You Write The Rules

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Chapter 1: Creating

You’re given a brain that is blessed with a mind. This mind gives you the ability to experience reality, mental health, perception, emotions, thought content, relationships, etc. This mind gives you the ability to create, though you never thought about doing that before, have you?

Many of us rely on our environment to create our reality; sometimes our mental health too! We rely on others to provide us with happiness, joy and contentment, when we should be providing this for ourselves.

What is the solution? Writing the rules. Waking up tomorrow and deciding that you will start taking things in your own hands. Waking up tomorrow and crying your tears out, realizing how much power you truly hold.

You disconnecting from your environment which is most likely half asleep and living in a trance like sheep in a pen. Aren’t you ready to evolve beyond this? Aren’t you ready to create and design your reality so that you can avoid mental health suffering?

I am ready. Care to join?

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Create Wisely

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Your Environment Relies On Your Decision-Making

You have one computer and that’s all you get. There is no yearly updated version like a brand new Windows computer or MacBook with a new M1 chip. Your brain is all you have and if you don’t continuously upgrade it by challenging yourself, seeking new horizons and crossing new boundaries, then you will remain in your present reality that will eventually dull your existence.

Guess what happens when your existence is dulled? Mental health problems arise. In order to avoid such problems, you must constantly recreate your reality by keeping your decision-making in check. What do I mean by this? Well . . . if you continue to make the same decisions month after month, your reality will not change much; you will become a slave to your environment. Your decisions prescribe your reality; if they’re not carefully crafted, you will puff up with confusion, dismay and displeasure.

So how do you create wisely? No one can provide you with that answer. Life is based on trial and error. Start the trial, pile up the errors and constantly update your computer.

. . . I think I just told you how to create wisely.

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Your Life Is A Dream

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So Snap Out Of It More Often

Everything regarding the way you interpret reality stems from the most important organ in your presence: the brain. How you think and view the world is based on your personality and interpretation of your surroundings. If you can match your personality with an accurately honest, portrait of society, then you can proceed to viewing and observing reality for how it is meant to be viewed. But once you allow your mind to be influenced by outside forces (i.e. political influences, the entertainment industry or even dishonest conspiracies, etc.), you become more susceptible to programming or the manipulation of your mind, oftentimes without you even noticing it.

So take what you can from society that is still good and add it to your arsenal. But always remember that it’s your mind that is most precious, so snap out of it more often to keep it in check from outside forces! Protect your mind for it roams openly in a dangerous land, ready to be attacked at any minute by invisible forces.

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Leeches Swarm Us From All Angles

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User Beware

Leeches are people who sponge off of you and do not offer much in return. For instance, they request to borrow money but do not pay you the correct amount back in time, or they offer to help you with a project and demand recognition for their efforts, despite the fact that their help was not that great to begin with. You can tell when you are dealing with a leech by the way that they interact with you and others; they’re needy, obnoxious, demanding and “lose it” when things don’t go their way. It’s quite frustrating to witness because you wonder to yourself, “How do people have such great insecurities to the point of making a fool out of themselves?” But that’s not your problem to fix. What you need to do is to remain mature, cool, calm and collected and carry on.

Cheers!

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How to Travel Mindfully & Purposefully — Ana Seas The Day

We’ve all had to endure a life without travel for WAY too long. Some of us are still even in quarantine. If you are, feel free to keep reading to prepare yourself for your next trip when the coast is clear. If the coast is already clear, and you’re thinking about traveling, then these tips […]

How to Travel Mindfully & Purposefully — Ana Seas The Day

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Living An Honest Life

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Honesty: In All Shapes, Forms And Sizes

Think back to when you were five years old and the way that you viewed the world. If you were raised in a good family, then you can relate to the fact that almost everything around you was based on the idea of having fun. At that age, you didn’t have responsibilities, expectations, work or pressure. You just lived you life having fun. As you grew older, you learned the importance of being honest with yourself and others; living an honest life.

You discovered how the world is no longer a cute, little, fun place where everything goes your way. You realized that the world is a big playground full of bullies who tempt you to sin, lie and deceive others; for a moment, you even considered putting honesty aside as you saw no positive results from it. Through honesty, you learned that others would take advantage of you and you would end up getting hurt in the end, when all along you had good intentions.

