Losing Hope

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Not Seeing Any Results

There are many reasons for why one may lose hope, but there are also many reasons for why one should keep hoping. Living in a culture that feeds on immediate gratification, it’s very easy to fall into the mental trap of expecting instant results. Sure, you can receive instant results, but are they quality and beneficial to your growth as a person?

Social media has a huge influence on our expectations. Whether we are conscious of the process or not, we often compare ourselves to those who have more materialism: your Dan Bilzerians, Kim Kardashians, rappers, Instagram models, Oscar winners and more. We are so attracted by their lifestyles, that we become disappointed when we don’t see our small expectations become a fruitful reality.

Social media is a big problem with why people easily lose hope. Many times, people don’t realize that their goals are unrealistic or unnecessary; they are only shooting for them because they believe that’s what everyone else must be shooting for. They want a BMW when they can’t even afford a Honda!

Your hope for a better life will always be lost if you don’t adjust your expectations. Don’t shoot for unrealistic goals or ones that won’t serve you well; don’t try to be like the rest of them. You must realize that celebrities are celebrities for a reason: they are either extremely talented and gifted, lucky, full of connections or all of the above.

Even if you aren’t shooting for unrealistic goals, don’t give up just because you haven’t seen any meaningful results. For instance, many people believe that they won’t find their significant other because “dating apps suck.” Even though the consensus is that dating apps are not the best way to meet someone, and that even the “hottest” people struggle with them, that doesn’t mean that you should give up hope!

Do what you have to do while maintaining a positive state of mind. You are going to have days when you will feel like giving up, but don’t allow those days to be the end of your dreams. If you want something, are working towards it and believe wholeheartedly that you will accomplish it, then you are already in a much better position to achieve it!

In Matthew 17:20 of the bible, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

Plant those seeds of faith and keep watering them every day.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Afraid Of Losing

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Not Living Up To Your Expectations

There is a lot of pressure to succeed in this day and age. Just open up your MacBook and search among the many successful Twitter or Instagram pages, or a banging Youtube Vlog depicting beautiful sceneries from around the world. You then shut your MacBook off in anger, taking a look in the mirror and wondering to yourself, “what the hell am I doing?”

Sometimes our expectations are little too high and we become too hard on ourselves. There is nothing wrong with having dreams, but if these dreams are making you work in counterproductive ways, then you are doing yourself more of a disservice. It’s not always about how hard you work, but how efficient and smart you also are!

Sometimes you just need to take a step back and reanalyze your expectations. There is nothing wrong if you have to cut back on some or tweak them in order to make them more realistic. This is part of the process of being smart! When you repeat the same mistakes or strategies over and over and don’t see new results, then you are beating yourself into a dead end.

Then there are the people who are afraid to lose because the pressure is just too great; it builds up in them like a steaming pot on top of an oven. Rather than finding ways to redirect their pressure onto other activities, such as exercising, they freeze and allow it to continuously build up until they give up!

When you are feeling too much pressure from your expectations, you need to remind yourself that pressure is what keeps you going. But too much pressure can be counterproductive and even scare you away from your goals! So you find a way to feel less pressure, either by reminding yourself that everyone experiences it, or by tweaking your expectations.

But you cannot be afraid to lose! Once you allow fear to marinate in the back of your mind, then you will start to slowly crumble; your dreams and goals will fade farther away from your reach. Sometimes it’s better to not think so much about the process; just do what you have to do to achieve your goals!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Lower Your Expectations

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Too Much Pressure Can Actually Backfire

We often want this or that and then go crazy when we don’t accomplish what we set out to accomplish. Why? It really doesn’t matter why. Often times, we are so focused on our expectations that it actually backfires. But does it really backfire?

I believe that we put so much emphasis on our expectations that it magnifies the results (or lack of results) much more than if we didn’t put so much emphasis on them. Rather, know in your heart and mind what you want to achieve, but let it naturally happen as well; don’t push it to the limit all the time.

And what happens when we don’t see results? We become sad. We become miserable. Our goal is to maintain a stable level of happiness in our lives, no matter the difficulties we are going through; consistency is key.

Sometimes we have to let life do the work for us. After all, we were not made machines with no feelings or emotions. In conclusion, know what you want to achieve but don’t put so much pressure while on the path of achieving it.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)