Insecurity Virus

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How To Fix Insecurity

Just one comment, remark or joke by somebody can spark insecurity and make you feel anxious and uncertain about yourself. It leaves you scratching your head wondering why in the world a set of words make you feel so unconfident. The feeling may last a couple of minutes or the entire day!

Self-doubt is a very uncomfortable feeling that can sometimes paralyze the quality of your day, like a virus affecting your computer. This tends to happen when you are careless or do not have an antivirus software running; in this case, a confident personality and thick skin.

The reason why certain comments can be triggers for feeling insecure is because they shake up our unconscious mind which contains repressed feelings and wishes. As a reminder, our unconscious mind is active 24/7. When it detects a set of words or emotions from somebody else, it may react very sensitively depending on the material.

If your unconscious mind is uncomfortable with the material, it pulls certain strings to make you feel insecure; like a wake up call. Insecurity can be good or bad. It’s good when the material that makes you feel insecure is related to improving yourself and making a critical and important change in your life.

It’s bad when the material that makes you feel insecure is not that important, yet you still become paralyzed. In this case, you have to learn how to shake off the insecurity virus by recovering quicker or preventing it from affecting you in the future. The way to fix insecurity is to fully experience it when it kicks in rather than fighting it.

Don’t ignore your insecurity. Instead, digest it no matter how uncomfortable the feeling, while maintaining strength. It’s almost contradictory to maintain strength and feel insecure at the same time, but it’s doable. The objective is to analyze why you’re feeling insecure without allowing it to affect you on a deeper level and paralyzing the rest of your day.

No matter how strong and successful you are, you will always experience the insecurity virus from time to time. But it’s how you handle it which determines your character and quality of life.

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Cruelty Does Not Resist In The Long Run

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Cruelty Has No Room In Your Life

Do not be offended by the cruelty of others; they know what they are doing and it is eating them alive from within. Rather, we should feel sympathy for them and pray for their well being. It is not about “eye for an eye.” We must step up to the plate and be the role models ourselves.

The problems and issues of cruel people most likely stems from their childhood; they could have gone through a rough upbringing, experience molestation, bullying or the death of a loved one. Whatever the reason, it does not justify their cruelty in adulthood and we must be mindful of everyone’s past, rather than jumping to conclusions.

People who are cruel and do not attempt to fix themselves through psychotherapy will not lead happy lives for long. They are often cruel because they are insecure about themselves and they take it out on others. But for how long can they continue this process? It either leads to depression, self-destruction or a dead end (no pun intended).

Do you know anybody who has been cruel to you? How have you handled the situation? Feel free to share your stories in The DSM Ready Movement. We are about coming together and learning from each other.

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