A Ten Year Battle

Lonely, sad man sitting in front of white projector screen

The Battle Known as Loneliness

The pain harbors in the center of your chest

The empty corners of your room remain isolated

People come and go

Yet you remain in the same place

Isolated with pain and arrested in shame

But is it your fault you constantly ask yourself

Or is it destiny observing the cards that were dealt to you?

Whatever the reason may be

Your loneliness continues to eat you alive

The weekends are worse, the weekdays you manage by

How does one exit this trap called loneliness?

Do you just accept like a prisoner and hope for the best

Counting down the days until you can hold someone abreast . . .

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Don’t Shy Away From Your Loneliness

Lonely woman with head down sitting on wooden dock near lake

Cornered By Darkness

The feeling of loneliness can easily creep up into your life when you least expect it. One moment you have all your friends surrounding you, a significant other and everything going for you and the next you find yourself in a new chapter called, “WTF! What is happening to my life?” This is how life works; it’s unpredictable and you have to be prepared for all scenarios because if you aren’t, then you will be hit very hard.

Don’t be one of those people who shies away from their loneliness and keeps their feelings buried within themselves. Whenever you allow loneliness to overwhelm you by not sharing your feelings with others, it invites its best friend named depression. When depression and loneliness throw a party in your bedroom, trust me when I say that you’ll be suffering in pain.

Many people are too proud of themselves to ever admit that they are lonely; to do so means that they are weak and that others will look down upon them. This is because their ego is too inflated and this is a big weakness; your ego can lead to your downfall if not kept in check. Think of your ego as a stubborn entity who sometimes likes the freedom that you give it a little too much; whenever you are easygoing on its leash, it can suddenly take over and do what it wants.

Your ego can be so stubborn at times that it can lead you into depression. It’s not like it wants to do you harm but when you don’t control it, you become more susceptible to developing a mental illness. In this case, it’s depression in the context of loneliness. The worst combination to be suffering from is an inflated ego + loneliness + depression; this is a recipe for disaster.

If you are suffering from loneliness then please come out and admit it to the world. You can do so with your friends, family and even on this platform, but whatever you do, do not withhold it from others. Loneliness is a dangerous breeding ground for mental illness and you don’t want to take a chance going down that path; you just don’t know which way mental illness will take you.

You don’t have to be ashamed of your loneliness; most of the world is going through it right now. You’ll feel much better coming out and sharing it with the world. You’ll also come to learn just how many people are actually suffering from loneliness and this will help make you feel better about yourself, knowing that you’re not the only one. It’s not necessarily your fault that loneliness has struck you; it’s called life circumstances. You just have to find a way to recover from it by continuing to move forward in a positive state of mind.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Cherish Solitude And Avoid Superficial Relationships

Blonde white woman enjoying solitude riding kayak in blue water

Time Well Spent

It is no question that loneliness is on the rise; single-person households are increasing, marriages are declining and depression rates are rising. But do not confuse loneliness with solitude.

Solitude is a state of appreciation for being alone. It is torturous for adolescents because it is a time when they identify with their peers, but for adults, solitude should be harnessed and appreciated!

The mental health benefits of solitude:

  • Increases empathy and compassion (you are not focused on people around you, allowing time for you to be appreciative of your relationships)
  • Increases productivity (when around people, you become distracted and do not always give your best effort)
  • Increases creativity (it allows your mind to wander and act freely and silly)
  • Increases mental strength (the more you are able to tolerate being alone, the more you will experience increased happiness, satisfaction and improved stress management)
  • Decreases depression (enjoying alone time makes you more appreciative of the time when you do spend with friends and family, resulting in increased happiness)
  • Increases your planning skills (it gives you time to plan your goals, analyze your progress and implement new changes)
  • Increases insight (it allows you to know yourself better without the influence of others)
  • Helps you unwind (it helps you reboot, clear your mind and think more clearly)
  • Improves concentration (it keeps you more focused while minimizing distractions)
  • Promotes deep thought (allows you to analyze your day, actions and relationships)
  • Helps you think of solutions to common day problems
  • Enhances your relationships (allows you to better understand who you are and what you are looking for in people, as well as make sharper choices)

So ditch those superficial relationships; do not cherish those more than a nice quiet time by yourself. Understand that loneliness is not the same as solitude; the former involves less time spent with others while the latter cherishes time spent by oneself as well as time spent with others.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)