meet a new person in the future. You don’t have to forget about the previous person. As a matter of fact, cherish the memories that the two of you built together, but don’t dwell on them all day, every day. Be thankful that you met them and grateful for the experience, but move on into the future.

Love is probably one of the most powerful emotions known to man, especially when you share it with someone who you easily click with, and develop a natural connection from the moment that you lay eyes on each other. But love works in unpredictable ways; as quickly as it comes into your life, just as quickly that it can vanish from it.

But don’t be sad! The most important thing is that you are happy that you had another taste of love island. But you cannot always live on love island forever. Sometimes you have to get back on your boat and return to sailing the deep blue sea.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Addiction Is Stronger Than Love

Drug addict using syringe on yellow rock on spoon

My Strange Addiction

For many people who first start using drugs, the thought of one day becoming addicted does not cross their minds. It all starts with in the moment curiosity, excitement and even fitting in. Some feel initial nerves about trying the drug, but the adventure of exploring new territory is greater than the fear. Once they cross that invisible line, for many, addiction becomes stronger than love.

Once someone is hooked on a drug, the necessity to acquire more of it becomes greater than the love that they have for themselves or others. At first it’s the high: something out of this world that they glorify and start to believe is the greatest thing in their life. They start to chase the high because it provides them with a more entertaining and pleasuring mindset, than they would otherwise experience from other activities.

But the problem with drugs is that tolerance quickly develops, requiring higher doses to achieve the same high. But with higher doses come more consequences: more money is wasted, more time is spent acquiring the drugs, changes in personality, increased exposure to dangerous situations, ruined relationships, withdrawal symptoms, etc.

Once withdrawal symptoms are experienced, most addicts come to the realization that they either have to stop and seek help, or continue using. Many continue using out of shame of seeking help, “If I seek help, then it’s official that I’m an addict and everyone will look down on me. I can’t let that happen. Gotta keep using.”

At this point, the love, responsibilities and feelings for others are placed aside, and the mission of acquiring more of the drug to prevent withdrawal becomes the aim. Once the drug is acquired, the relationships resurface on their minds, but their family and friends start to notice their change in behavior, questioning what is driving it.

But they cannot divulge their addiction because of shame. So they continue using in the shadows, getting high and maintaining their addiction that becomes stronger than their love for others. The drug has become their new love and nothing can break them apart. They’ll continue using until they’re burned out, overdose, die or hopefully gather the strength to seek help.

Addiction overtaking love is not uncommon in the world of drug addicts.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Appreciate The Time Spent With Loved Ones

Couple in love sitting and facing the city at sunset

Crazy, Stupid Love

Nothing compares to the quality time spent with loved ones, especially when it’s spontaneous and unexpected. Appreciating the presence of your loved ones is very important, because you never know when they may go away. One minute you’re planning something for the next weekend, and the next you find out that they are moving to another state. Enjoy and appreciate every moment spent together!

When you take the time spent with your loved ones for granted, you’ll feel much worse when unexpected scenarios play out in the future. One of the worst feelings is experiencing disappointment in relation to a person or event that you took for granted. Not only does it feel like you’re dying from 1000 paper cuts, but you feel ashamed and embarrassed about your foolishness.

Whenever you feel like you’re taking people or events for granted, remind yourself to snap out of that mentality. If you don’t, it’ll become automatic and you won’t catch yourself doing it in the future. You want to appreciate every single moment that you spend with your loved ones, even if you feel like repetition is at play.

The thing about “crazy, stupid love” is that we can’t understand it; it’s like a pot full of unknown ingredients being stirred inside of us, not knowing what is causing us to feel so connected to our loved ones. Perhaps love truly has no definition; it’s just a set of powerful emotions that drive us in circles with no clear destination in sight.

Whether it’s crazy, stupid or both, love should never be taken for granted; it’s not worth the pain that follows when a loss presents itself. Even if you do not take love for granted, you’ll most likely still experience a loss with accompanied pain in the future; it’s inevitable. But at least you’ll know in your heart that you fully enjoyed and appreciated your time with your loved ones, while they were still present.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

The Seperation Of Mind And Body — Thought Catalog

He told me I was like an angel, with beaten and battered wings that glistened in the sunlight, a voice ever-so-soft, and a touch ever-so-pure. I lit a cigarette with his name on it and said, “Haven’t you ever noticed the good people go through horrible things? It’s because we’re the worst of them all.…

The Seperation Of Mind And Body — Thought Catalog

Valentine’s Day

White woman holding red heart pillow in front of red door

Loving Humanity As A Whole

The best part of Valentine’s day is showing care and love to your significant other: surprising them with delicious milky chocolates and colorful flowers while taking them out for a nice dinner. But don’t forget that Valentine’s day can also be applied by loving humanity as a whole; not leaving any pieces behind.

When we focus beyond our ourselves and those around us, we spread more positive energy and love into the world; a rippling effect, reaching many who are unhappily hidden in the confines of their home due to depression, anxiety or substance use. Use your arrows to inflict love upon the world, not just on those around you.

The beauty about loving humanity as a whole despite the cruelty that flourishes, is that we are spreading the right message in the process. This message is called unconditional love or “love without conditions.” We should be willing to spread love and happiness without expecting anything in return.

When we think and act in this way, it spreads a message to others that maybe they should do the same, ideally, setting into motion a chain reaction. It doesn’t matter that we all come from different backgrounds, are different races or hold completely different beliefs; it’s our intentions that matter. If God didn’t love humanity, it would have all ceased to exist with The Great Flood.

