Verbally-Aggressive People

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Dealing With Insecure People

Verbally-aggressive people are those who are typically insecure and project their emotions onto others. Because they are constantly dealing with negative thoughts and feelings on a daily basis, they attempt to redirect them onto others; especially those who are nice and kindhearted. This is because they find nice people to be easier targets.

Kind people are easier targets because they don’t often argue back. Kind people tend to be mature, responsible and respectable; they don’t feel the need to respond in malicious ways. So verbally-aggressive people take advantage of that and continue to direct their insecurities onto them.

Dealing with insecure people should not be a complex task. The best way to handle them is by allowing them to say whatever they want; act like you are not affected. If you do show signs of weakness, then they will capitalize on that moment and continue their aggression even more.

You may wonder why you should allow insecure people to continue being aggressive towards you. It all depends on the situation. If they are your friends whom you get along with, then allow them to keep doing it as long as you are not getting hurt in the process. Getting into arguments will lead you no where and only risks destroying your friendships.

If they are not your friends, then still allow them to remain verbally-aggressive; again, that is if you are not offended. But if they start getting under your skin, then kindly call them out on their words and actions in a friendly and mature way. The idea is to never show weakness by giving into their aggression.

You will always encounter insecure people; there’s no getting rid of them. To live a life with no insecure people is like living a life with people who have everything figured out; it just doesn’t exist. Insecurity is part of human nature; for some, more than others. If you react to every insecure person who comes your way, you will quickly become a very unhappy person.

Keep in mind that when people are verbally-aggressive towards you, they know very well what they are doing. They also know very well that they are the weaker person. So by demonstrating resilience, maturity and even humor, you’re showing them that you’re the stronger and better person. And you might even motivate them to learn from your impressive behavior!

Don’t take verbally-aggressive people seriously. Fill them with shame with your kind and loving ways.

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Hostile Work Environment

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The Hostile Nature Of Some Psychiatric Patients

You will find that there any many psychiatric patients who have a hostile nature. If things don’t go their way, they will take it out on you if you catch them at the wrong time of day. There are many reasons for this: they may be disorganized, psychotic or have a personality disorder such as narcissism or antisocial traits.

These hostile patients are extremely difficult to work with, because they won’t allow you to get close to them on a personal level. On the one hand, you want to help them to overcome their symptoms and get discharged; on the other, you feel threatened and start to lose interest in helping them.

Persistence is key with these patients, but at the right time. If you keep insisting on meeting with them on a consistent basis without spacing out your requests, they will only distance themselves even more from you. They may even start to verbally or physically threaten you.

The threats make no difference, because you can always inject them with an antipsychotic or anxiolytic. But you don’t want to develop a relationship that revolves around hostility and injections; this won’t help the patient in the short or long run. You are there to establish a therapeutic alliance with the patient.

It can be very frustrating to observe hostile patients defeat themselves in their own treatment. But one has to understand that sometimes their mental illness is so bad, that their judgment becomes way too clouded. With a poor judgment and a shaky insight, it also becomes more difficult to establish a therapeutic alliance.

But patients also need to understand that psychiatrists are there to help them; we are not their enemies or punching bags. Without our help, patients are only cornering themselves into a deeper hole. Deeper holes never turn out with positive results. Therefore, patients need to take it easier on their psychiatrists and allow themselves to be helped.

But it’s also important to keep in mind that not all psychiatric patients can take it easier on their psychiatrists. Many are too psychotic to make such a decision, even if their personalities do not align with their oppositional behaviors. It’s important for a psychiatrist not to forget how a mental illness can influence a patient’s reaction towards them.

Both parties bring important contributions to the table: the patient provides their insight into how they view the world and their illness; the psychiatrist provides his knowledge and understanding on how to better help the patient. It’s a win-win situation when both parties cooperate and form a strong therapeutic alliance!

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