Can’t Help Falling in Love

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Memories Don’t Lie

You can’t help falling in love

Losing love out of your life

The pain spills away

But cannot successfully leave your body

It builds up harming your psyche

Your heart cries in pain

Your mind no longer remains tamed

Emotions take over

You stare at the sky lost over

The lost love has departed your life

The sky is glowing

But your strife is growing

How much longer till you recover

Will the pain last or will you move forward

Being stuck is no easy task

Especially when functional like on good grass

You try your best to invest

Your future relies on your self-interest

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Can’t Help Falling in Love: The Pain Lingers

The pain lingers as you wake up

Yesterday was worse

Today you’re still hurt

Focusing on your work is a distraction

You’re stuck in memories

You’re shattered in fractions

How can life go on like this?

When you just want love

But love no longer exists

Does she even still think about me?

Your insecurity flashes distrubing thoughts

You become miserable

And cry to endless sad thoughts

If only you could reach her and express yourself

But she blocked your cell

It’s over

Forget about that email

The pain lingers

And you know that life goes on

New girls on the horizon

But your attraction for her lives on

A new girl likes you but you don’t care

Your heart lies elsewhere

She starts to lose interest as well

But you still don’t care

Your mind says fuck

But your heart says out of luck

Is there anyway out of this misery?

Time please help me

Fast forward already and make it history

But no time says

The pain has to be felt

It’s part of the mental growth process

Consider your life a living hell

But slowly and surely the days go by

You continue your focus

Despite many sighs

Then one day you realize

Your love no longer is there

It’s as if time took her away

Your history lies with despair

You feel better and look into the future

No current new girls

But at least you’re healed

She was the best pearl

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Mental Pain

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Positive Affirmation: I am Free of Mental Pain

“I am free of mental pain because I have learned to manage my negative emotions and redirect my attention on the positive things in life. When I feel sad, I allow the pain to surface without any hesitation; fighting back only causes the pain to persist. I give my pain room to breath but I do not identify with it because it is not really mine. The pain just comes and goes like passing gray clouds in the sky above. Just as I cannot feel the clouds in the sky but just observe them, the same applies to my emotional pain. I can’t physically touch my pain but I can observe it from the sidelines. Just as I can’t make a storm go away, the same applies with my emotional pain. I let the pain take its course until it evaporates into the distance. I am free of pain because I have learned how to respect my mental health and take care of it every day!”

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Chronic Pain

“My chronic mental pain haunts me every day, but I do my best to keep my head above water. I can’t always identify the source behind my pain, but that does not matter. As long as I do my best to stay positive, I am happily moving forward. My mental pain comes at random times. Sometimes it haunts me first thing in the morning, while other times it surprises me before bedtime. I cannot avoid my mental pain because it sporadically appears when it wants to. The only thing I can do is learn to live with it and be happy in the process. How do I stay happy? By practicing positive affirmations and reminding myself that pain is temporary; it always eventually goes away.”

“Pain does not define me. I am not my pain even though it tries to trick me. It can be deceiving too, sometimes manifesting as anxiety, depression or intrusive symptoms such as nightmares. Sometimes my pain makes me avoid certain people and places. I have to constantly fight back to set my pain in its place. It can be a challenge to interact with it, but I often overcome it. I am stronger than my pain and have gotten this far in life. I will continue to flourish despite knowing that my pain will revisit me in the future. No one can prevent me from being the master of my mind; pain is only an uninvited visitor. I am strong and courageous.

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You Are Free Of Emotional Pain

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Positive Affirmation: Emotional Pain

“I am free of emotional pain because I am in tune with my emotions and I am in control of them at all times. Even when people hurt me, I know how to immediately recognize negative emotions and process them effectively. I don’t allow emotional pain to hold me back in life. Emotions are like clouds that come and go; I observe and process them and allow them to float away. I am in control of how I feel today and tomorrow!”

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Getting Good At Saying Goodbye

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Saying Goodbye Hurts

Nobody likes saying goodbye to a close friend or relative; it brings upon feelings of detachment and sadness. But all good things must come to an end, at least momentarily. Rather than going through the same cycle of pain after every goodbye, you have to learn how to effectively give goodbyes and protect yourself in the process.

If you find yourself experiencing pain and detachment upon saying goodbye, then that means that you had a great time! This is the goal with every meaningful interaction. So why do we punish ourselves afterwards by feeling gloomy? The reason is because our mind has found comfort in the interaction and does not want to lose its grip on it.

Humans are very social creatures. When we become comfortable with other people, we have a tendency to want to hold on to an interaction for as long as possible. Positive relationships bring us comfort, safety and a sense of wellbeing. With the world being so competitive and cruel at times, being around people who are nice to us is like a breath of fresh air.

But rather than going through an intense session of missing someone after their departure, you have to learn how to control your emotions in a healthy way. Ignoring your feelings is not the right way and intensely missing their presence for 24-48 hours afterwards is not effective either.

It is best if you come to acceptance with their departure right before a goodbye happens. If you know that they will be leaving from your life in a day or two, mentally prepare yourself for the goodbye. Remind yourself how good of a time it has been and that everything happens for a reason; have faith in the process.

Having faith is an important step in the process of saying goodbye to someone. When you have faith, you become more confident of the outcomes and you better understand why a certain situation is unfolding the way that it is. But when you don’t have faith in the process, you become more vulnerable to experiencing lingering emotions which can impact your mental well-being.

Life has a way of bringing people back together who once shared a loving relationship. Whether that is a family member, a close friend or a significant other, it doesn’t matter; trust the process. Don’t torment yourself because life has pulled them aside for a while. Say your goodbyes, treasure the memories with all your heart and mind and go back to living a healthy and positive life.

This is how you get good at saying goodbye.

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Lonely Feeling Deep Inside

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What To Do When Feeling Lonely

The best thing to do when feeling lonely is take a minute and remind yourself of everything that you have. Even though the feeling of loneliness hurts and is quite a stinger, being grateful for everything that you have will help you maintain the right attitude in life and get you through this journey at a smoother pace.

Some people are lonely and are married, have plenty of friends and are close to their family. Loneliness does not always stem from too little interaction with others; sometimes the quality of the relationships is what matters more!

Whenever you are feeling lonely, do whatever it takes to avoid putting yourself down. Do not become your own worst enemy! You need every bit of energy and love from deep inside yourself to get through this chapter of your life. Loneliness does not last forever; it resolves over time after an honest and sincere conversation with yourself!

The best thing to do when feeling lonely is to remain preoccupied with an activity. Distract your mind from the painful feeling deep inside by finding something productive to do: watch a movie, listen to music, read a novel, educate yourself about a certain topic, go for a jog, meet a friend for a cheeseburger and coca-cola, etc.

Some of you might say, “I do all of that and I still feel lonely!” Again, loneliness does not disappear overnight. Sometimes life wants you to experience loneliness so you can come out stronger in the long run! After all, life does work in mysterious ways, so don’t be so hard on yourself!

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