Nosy People

Nosy man with gray hair staring

Not Feeding Into People’s Curiosity

Nosy people are those who you have little interaction with or who know you decently well. One of the most annoying feelings is when a nosy person attempts to learn more about your life. Not feeding into people’s curiosity is something that you have to learn how to do, if you want to get better at protecting your privacy.

First of all, being nosy is totally unacceptable. There’s a difference between casually inquiring about someone else’s life and inquiring when you haven’t seen them in a couple of months. We all do some casual inquiring from time to time; it’s called human nature. But it’s terribly uncomfortable when someone who you haven’t seen in a few months and who you’re not even close to, starts digging into your life the moment that you run into them again.

The problem is that you often feel bad for not engaging in conversation with them. But when you do, they then take advantage, intentionally or unintentionally, by starting to nosedive into your life and wanting to learn more about what you do in your free time. When this occurs, you’re put in an awkward situation because you don’t know how much you should divulge.

If you tell them that you don’t feel like talking about this topic, then it comes off has suspicious, strange or even awkward. But if you start telling them about what you do during your free time, they start asking more questions about this and that, continuing to make you feel uncomfortable and even insecure at times.

So how do you handle these situations? You have to have confidence in yourself and know exactly how much information you’re willing to share with others. Never be cornered into feeling pressure about sharing information about yourself with nosy people. If you don’t want to share anything, then make it clear to them, “Everything is going well. Thanks for asking” and change the topic or walk away.

But what you should never find yourself doing is leaving a conversation with a nosy person, feeling insecure or even sad about yourself. This often occurs for a couple of reasons:

  • You weren’t comfortable sharing information about yourself in the first place
  • You shared way too much information than you were planning too
  • Their questions made you self-conscious because you felt like you didn’t give much exciting details about your personal time

The third point is quite common; many even lie and falsify information in order to impress others about their social life. You never want to lead a fake life, but you also shouldn’t feel compelled to share details about your social life if you don’t want to. Stand up for yourself and be wise about who you share your life with.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Why Is Everyone Talking About Area 51?

Stop sign and warning sign at the border of Area 51

Curiosity Killed The Cat

What the human mind cannot observe in person, it craves unconsciously in order to learn more about it. When you don’t have the answer to a certain question, you become more motivated to seek and discover an explanation. Curiosity is innate in all human beings; we want to be able to learn more about the unknown.

Area 51 is a highly classified United States Air Force facility in Nevada, that has historically been tied to the Roswell UFO incident. It is believed that in 1947, a UFO crashed and the United States military recovered the extraterrestrial occupants, eventually leading to a possible cover-up. Ever since then, conspiracy theories have surrounded this military base and UFOs in general.

It is not surprising to see certain ideas or conspiracy theories make a resurgence. People want to obtain information to which they have no access to. If it weren’t for curiosity, humans wouldn’t have made the advancements which we see and observe in present day.

For many people, information is like an addicting drug: the more you obtain it, the more you want to keep digging. Information provides people with new ideas and alternative ways of viewing life; it stimulates them like a breath of fresh air. But sometimes certain information may get you into trouble!

The reality is that being inquisitive about other people’s affairs or seeking unnecessary investigations may get you into trouble. There are many sources of information, but many of these sources may also not come from a good place. When you go sniffing around where you are not supposed to, dangerous situations may arise!

It’s always best to keep your curiosity to a minimum in regards to controversial information. If you’re meant to discover new information, then it will happen without you investigating and inquiring about every source of information that is out there. The risk you impose on yourself by continuously inquiring on new information, is many times not worth the effort to begin with.

In the grand scheme of things, area 51, the JFK assassination or 9/11 are examples of situations in which people don’t feel satisfied with the answers which have been provided to them; they want new details that will stimulate their minds. And there is nothing wrong with curiosity, as long as the information which you are seeking will not place you into hot water.

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