Being The Center Of Attention

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Sharing The Spotlight

Learning how to be content with not being the center of attention all the time will serve you very well. It helps you realize that not everything is about you and that other people deserve just as much attention. By allowing the attention to shift within a group, you are promoting a nurturing and healthy environment for everyone to grow and learn from one another.

People who have difficulty with not being the center of attention are either suffering from histrionic personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder or have a very inflated ego. Guess what happens when attention naturally shifts away from them? They burst.

You want to be modest in life and by always being in the spotlight, you are actually inflating your ego, which prevents the development of modesty. A healthy balance is always key to developing and maintaining a stable state of mind and emotional wellbeing. It is more important for you to feel good mentally than to have your ego massaged on a consistent basis.

You will start to notice that you will appreciate yourself more when you don’t always have attention directed towards you. It helps you in many ways:

  • You become more observant of what other people have to say
  • You become more observant of how other people behave
  • You improve your listening skills and learn more from others
  • You give yourself more time to gather your thoughts
  • You humble yourself
  • You start to learn how to become more selective in your word choice
  • People become more appreciative of your presence
  • People respect the fact that you give others a chance to share the spotlight

Whenever you find yourself seeking way too much attention, take a step back and ask yourself, “do I really need all of this?” It is not about how much attention you receive; it is about the quality of the attention which you receive. Receiving less attention but delivering more memorable acts, is worth much more than receiving a lot of attention on silly and immature behavior.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)


Suffer The Results Of Your Behavior

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Knowledge Takes Practice

Knowledge is very important to have: it helps you build connections, maintain intelligent conversations and keeps you educated about different concepts in life. Knowledge can be acquired through life experience and reading.

No one can question your life experience! What you have gone through and seen with your own eyes is yours; you were there in that moment to take away something from it. Life experience is very valuable because it teaches you concepts and ideas which you cannot obtain from a book, such as relationships, decisions and valuable information learned from other people.

Reading teaches you information that can make you more knowledgeable on various topics. But one important point to make is that knowledge takes practice; you cannot read for a certain amount of time and expect to maintain the knowledge indefinitely. Your brain is constantly repressing old information no longer being used and applied and learning new information presented to it.

Your behavior is determined by many factors, including life experience and knowledge obtained from books. Therefore, if you lack significant life experience or you are not well-read, your behavior will deliver you results that may be subpar; you will suffer at the subpar level.

The solution is to expose yourself to as many different life experiences and to become educated through reading and learning from others. Knowledge does not last forever; you have to practice to maintain your current level of knowledge and to escalate it to higher levels!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)