Experience Your Sadness

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Not Running Away From Sadness

Whenever we experience sadness, we tend to bury it right away rather than allowing it to linger. This is because nobody likes the feeling of sadness so it’s easier to just brush it under the carpet and clean it up later. The problem with doing so is that you are not processing what is making you feel sad in the first place. Even though sadness is an uncomfortable emotion, you want to fully immerse yourself in it and see what thoughts and feelings will come out of it.

For some, it’s not an easy process because they feel like their ego is being jeopardized. They believe that if they feel sad, their masculinity is being threatened. For others on the opposite end of the spectrum, they tend to spend too much time dwelling over their sadness, experiencing it all day and never letting go of it. You don’t want to be at any end of the spectrum; the happy medium is always best.

This involves experiencing sadness when it kicks in but also knowing when to turn it off when certain circumstances arise. If you’re at work, it’s better to suppress it for the time being and revisit it later on. But if you’re at home and have nothing important to do, you can try practicing mindfulness while also becoming in touch with your sadness. This will allow you to process the thoughts associated with your sadness and potentially help you recover from it.

It’s always better to process your sadness rather than leaving it unhinged. There’s almost always a reason that you are feeling sad and you need to get to the bottom of it. Don’t be afraid to reveal new thoughts and feelings which are foreign to you; this is the process of growing in life. And always remember that you are never alone in experiencing sadness; millions of people all over the world are experiencing it with you this very moment.

What are some things that you are sad about?

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Embarrassed About Being Depressed

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When Depression Eats You Alive

Many people continue to suffer from depression in silence; they have no one to talk to because no one will understand. That is their belief. They also tend to believe that being depressed equates to being weak and that people will look down upon them if they find out that they are feeling depressed. But the truth is that many people around the world are currently depressed; it’s not something to be ashamed of.

The psychology behind being ashamed about depression has to do with the ego or the persona that you present to the world. When you feel depressed, you don’t have your best mask on to present to the world; whatever is lacking on the inside tends to manifest on the out. So for people who care a lot about their image, it becomes overwhelming to share their depression, so they either hide it or kill themselves to escape their reality.

But that’s exactly what makes depression a difficult disorder to deal with; it does its best to kill you within by first isolating you from the rest of the world. It’s very difficult to be depressed and continue living your normal life at the same time; the two pictures are no longer congruent. On the outside, everything keeps moving forward while on the in, everything is slowed down as if you’re turning into a corpse.

When this happens, depressed people start to fall behind and self-isolate. They start to feel hopeless for the future and begin to entertain suicidal ideations; they see the darkness as no way out but by only ending their existence. And it’s much worse for people who are ashamed of their depression; they’re definitely not motivated to even admit that they’re depressed in the first place.

People who are ashamed of their depression will deny feeling depressed or minimize it at the very least, “I guess I feel sad but it’s no big deal! Can I go home now? Can I be discharged?” The dangerous thing about these depressed people is that they sometimes hide their symptoms very well, fooling many around them into believing that they are not going through anything out of the ordinary.

If you are suffering from depression, please don’t be embarrassed to share your experience with others. You are doing yourself a disservice if you continue to hide your symptoms in the shadows. You deserve the help and support that is available from psychiatrists and other mental health workers. Don’t torture yourself behind the curtains; pull them wide open and let the sun into your life!

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Isolated Heart

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Searching For Connection In A Time Of Crisis

The alarm rings precisely at 8:00 am. Your eyes open to the same four walls surrounding your physical presence. As you sit up in bed and look outside, not much movement can be observed . . . you’re still in a state of quarantine. You start to wonder if your mind or your heart feels more isolated. You quickly feel it in your chest, “My isolated heart at it again.”

You wonder if anyone else is feeling this way: isolated, broken, lonely, sad, miserable, hopeless and anxious. Does it even matter if anyone else is feeling like this? You can’t reach them anyways. Texting and calling feels superficial at this point. Your interest in virtual connections has been saturated; it feels superficial and distant.

