Letting People Go

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Trusting Your Intuition

Life has a funny way of bringing people into and out of your life. People will come and go all the time. Sometimes they enter your life to learn more about you and then leave when they are dissatisfied. Other times, they enter your life for no apparent reason, only to discover that you have trouble letting go of them.

The most important factor to take into consideration when it comes to human relations is your intuition. This innate feeling will teach and protect you from unnecessary encounters and relationships. A lot of people make the mistake of not listening to their intuition, but it’s always there screaming right back at you.

Whenever your intuition instructs you that it’s time to let someone go, then listen to it and move on. Never be rude towards the person either. The key is avoiding arguments or fights and leaving on a happy or at least neutral note. You don’t always have to understand the reason for letting someone go.

Many times, you will never understand the reasoning behind your intuition. Conscious reasoning is not part of your intuition’s repertoire. Intuition relies on instinctive feelings and that’s what makes it so difficult for people to appreciate and listen to. It’s easier to allow your mind to get in your way with logical reasoning.

You may feel bad at first when letting someone go from your life, but you wouldn’t be doing it in the first place if you weren’t feeling that it’s the right thing to do. It’s normal to feel bad. It means that you have a caring and loving heart that looks out after others. But sometimes the better option in life is letting go of others for their own sake.

The process of moving on is never easy and there is no right way of doing it. Each individual case is different and special in its own way. Remember that if the other person does not react well to your goodbye, the last thing that you want to do is engage in their frustration and disappointment.

Maintaining composure is always the best avenue to take. You’re not here to get into arguments or stress yourself out. Your mental health always comes first, and if you feel that your mental health has been taking a hit while around a particular person, then that’s when you know that it’s time to let them go.

Trust your intuition. Nourish your mental health. Let people go.

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The Best Leaders Rely On Their Intuition

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Intuition Can See Through Illusive Intent

Intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. We often find ourselves struggling to balance our mind and intuition; sometimes our intuition is screaming “no!” while our mind is yelling “go!” Balancing the two and bringing them to agree is the key to making better decisions.

Think of intuition as a natural and free guide that is attempting to help you avoid illusive intent, unsafe situations, uncomfortable scenarios or unpleasant future experiences. One may feel intuition originating from their chest; perhaps from the heart? Wherever it comes from, it feels like a natural flow of energy that is telling you the answer right before your eyes.

The challenge becomes listening to our intuition on a consistent basis. What usually stands in the way? Our mind. The brain is like a self-programmed computer that has been developing since its inception. It studies the world around us and processes memories, events, feelings and beliefs. It tells us when to eat, sleep, have sex, exercise or consume alcohol and drugs.

The mind is very selfish: it wants pleasure and comfort. It wants us to survive but not always with the best intent. The mind often argues with the intuition, like a sword fight between two wise ninjas. Only rarely, do they come to an agreement without difficulty. This is because intuition is not selfish; it loves and wants to protect us.

In addition, the brain relies on calculations and past experiences. It bases its decisions on past events and current intent and desires. If it sees an opportunity, it tells us “charge!” But intuition relies on instinct. It doesn’t analyze scenarios; it just knows what is good or bad and tells us “yes or no” in a very natural way that is blatantly obvious.

The best leaders rely on their intuition because they have learned that they make better decisions when they do so. Oftentimes, following your intuition in the moment while ignoring your mind feels very uncomfortable. But as hours or sometimes days pass by, your mind gives up, the smoke clears and you are swarmed with a good feeling and thought in your mind, “wow, I really do feel better now!”

So rather than being selfish and always listening to your mind, take a step back and first listen to your intuition before making a decision. If you find that your mind and intuition are stepping in the fighting ring, it’s probably a safer bet to side with your intuition!

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Stay True To Yourself

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Reasoning | Intuition

The best thing you can do for yourself is to be authentic with others and show your true colors. Putting an image on for others eats you alive; it prevents you from expressing your true emotions, feelings, characteristics and opinions.

Staying true to yourself also means being honest with your intentions. Follow your intuition because most of the time it is right. Sometimes we choose not to follow our intuition because our mind interferes; it tries to rationalize and logically prevent us from going through with an action.

But you will realize that when you listen to your intuition despite your mind saying otherwise, you will be thankful for having followed your intuition; it is there to help you. Intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without conscious reasoning.

Reasoning is not always necessary in life. There are some events in which reasoning prevents you from staying true to yourself. Each event is different based on the individual; we cannot judge for others.

All you can do is be smart:

  • Use your mind when reasoning is best suited
  • Use your intuition when you understand something immediately
  • Balance the two and stay true to yourself

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