Comparing Yourself to Others

We all make the mistake to assume that others are happier than us just because they’re doing activities that sound fun. You are constantly comparing yourself to others which can be toxic for your mental health. This is especially true if you’re constantly putting yourself down while believing that others are living the life. Even if they are living fancy lives, what does this have to do with you? You waste so much energy magnifying their life instead of using it to improve yours.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

People have always compared themselves to others since the beginning of time. Physical comparisons focus on musculature, height and beauty. Material comparisons focus on wealth, cars, clothes and homes. People even compare their character traits by trying to emulate others. They love those who display humor, are the center of attention, attract attention from the opposite sex and demonstrate leadership. But the worst of them all is social media comparisons; people do it unconsciously.

What do I mean by unconscious social media comparisons? Take for instance Instagram, where you can find thousands of images on beauty and materialism. Some people will open the app every day and admire the lives of others that they don’t have. But rather than admiring them in a good way, they sit there feeling down because they lack the beauty and wealth which they see on the screen. This causes them to feel insecure and sad and results in a loss of confidence. I say this is an unconscious process because many people don’t realize that it’s the images that are making them feel down. They just keep looking at them day after day.

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The Solution

Be comfortable with your physical traits and what you have. Start practicing gratitude and stop focusing on what you wish you had. There’s a difference between dreaming and seeking and comparing yourself to others. Dreaming is coming from your healthy, motivated side of your mind, while comparisons come from your insecure part of your mind. Why are you tapping into the secure portion of your mind? Let go and stop connecting with it. Focus on being thankful, practicing gratitude and keeping yourself inspired with awesome dreams.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

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