When Patients Cry

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We Are Human Too

Whether cancer patients, intellectually disabled patients or behavioral health patients, one thing remains in common for all of them: the deep feelings which they experience on a daily basis. The familiar uphill battle which they face every day, involving digesting their diagnosis, taking their medications and maintaining a smile on their faces, is what makes their experiences more difficult than others. And for all of those reasons, patients sometimes need to release, and that release comes in the form of tears.

Society does a great job at looking down upon crying, especially when it comes to men. Men are supposed to be masculine creatures who only display strength and leadership. And if they are caught displaying feminine traits or acts such as crying, they are looked down upon.

But crying has nothing to do with gender; it has to do with being human! We all experience emotions, pain, difficulties and even mental illness. Most of us can relate to being a patient in the hospital at one point in our lives; not necessarily a mental health patient, but anything related to being sick or injured.

We have all experienced what it feels like to be admitted to a hospital and to be thrown into a gown for several days. Now imagine the many patients who remain in the hospital for months at a time, some even for years in state psychiatric hospitals! Do you still look down upon men who cry?

Being a patient is one of the most difficult roles experienced by a person: you lose your confidence, you’re filled with worry and you place your hope onto the hands of another person. For mental health patients, not only are they in the hospital or following up as outpatients, but they have their mental struggles to deal with on a daily basis.

And even for people who aren’t patients, crying is a natural process that is very normal to experience. When we cry, we are processing our emotions and painful thoughts, and shedding them away in the form of physical tears. But when we hold ourselves back from crying, we are containing the negative emotions and pain within, worsening our overall well-being.

Whether it’s our tears dripping down our faces or our patients’, at the end of the day, we are human too.

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I Want To Cry And Die

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Life Is Too Precious To Kill Myself

Whenever you’re feeling down in the dumps, remind yourself of everything that you have to be thankful for! Also remind yourself that you are not the only one feeling down and low. The whole world feels like that from time to time. You’re not any different because you’re feeling depressed and want to cry and die! Remember that there is always someone else in a worse position than you are in right now!

We all cry and want to die from time to time; it’s called being human! No person goes through this life without experiencing thoughts of ending their existence. But the difference is when the thoughts go away or linger and start to take over your belief system. When suicidal thoughts begin to influence you too much, then it’s time to seek immediate help.

Sadness is inherent in almost every situation in this world. You can be having the best time of your life and suddenly be confronted with the most terrible news, changing your entire perspective on life within a few minutes. You cannot outrun sadness; it’s part of the emotional experience which humans have to go through.

But let’s face it, life is too precious to kill yourself! There are so many loving and supportive people out there who care for us and want to see us succeed. There are so many loving animals out there who love us unconditionally and make us want to squeeze them like a comfy pillow!

Life provides us with so many exciting situations, making us feel ecstatic and on cloud nine at times. When surfing on cloud nine, we forget about our depression and love life more than ever before. That’s what you should be aiming for every day! Seek those happy feelings and if you find them, share them with those around you.

Happiness is contagious; it spreads faster than the destructive wildfire known as sadness. But the difference is that sadness is very destructive once it gets going. The key is to put out this fire before it gets a chance to breath. Don’t let this fire take away your last breath!

Your last breath in life should be when it’s time for you to go naturally, in a state of peace and happiness. Your last breath is when God says so.

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Enjoy Your Own Company

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Crying From Time To Time

It is very important to learn to be comfortable spending a lot of time by yourself. Many people complain of loneliness or boredom when by themselves. These are normal reactions, but if you are always feeling lonely or bored by yourself, then you may have a bigger problem at hand.

Consistently feeling lonely or bored by yourself means that you are not finding pleasure in your own company. There are many reasons for this: insecurity, attention-seeking, impatience, ineffective time management or lack of self-control. If you do not learn to enjoy your own company, you will always rely on someone else to provide you with happiness.

One advantage to enjoying your own company is that it enhances your experience when you are with others. If you can have fun when you are alone, imagine how much fun you can have when you are around others! And after you are done spending time with others, you will go back to enjoying spending time with yourself!

But if you rely on others to have fun, then you will return back to loneliness and boredom when by yourself. The most important point is that you come first! You must be content with your presence. People can tell when you love yourself, but they can also tell when you are not comfortable by yourself; you reek of desperation and attention.

Another important point to mention is to never be ashamed to cry when you are by yourself! Crying from time to time can actually be very beneficial for your mental health:

  • It helps relieve stress
  • It helps dissolve emotions that you have been holding on too
  • It helps relieve pressure tied to worries and concerns
  • It helps you become more in tune with yourself
  • It humbles you by helping dissolve your ego when it inflates too much

For women, crying may not be an issue. But for men, society has trained us to believe that crying is a sign of weakness. It is quite the opposite. Weakness is when you do not have the courage to become in tune with yourself and dissolve emotions which are impacting your relationships and mental health.

You are not weak by enjoying your own company and crying from time to time! But you are weak when you constantly need to be around others and are ashamed or too proud to cry from time to time.

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