Embrace Sadness

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See Where Sadness Takes You

Don’t fret it. Don’t hide it. Don’t bury it. See where it takes you. See what it makes you feel. See what thoughts it brings to the surface. We all tend to shy away for sadness. We all tend to use the unconscious, immature defense mechanism known as denial. We all tend to carry on like sadness is “not me.” But it is you! It is us! There are times when sadness becomes prevalent and we have to stare it in the eye and tell it, “You’re back . . . what are you going to teach me this time?”

Sadness is not something that should bring you embarrassment; it happens for a reason. Your job is to find out that reason and learn from it. If you suppress your sadness, do you think that it’ll go away? Maybe only temporarily. Suppression means that you are consciously moving a negative emotion or thought into your unconscious and no longer dealing with it in the present moment. But one day, it’ll come back out and you’ll have to encounter it once more.

So why deal with suppressed sadness at a future date when you can just deal with it today? Don’t shy away. Sadness is here to teach you a lesson; learn from it!

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When Patients Split

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I Want A Second Opinion

There are times when patients will blame their psychiatrist for worsening symptoms, “I don’t think the medication is working; my suicidal thoughts have gotten worse since starting the antidepressant; I want a second opinion!” Patients will split due to many reasons:

  • Age and immaturity
  • Lack of patience
  • Frustration and taking it out on their psychiatrist
  • Unconscious inner conflicts
  • Boredom with therapy
  • Drug use and getting carried away

. . . and many more. As a psychiatrist, you have to understand that it’s better to allow the patient to seek another provider’s professional guidance than trying to convince them to stick around. As a patient, you have to understand that we are not perfect and cannot always effectively help you with your problems. As a patient, you should also understand that seeking a “second opinion” does not mean that you will be satisfied and might actually set you a few steps back, because that means that you have to start all over with a psychiatrist who does not know you.

The best recommendation for psychiatrists is to stick by their professional expertise and utilize empathy as much as possible. The best recommendation for patients is to trust their psychiatrist and avoid making impulsive decisions based on frustration encountered in therapy.

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Never Stop Believing

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The Power Lies Within You

It’s easy to allow society to discourage you from your wildest dreams; after all, why would anyone want to see you succeed? Use that as motivation when society laughs at your dreams. You can climb as high as you’d like because this is your life and you are the player; God has given you free will to live as you wish. Don’t allow lavish goals to become impossibilities; anything is achievable if you can envision it within your eye’s mind. Forget all the details of “how, when or even why.” Just keep dreaming and believe that life will place all the right pieces into their place. The next thing you’ll know after you open your eyes is your newfound reality based on a once upon a time dream . . .

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When Depression Haunts You

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Uncontrolled Depression

You may have experienced depression five or ten years ago but it doesn’t mean that you’re now in the clear. Depression can always reemerge like a deadly virus that no one expected to turn into a pandemic. That’s because unresolved depression can go unnoticed for years at a time, only to make itself noticeable unexpectedly. You may have been feeling depressed the whole time and not even know it; sometimes life has a way of keeping you distracted from your own feelings!

The last thing that you want to do is ignore your depression and bury it somewhere in the closet hoping to never having to deal with it; this is a recipe for disaster. Depression is not something that you sweep under the rug only to return to it centuries later. The symptoms of depression are too powerful to ignore and they will soon catch up with you; you will either seek treatment and recover or spiral down into a dark pit full of misery, alcohol or drugs.

So what is my recommendation to you? Don’t be afraid; don’t be shy; don’t be ashamed to seek help and talk about your feelings. What’s the worst that can happen? Nothing. You have everything to gain by opening up to a psychiatrist, therapist or psychologist and seeking treatment and better days. It’s time that you put your ego aside and seek the care that your mind, body and soul deserve!

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Leeches Swarm Us From All Angles

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User Beware

Leeches are people who sponge off of you and do not offer much in return. For instance, they request to borrow money but do not pay you the correct amount back in time, or they offer to help you with a project and demand recognition for their efforts, despite the fact that their help was not that great to begin with. You can tell when you are dealing with a leech by the way that they interact with you and others; they’re needy, obnoxious, demanding and “lose it” when things don’t go their way. It’s quite frustrating to witness because you wonder to yourself, “How do people have such great insecurities to the point of making a fool out of themselves?” But that’s not your problem to fix. What you need to do is to remain mature, cool, calm and collected and carry on.

Cheers!

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The Unpredictability of Psychosis

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0-60 In a Heartbeat

One thing to keep in mind with psychotic patients is that their behavior is very unpredictable. They can literally be having a pleasant conversation with you for 5-10 minutes, and 15 minutes later, they are yelling, cursing, agitated, banging on the walls and demanding medications! You scratch your head and wonder, “What in the world? I was just talking to them and everything seemed to be going well!” Psychosis could care less if everything was going well; when it wants its patient to terrorize, it will unleash all of hell’s dogs to get its fix. This does not mean that you should always expect psychotic patients to become dysregulated and violent; just be aware that the chances of that happening are higher than with other patients.

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Why Do People Use Drugs

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Everything High

Because it helps them to escape reality. It turns your world into a 3D-enhanced virtual reality room, allowing you to play with the controls as you wish, regardless of the consequences. Users lose interest in normality and forget that they also have responsibilities that cannot be sacrificed for pleasure, especially responsibilities to themselves and others around them. Drugs swallow some up like a black hole, while others can swiftly swim in the nearby space, without any problems returning back to reality and to their responsibilities.

What is your take on drug use and is society headed towards full-blown legalization of all drugs in 50+ years?

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The Dark Side Of The Moon

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8/27/20 Dream Analysis

  • Unknown location (dream I): I was in a house with two big sliding doors overlooking a parking lot. I noticed a man in the parking lot looking at me in surprise and two men beating an innocent man in the street who was confronting them. It felt like I was in Florida or something. The man in the parking lot jumped over the gate and fled while the other two were most likely hiding the body. I pulled the shades down and hid under my bed thinking that they would come to kill me too. Later that night, I was eating in the bedroom with two other guys when we noticed a familiar man pulling up in a van in the parking lot; we thought it was them who were back to kill us because we were witnesses to their murder and suspicious activity. Someone threw me a gun and I went in the backroom to warn my dad that they were here and to get himself ready and the dog and head for the car out back. I ran downstairs to the basement to get a shotgun for my dad (I also noticed a Chinese guy named James from medical school coming up) and then as I got back upstairs, someone was walking in the hallway saying “hello?” I did not see the person.
  • Unknown location (dream II): I was driving my Mercedes quite fast on very wet highways that were surrounded by many streams and marshes and there were no railings between the highways and streams. I then lost control of my car and I ended up flying with the car and landing perfectly on an island in a young man’s rich property. I noticed my car was actually a lambo. I knocked on the door of the mansion and a young man with his girlfriend answered. I told them what had happened and if they could help me get off this island. The young man agreed to take my car while his GF agreed to drive me in hers. Then something happened to the young man because supposedly there was something evil at play. I was then stuck with his GF and it was either me or the young man who had turned into a vampire and was getting ready to wake up.
  • Unknown location (dream III): I heard a scary voice that almost sounded demonic saying, “go awayyyy” and then I woke up to the noise of a loud truck outside that actually made a car’s alarm system go off.

Freud is known for saying, “dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.” Does anyone have any takes on the dreams mentioned above? Feel free to share you dreams as well.

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