Not everyone has had a negative experience with honesty but almost everyone can agree that honesty is important not only for you but for everyone around you. Living an honest life prevents you from feeling corrupt inside and allows you to feel good about yourself. Even if you don’t always get the results that you want, at least you know that you are doing the right thing. Don’t connect honesty with winning because they are not always in the same boat.

Some people win by lying but that does not make them winners in my eyes. Trust me when I say that they don’t feel good about themselves when they are winning and lying. Maybe in the moment, they enjoy the high of winning, but in the long run, their sins are chipping away at their soul. You have to make the decision of what’s more important to you: waking up in a successful state of mind but feeling corrupt inside or waking up with less success and feeling like an angel inside.

I hope you decide to take the angel route because this is the route of growth and growth often leads to success; it might just take longer than the shortcuts provided by lies and deceit. Remember that life is not a race but a marathon; it does not matter how long it takes you to reach your desired level of success, as long as you do it honestly and with pure intentions. It’s very easy to fall in the trap of sin and temptation and much more difficult to get out of it. Therefore, take your time and live an honest life even if you don’t see the immediate results you have always dreamed of.

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The 40% Rule: Get Rich, Get Fit, Become Successful With This Simple Rule — Cristian Mihai

I don’t know you, but I know this about you: like all of us, you have one goal you’re struggling to achieve. Maybe it’s a business venture, maybe it’s turning a passion into a source of income, maybe it’s your desire to get in better shape. What usually happens is this: you begin to feel […]

The 40% Rule: Get Rich, Get Fit, Become Successful With This Simple Rule — Cristian Mihai

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How to Be Happier: 10 Habits to Add to Your Routine — Olivia Lucie Blake

We could all do with being happier from time to time. It is easier said than done though and I get that. So I thought I’d share some ideas with you of how we can all learn how to be that little bit happier each day. Here they are:

How to Be Happier: 10 Habits to Add to Your Routine — Olivia Lucie Blake

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Time for Breaking Bad (Habits) — Human Performance Psychology

One of the key things that can pretty much sabotage any chances of getting success are bad habits that hold you back. I don’t just mean bad habits like smoking or tailgating the car in front on the freeway. I’m… Read More Time for Breaking Bad (Habits) The post Time for Breaking Bad (Habits) appeared…

Time for Breaking Bad (Habits) — Human Performance Psychology

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Depressed As A Doormat

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When People Stomp All Over You

There are many people who were raised to not disobey their parents and argue back, but at a very extreme level. As children, they feared their parent’s disapproval and did everything they could to appear perfect. As they slowly exited out of adolescence and entered the real world, they soon realized that the way they were brought up was not suitable with people outside their culture. They found themselves to be depressed by their interactions with others because they always cared about what others thought of them; they also never had the strength to stand up for themselves.

Your upbringing defines your adulthood to a great extent. It’s when you’re a child and adolescent that your personality is molded and shaped into the person who will carry you to the end of your days. If your personality is not shaped well from a young age, you will experience difficulties in relationships later on in your life. When people stomp all over you, it means that you do not have the courage nor strength to argue back and stand up for yourself.

You give others the power and even turn them into authority figures, similarly to what you did with your parents growing up. When others make fun of you or point out your flaws, you become ashamed of yourself, almost internalizing and believing everything they say, rather than standing up for yourself. You may even experience what some like to call a “shutdown;” an episode of low energy, drive or motivation to do anything besides being paralyzed on your couch or in your bed. You become a doormat and everyone keeps walking all over you.

Even though you may have a job, raise children and still be functional, your interactions with others limit your happiness. If people are nice and get along well with you, then you find yourself having no problems. It’s only when those who argue back and critique you that you become frozen in time and no longer know how to react. You want to fight back, experiencing an internal desire to stand up for yourself and tell them, “stop saying these things! They are not nice and I don’t believe in what you are saying!” But sadly, you never learned how to do that growing up.

But it’s never too late! Psychotherapy is the process of analyzing your life and learning how to change your thoughts and behaviors. Anyone can benefit from psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy; you don’t need a mental illness to be qualified for therapy. If you find yourself in this category of persons who are functional but struggling with depression and problematic behavioral patterns, then I highly recommend you start psychotherapy! You will not regret it.

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