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Some Friends Can’t Be Trusted

There are many people who will come across your way and get you excited as a potential new friend. You may even have a lot in common with them, thinking that you’ve just made yourself a “keeper of a friend.” You guys may laugh a lot, share a similar sense of humor and even get lunches together. But you can really tell who your real friends are when they start to act differently at times and refuse to help you out when you ask them to. Backstabbers never rest.

So why do they do this if you have so much in common with them? It’s because you’re not really in their heart. They may like you and enjoy spending time with you, but when he turns left and you turn right, you become “out of sight, out of mind” for him. At first, you won’t be able to tell right away because you’ll be blinded by the illusion of being decent friends.

But this illusion will slowly break down when you ask them not once but at least twice to help you out with something. And I’m not talking about something small and insignificant. We’re talking about asking for help in a situation that would make your life easier and even offering to help them back in the future.

But it doesn’t matter because they can’t find it within their heart to help you. It’s not necessarily that they don’t want to help you, but they put their selfish interests before yours, something that an apparent decent friend should not do. Good friends learn to sacrifice their self-interests from time to time to come through for their boys!

Many of these types of friends can be classified as backstabbers; when you turn your back, they silently attack. But they don’t necessarily attack by putting you down in front of others or doing you harm without your noticing. They attack by throwing you under the bus in a certain situation in which you didn’t deserve to be in, in the first place.

You then confront them hoping that they’ll recognize their mistakes and change for the better, but keep dreaming folks! No change ever happens. So the veil has been removed and you now see their true character; it doesn’t really shine as brightly as you once thought. And guess what happens at this point in time? Your unconscious mind has recorded everything that has just happened and will start influencing your perception of them.

You will now start to view them in the light that they deserve to be viewed and that light is no where near your standards anymore. If you have eyes, then open them and start using them! These types of people surround us every day and we don’t deserve to give them our genuine kindness and love. However, we must still remain kind and loving human beings at all times, but while keeping in mind who our real friends truly are.

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Planting The Seeds Of Knowledge

The garden becomes more beautiful as more people become blessed with the opportunity of knowledge. Helping those around you is about sharing the knowledge that you accumulate on a daily basis, in order to help humanity elevate and bring upon the missing peace. This is planting the seeds of knowledge.

You should want to help others! Anyone with a heart can do it, you just have to put yourself into it. Many people do not have a heart for those around them, because they keep it for themselves or their immediate family members. But helping others is going beyond your family and reaching those with less fortunate opportunities.

But it’s important to remember that helping is not always about the less fortunate, but even the most fortunate who are wealthy and living the life. It doesn’t matter how rich one is; when you help, you leave all doors open. Anyone is free to join the fun and learn more about how life works! We can all learn from each other about how life works.

Your challenge should be to see how consistent you can be with spreading knowledge on a weekly basis, with eventual improvement to the daily spread of knowledge. If you happen to go through a day concluding that you haven’t helped one single person, then you can start keeping record and continue to aim for improvement.

Planting is not as easy as some of you may have thought! To tend a garden requires the start of a garden and without the gardener up to par, the seeds won’t spread to far. This calls for unity: let us all come together and happily join each other on a beautiful platform based on honesty and trust.

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