We Are Selfish Creatures
Giving to others is not a natural process that we are born with. From the moment that we take our first breath, we reek of selfishness and want to absorb as much attention as we possibly can. This selfishness continues throughout our lives and never stops. It just differs in severity from person to person. That’s why we need to practice how to give to others.
Giving to others is a difficult process for many people because it feels unnatural. Whenever a thought crosses your mind about giving something to someone, you become bombarded with question marks about that particular individual: “Do they deserve it? Will they even like it? What am I getting out of this?”
Forget about giving to others during Christmas or other holidays; most people do it because they’ve been programed by society to give during these events. They also know that they’ll probably get something back in return. But the act of true giving is on a random day of the year when the other person does not expect it. Anyone can easily buy someone a present for Christmas, but not anyone can wake up on a random day and perform an act of kindness!
Remember that giving is not always about materialism. Actions are actually much more valuable and stick longer in a person’s memory bank than objects. Actions are also harder to perform than buying someone a present. Actions determine your character and if your character does not line up with your intended actions, then nothing gets done.
That’s why we have to practice giving to others. Even saying something nice to your coworker or friend on a random day is an act of giving. Answering your poor aunt’s phone call after she has tried reaching you for over 2 months is an act of giving. Talking to the cashier at your local supermarket and asking how they’re doing today is an act of giving.
Don’t fall into the trap of believing that giving is always about materialism. No matter how expensive an object is, in the end, it’s much cheaper compared to actions and words. Materialism promotes superficial relationships, but your heart draws in authentic connections.
We don’t have to hide it from ourselves anymore: we are selfish creatures by design! But we can change that if we ask God for guidance. God sacrificed his own Son Jesus Christ on the cross to die for our sins, so that we can be saved on judgment day. Through God, we can learn anything and become better human beings. We just have to be willing.
Practice letting go of your selfishness and start giving more to others.
Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)