Feeling Insecure

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Feeling Insecure in a Relationship

Your insecurities do not manifest from outside sources. Outside forces have an impact on how you feel every single day, but it always comes down to you on how to handle the effects of outside forces. You have to learn how to clean up your insecurities before they become worse. Rather than blaming others for how you’re feeling, take action into your own hands by managing your insecurities. You can do this via different vehicles, such as through exercising, mindfulness, therapy or talking to a close friend or family member. You are the master of your mind.

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Why Are We Feeling Insecure?

We feel insecure because our environment is constantly influencing us via social media, television and interactions with others. We constantly analyze everything on an unconscious level and this influences our thoughts and behaviors. Those who don’t learn how to feel comfortable in their environment remain insecure. Those who analyze, adjust and make the necessary mental changes flourish; they disconnect from their insecurities. The first step is identifying your insecurities and addressing them. This step often proves to be difficult for many people because they don’t want to target their insecurities.

Targeting your insecurities takes courage. It’s much easier to ignore your flaws and difficulties and remain in the same state of mind. The problem is that by ignoring your insecurities, you hold yourself back from improving as a person. If you address your insecurities, you’ll feel much better about yourself, more confident and people will notice it. The hardest part is addressing them but once you do, it becomes easier and you’ll feel glad that you did it in the first place.

Let’s be honest, living with insecurities is painful. Every day, you’re reminded of your flaws either through relationships, interactions with other people or when by yourself. You have to live with this stabbing pain within you at all times, eating you away from the inside out. Think about it; if you’re constantly distracted by insecurities, your mind has less room to enjoy activities and pleasures that are in your life. At a deep unconscious level, no matter how much pleasure you have, you can’t experience it to the fullest because you’re distracted by your insecurities.

Find courage today to address your insecurities and live a better life in return.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

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Battling Insecurities

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Insecurity In Relationships

The lack of confidence or anxiety about a certain matter which pertains to you can have a negative influence on your relationships. When an insecurity builds up due to lack of resolution, it can spill unto others, turning a fine smooth sailing relationship into an immediate sour and nasty one.

No matter who you are closest to, whether friends or family, do not spill your insecurities onto them. Most of the time, whenever you address your insecurities with someone close to you, the conversation ends up going south in some shape or form; salvaging is possible but not pretty. It’s always best to reveal your insecurities with a therapist.

A therapist is trained to provide you with techniques and suggestions on how to improve your character and lifestyle. Depending on the school of therapy, you can be taught on how to change your cognition and behavior or how to analyze your way of being. Either form of therapy proves excellent in the long run.

A therapist is not affected by your insecurities because they hold a professional role towards you. But friends, family or coworkers are not there to treat you. So whenever you complain or talk about negativity, it slowly starts to affect them adversely. Everyone is dealing with their own problems, so why add yours to theirs?

Every person can benefit from therapy; even if you’re living on cloud nine and making a 5 million dollar yearly salary. Money, fame or success are irrelevant when it comes to emotional wellbeing and a healthy state of mind. Even rich people commit suicide because they are unhappy!

Even wealthy people hold onto insecurities that eat away at them on a daily basis. That’s why most of them turn to drugs and alcohol; an outlet which numbs the pain away and alters their perception on reality. But substances treat the surface; the infection still boils on the inside.

So do yourself and others a favor and treat your insecurities in the therapist’s office. Don’t bring the baggage out in the open. Save your best version of yourself for others to see and enjoy!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)