Guilty During Sexual Activities

Grayscale photography of woman opening her mouth during orgasm

On The Basis Of Sex

Sexual activity is a naturally normal process that somehow still penetrates our hearts, by making us feel guilty from time to time. In the moment, sexual activity is like an escape: it grabs you away from your present reality, like the onset of a powerful drug overcoming your perception. But many times, this drug makes you feel guilty.

Even if you would like to stop yourself during a sexual act, it is almost impossible to do so; keyword being “almost.” That’s because you’re not only battling an amazing pre-orgasmic feeling and sensation, but your neurochemistry: dopamine is slowly flooding your brain and making you feel “dope.”

At blastoff, the orgasmic climax feels out of this world, as if you grew wings and took a flight high into space without any repercussions. But what goes up must come down; in this case, that’s you! And most of us would agree that there are not many situations in which we enjoy coming down.

When coming down from a sexual activity, there are times when you wonder why in the world you are feeling guilty. This can occur with porn, masturbation, sex, sexting, video chats, strip clubs, prostitution and whatever else exists out there. On the basis of sex, guilt is not a foreign entity: it’s often buried somewhere between the lines.

The worst feeling to have after climaxing is guilt: it makes you feel like the entire experience was for nothing; a total waste of your time and energy. Your emotions crumble and your excitement plummets; you feel defeated as if locked into a penitentiary for 25 to life.

Is there a way to get rid of guilt during sexual activities? The answer is, it depends. We often know prior to engaging in a sexual activity if “this time” will feel right. But guess what we often do? We go ahead and engage despite anticipating some guilt around the corner; we go ahead and set ourselves up for negativity.

So rather than engaging, we need to hold ourselves back and distract our minds with other thoughts or activities; easier said than done, but not that hard if practiced enough! Your intuition and mind often provide you with warnings and signs, prior to acting on a specific thought. We just need to become better at listening to ourselves.

On the basis of sex, don’t act like you’re surprised when you experience guilt following a sexual activity. Try listening to yourself more often and you’ll be surprised on how many negative emotions you can avoid coming your way.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Chased By Sin

Person holding magazine depicting two lustful women hooking up

The Field Of Temptations

Sin seems to have no boundaries on where it lurks. It just creeps along through time and space, sucking whatever opportunity it has to grasp us within its control and influence. Sin has no shape or form; it’s just an air of opportunity for humans to indulge in destructively-negative behavior.

The way to avoid sin is not by running away from it, but rather by confronting it before it takes a hold of us. Sometimes we don’t have the opportunity to confront sin; it just happens. But many times, we have an opportunity to decide between right and wrong. And we still pick wrong.

And the more we sin, the easier it becomes to repeat a certain behavior. For instance, the more we lie, the more comfortable we become at lying. Lying provides us with power: it teaches us that you can obtain X by performing Y and Z. In return, we enjoy obtaining X and want more Xs in the future.

Another form of sin is XXX or pornography. Notice how you feel disgusted and guilty after masturbating to porn? That’s the feeling of sin running through your veins. But for many people, rather than stopping the behavior, they continue to indulge in porn because the pleasure is more important than the guilt.

How about strip clubs, escorts or happy endings at massage parlors? Welcome to lust town, where you can have your desires fulfilled at the expense of your purity. Sin loves sex. It has infiltrated every corner of society, making sure humans breath in lust like they breath in drugs.

How about K2, marijuana, crystal meth or alcohol? Another forum where humans can indulge in sin and skyrocket their pleasure levels. However, this form of sin is much deadlier than others. The sin of drugs works by hijacking a human’s brain and cooking up an addiction that has the potential to kill.

The field of temptations is very wide and many people have trouble leaving this plantation. We are all slaves to sin, otherwise God wouldn’t have sent Jesus! In the bible it says, “for God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

The DSM Ready Movement must not forget to seek God for help, courage, guidance and love!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

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