You just want someone who can understand and share your pain. But why would you want others to share your pain? Isn’t that evil? Perhaps at this point in time, social distancing is making you bitter and you no longer care for others. But then your mind starts rationalizing on how your heart has gone crazy.

Usually it’s the other way around; your heart attempts to correct your mind which is prone to experiencing evil thoughts. But during this coronavirus pandemic, your isolated heart is becoming susceptible to evilness. Your mind is already affected by evilness but it tries to salvage your heart because it knows that without a pure heart, it will let you down.

And there you are stuck in the middle of three components: a fragile mind screaming for substances as a form of entertainment, a depressed heart that is now bleeding tears rather than oxygenated blood and you. You are the third component who has to quickly get your mind and heart under control or you will go down with them.

But how do you avoid going down? You stay positive during times of adversity and you connect with people who can understand your pain and who are going through a difficult experience themselves. When we connect and share hope and love, nothing can bring us down. This is one of the goals of The DSM Ready Movement.

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I Want To Cry And Die

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Life Is Too Precious To Kill Myself

Whenever you’re feeling down in the dumps, remind yourself of everything that you have to be thankful for! Also remind yourself that you are not the only one feeling down and low. The whole world feels like that from time to time. You’re not any different because you’re feeling depressed and want to cry and die! Remember that there is always someone else in a worse position than you are in right now!

We all cry and want to die from time to time; it’s called being human! No person goes through this life without experiencing thoughts of ending their existence. But the difference is when the thoughts go away or linger and start to take over your belief system. When suicidal thoughts begin to influence you too much, then it’s time to seek immediate help.

Sadness is inherent in almost every situation in this world. You can be having the best time of your life and suddenly be confronted with the most terrible news, changing your entire perspective on life within a few minutes. You cannot outrun sadness; it’s part of the emotional experience which humans have to go through.

But let’s face it, life is too precious to kill yourself! There are so many loving and supportive people out there who care for us and want to see us succeed. There are so many loving animals out there who love us unconditionally and make us want to squeeze them like a comfy pillow!

Life provides us with so many exciting situations, making us feel ecstatic and on cloud nine at times. When surfing on cloud nine, we forget about our depression and love life more than ever before. That’s what you should be aiming for every day! Seek those happy feelings and if you find them, share them with those around you.

Happiness is contagious; it spreads faster than the destructive wildfire known as sadness. But the difference is that sadness is very destructive once it gets going. The key is to put out this fire before it gets a chance to breath. Don’t let this fire take away your last breath!

Your last breath in life should be when it’s time for you to go naturally, in a state of peace and happiness. Your last breath is when God says so.

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Down In The Dumps

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Depression Stole My Soul

Depression lurks around like free-floating bacteria; you can catch it as easily as catching a cold. Many people are depressed and do not even know it. In children, depression may present as irritability. A very common initial presentation of depression reported by patients is fatigue; “I feel tired all of the time.”

Many people don’t want to admit feeling depressed; they see it as a weakness. They think that it can’t be happening to them, so they experience denial. But denial does not take away depression; if anything, it makes it worse. Depression strives in denial; it wants you to stay in that state of mind.

Some people are so depressed that they can no longer function. They report that they have to force themselves to eat; it becomes a chore. Some will not get out of bed all day; they will remain paralyzed for hours at a time, only to get up to use the bathroom. Imagine no sunlight entering your home and laying like a corpse for 12 hours at a time!

The worst thing that you can do for a depressed person is to not take their condition seriously; this can actually be the trigger for them to pull the plug and end their life. When you are suspicious of someone being depressed, believe it! And help them seek help before it’s too late.

You have no idea how much help you can be to a person who has had their soul stolen by depression. In their eyes, you become like their guardian angel, giving them hope and guidance. But if their guardian angel disappears, what is left for them to keep pushing forward? Usually . . . not much.

Don’t allow depression to keep spreading like an evil virus, consuming everyone who enters its path. The more we open up to each other, the easier it will be to overcome depression. But if we remain isolated, selfish and ignorant, many people will continue living in pain; many will also continue to end their life.

Together we can.

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