But we’re still here. Think about that for a second! It’s because God is about love and we should be too. So how do we spread love on Valentine’s day without coming off as strange, bizarre or weird? You do it with your heart and mind: you act nicely to others, wish well upon them and pray for the world to improve.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

6 Reasons You Aren’t Finding Love On Dating Apps (Even Though You’re A Catch) — Thought Catalog

1. You never meet your matches in person. You can form a connection through text and get to know each other pretty well through text, but if you want a serious relationship with this person, then you’re going to have to meet them. Even though it’s scary to take the next step, you’re going to have…

6 Reasons You Aren’t Finding Love On Dating Apps (Even Though You’re A Catch) — Thought Catalog

God Loves Life

Jesus Christ crucifix statue

Distracted By Negativity

If God didn’t love life, you wouldn’t be here today experiencing love and happiness. He created this world so we could experience what it feels like to live, laugh, smile and most importantly to love. Yet no matter how many opportunities we come across to live a happy and blissful life, we somehow still allow the negativity of this world to influence us.

God loves life when he sees his creation living a prosperous, loving and caring lifestyle. He loves it when we help each other and extend our hearts to one another. He doesn’t like it when we lie, indulge in lust and sin, steal, deceit others, kill and spread hated, negativity and evilness in the world.

Evilness is the negativity which attempts to influence us on a daily basis. Negativity is like an invisible force that hovers all around us in space and time. It easily spreads from one human to another, engulfing us under its influence and keeping us locked and loaded in the negativity trigger.

Once we are positioned in the negativity trigger, we’re shot around like spraying bullets, infecting and injuring others around us. This is the evil never-sleeping chain reaction that continuously rocks this world from its peaceful core. And the more that you partake in it, the harder it becomes to set yourself free.

God loves life because he has given us an opportunity to experience free will. He does not force himself upon you. He allows you to decide if you want to live a life full of love or a life full of sin. But God experiences pain as well, especially when he sees us suffering and indulging in negativity.

One of the crucial problems experienced by many people around the world, is the indulgence in negativity without even knowing it; this is happening on an unconscious level. As we previously discussed, the unconscious mind pulls the strings of your conscious mind. But who is pulling the strings of your unconscious mind?

When the answer is “negativity,” then that’s when you know that you are in too deep. That’s when you have to take a step back and reanalyze your way of being: your choices, decision-making, thought process, thought content, perception, intentions and relationships. Again, God gives you the free will to pick and choose your route: are you going to take a bite out of an earthly and tasty fruit or are you going to drink the blood of Jesus Christ, and live a pure and dedicated life to God and his salvation?

God loves life. Do you?

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Radiate Love With Your Heart

Two persons forming love fingers in front of body of water

It Feels Good To Spread

Nothing feels better than being surrounded by the warm comfort of love. It provides emotional comfort, a sensation of well-being and good mental health. The best part of it is that we can all contribute to spreading love and making this world a better place. But it starts within you! You must go deep within your heart and open the chambers of secretion.

Not everyone’s chambers of secretion are open; some people’s are clogged or non-functional to begin with. Someone can bathe you in love but no one can teach you how to spread it; it must come from you! Many people refuse to love because they have experienced many negative outcomes in life.

These people remain bitter and angry at the world, preventing them from radiating love and attracting positivity into their lives. This is a common mistake of many human beings: preventing your life from filling with love because of bitterness. Remaining bitter will not do you any good.

Some people believe the following, “I’ve been nice my whole life and I’ve always lost! I’m not going to be nice anymore.” This is a destructive mentality because you are preventing your true self from living; you are replacing it with a new identity that you hope will deliver you more respect and positive attention.

This might work for a little bit at first, but in the long run it will fail. Those who are not themselves are more likely to experience a mental illness, because they are not allowing their natural thoughts, behaviors and personality traits to flourish. Don’t try to be someone who you’re not!

Even if the world has treated you unfairly thus far, do the opposite by hugging and kissing the world back. In the bible it says, “You have heard that it was said, ‘eye for eye and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you not to resist an evil person. If someone slaps you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also; if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well; and if someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.”

The best way to live is in peace, love and harmony. We all suffer in this life and experience turmoil and pain. We all believe that life can be very unfair at times and wonder why “bad people” often win and why we lose. Your concern should not be on why others are winning; focus on yourself and being the best person that you can be!

You cannot go wrong with being a loving person.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Turn Your Addiction Into Self-Love

Two addicted burned out females smoking

Your Antivirus Is The Power Of Love

That bottle of Jack, that pack of Camels, that hit of a Fattie . . . all tempting compulsions that have been integrated into your daily habits as a source of pleasure; your brain releasing increasing amounts of the neurotransmitter called dopamine. Your consciousness suddenly enters the state of mind that you have been waiting for; you’re on Cloud 9! Now you ask yourself, “which enjoyable activity do I proceed to?”

The above statement is a typical mindset of a user abusing substances. And this pattern repeats itself for years, even decades for some. The problem is that the mind of the user, the brain per-say, has been hijacked; the reward system of the brain called the Nucleus Accumbens is in love with this new source of pleasure called “drugs.”

It wants you to keep using, and in return, it gives you dopamine which makes both your brain and you, the user, feel good. But as I talk about in my other post, this relationship is not healthy and will never last, and if it does, it will last at a low depressing level.

So how do we work on dissolving an addiction? Remember that thing called love? Sure you do; it trumps everything because the source is from God our creator. By calling on God to give you energy and love, he will help you curb your addiction. But first things first: you must work really hard to love yourself.

No human who is addicted can possibly say that they love themselves, when they deliberately proceed with their drug addiction; you are basically hurting yourself. Once you tap into that source of love, you will discover that love will now reach the Nucleus Accumbens and naturally stimulate it to be happy without any substances; as it was intended in the first place when you were born.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)