Respect Others As You Respect Yourself

Man standing behind green leafed plants wearing a black shirt that says "respect"

What Does It Mean To Be Respectful?

Without taming our human nature, we’d be running around like a wild pack of animals with no remorse for each other. Human nature does not mean that society works best on what is “natural”; just because something is natural and universal does not make it effective and productive for modern-day society.

From a Freudian perspective, every person has an ego, superego and ID. The ID is the animalistic side of us seeking pleasure: food, sex, sleep and fun. The superego takes societal values and morals into consideration and balances our ego and ID. Some of us are more in touch with our ID.

The problem with too much ID is that respect for others is sidelined while selfish “natural” drives take priority. This causes many problems for society:

  • Women are looked down upon as sources of physical pleasure (lust)
  • Too much emphasis is placed on the self rather than helping others (pride)
  • The quest for power, fortune and control take over (greed)
  • Habitual greed or excess in eating (gluttony)
  • Looking down upon others who hold qualities or possessions which one lacks (envy)
  • Extreme anger towards others for no good reason (wrath)
  • The reluctance to work or make an effort to better humanity (sloth)

One can argue that the seven traits mentioned above are part of human nature; all perfectly “natural” behaviors that serve to benefit us. And for the most part, they are part of human nature. But the argument is that human nature is not always what is best for mankind.

Clearly, the seven traits mentioned above are destructive to an individual and those around them. The solution is it sideline your ID and begin to respect yourself and others. Respect is the due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights or traditions of others.

When we begin to respect ourselves, respecting others no longer poses a challenge.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

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People Will Be Jealous

Jealous person's face

When Human Nature Interferes

There is no way to avoid it; jealously is part of human nature for some and you must expect that they will be in tune with their feelings toward you. They do not have to give you a reason for why they envy you; you can read it on their guilty face and continue smiling.

Whatever your achievements or advantages are, stand proud and strong by them. Do not let others’ jealousy make you self-conscious; this is a personality issue from their part and not from yours. Your goal is to maintain your composure and carry on.

Do not try to confront their jealousy; it will just make things awkward and make you look weak. You will lose your prestige if you confront another person’s jealously. Learn to accept their envy; it means you are doing something right!

What you should never do is become jealous of others! If you find yourself dealing with a person who demonstrates an advantage over you, be appreciative and learn from them! You will gain more by being honest and trying to learn from someone else rather than becoming jealous of them and feeling insecure inside.

The DSM Ready Movement does not promote jealously of others. We are a community built on people from all levels, including rich, poor, successful, happy, depressed or content. We are here to learn from each other, build relationships and help one another elevate to a higher level of consciousness!

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