Don’t Forget About Your Family

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Stuck In Your Own Ways

As we continue to isolate ourselves due to evolving technology, it becomes much easier to forget about our family. With so many social media platforms, entertaining websites, Netflix and other outlets of entertainment, we sometimes end up getting stuck within our own world, forgetting about the important matters of life. One of the most important matters is maintaining a strong and meaningful connection with your loved ones.

As you grow older, it becomes easier to depart from your family as you gain more independence. Your thoughts change, the way you view the world evolves and your past relationships are not necessarily interpreted the same as in the present. As you continue to go down your path, by slowing losing touch with your family, you grow more distant from them, only making the process of reestablishing rapport and a meaningful connection more difficult.

Don’t allow technology to ruin your family relations; think of technology as a bonus and not a necessity. The beauty of technology is that it provides us with greater access to information and entertainment, but sometimes at the expense of face to face communication, and nothing is greater than in-person interactions. Don’t tip the balance on technology’s side; family and friends should always come first.

Especially during this pandemic and social distancing, it’s much easier to isolate yourself at home and get lost in your own little world, forgetting to keep in touch or simply losing interest in doing so. The more you spend time by yourself, the more you become comfortable going without the opinions, thoughts and beliefs of others in your life. In other words, you become comfortable distancing yourself and sometimes you don’t even know it; others have to tell you.

Enjoy every moment that you spend with your loved ones because tomorrow is not promised. Even though it might seem like a “been there, done that” feeling whenever you gather together, change that thought and replace it with “just being in the moment.” You want to learn how to appreciate the present moment regardless if it reminds you of a previous experience in the past. Make each moment something new and special; just enjoy every second and imagine instructing your mind to slow down your perception of time, so that you can make sure to capture every detail as vividly as possible.

Every moment spent with your loved ones is a blessing; treat them like so.

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Backstabbers Never Rest

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Some Friends Can’t Be Trusted

There are many people who will come across your way and get you excited as a potential new friend. You may even have a lot in common with them, thinking that you’ve just made yourself a “keeper of a friend.” You guys may laugh a lot, share a similar sense of humor and even get lunches together. But you can really tell who your real friends are when they start to act differently at times and refuse to help you out when you ask them to. Backstabbers never rest.

So why do they do this if you have so much in common with them? It’s because you’re not really in their heart. They may like you and enjoy spending time with you, but when he turns left and you turn right, you become “out of sight, out of mind” for him. At first, you won’t be able to tell right away because you’ll be blinded by the illusion of being decent friends.

But this illusion will slowly break down when you ask them not once but at least twice to help you out with something. And I’m not talking about something small and insignificant. We’re talking about asking for help in a situation that would make your life easier and even offering to help them back in the future.

But it doesn’t matter because they can’t find it within their heart to help you. It’s not necessarily that they don’t want to help you, but they put their selfish interests before yours, something that an apparent decent friend should not do. Good friends learn to sacrifice their self-interests from time to time to come through for their boys!

Many of these types of friends can be classified as backstabbers; when you turn your back, they silently attack. But they don’t necessarily attack by putting you down in front of others or doing you harm without your noticing. They attack by throwing you under the bus in a certain situation in which you didn’t deserve to be in, in the first place.

You then confront them hoping that they’ll recognize their mistakes and change for the better, but keep dreaming folks! No change ever happens. So the veil has been removed and you now see their true character; it doesn’t really shine as brightly as you once thought. And guess what happens at this point in time? Your unconscious mind has recorded everything that has just happened and will start influencing your perception of them.

You will now start to view them in the light that they deserve to be viewed and that light is no where near your standards anymore. If you have eyes, then open them and start using them! These types of people surround us every day and we don’t deserve to give them our genuine kindness and love. However, we must still remain kind and loving human beings at all times, but while keeping in mind who our real friends truly are.

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Gathering Of Friends

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Cherishing The Good Times Together

As one enters high school, the goal of making a lot of friends and becoming popular sometimes supersedes education. Many of these friendships that are established in high school are either shallow or not for the long run. But as one ages, the amount of friends made becomes less important; it’s the quality that matters.

Finding a few friends who share your interests and treat you with respect is much more valuable, than finding many friends but who talk behind your back or don’t care that much about you. It seems like common sense, but it’s not applied by many people, especially during the younger years.

Once you find a few friends who have your back, work on developing your relationships by learning more about who they are. There is always something new that we can learn about someone. As a matter of fact, there is always something new that we can learn about ourselves, allowing others to learn more about us!

Many people complain, “I have friends, but they’re not exactly how I’d like them to be.” There is no such thing as a perfect friend! Everyone will have flaws, weaknesses and personality traits that might come off as annoying from time to time, but that shouldn’t stop you from being friends with them!

Unless you have friends who put you down and don’t really have your back, then stop complaining. Instead of wishing for better friends, be appreciative of who God has put into your life at the present moment. Work on improving your friendships while improving yourself as well!

Cherish the good times you do have with your current friends and enjoy their presence. Make yourself a good presence as well so they can partake in the good times. What matters the most is that you and your friends get along, have things in common and are healthy!

Don’t get stuck on the small details. The bigger picture at play is what usually matters most.

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