I Am Kind-Hearted

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Positive Affirmation: Heart Of Gold

“I am kind-hearted because I have learned through my life experience that doing the opposite has never resolved any problems. Weak people rely on hate and division, but I rely on God’s love which he has shared with the world before our creation. I am kind-hearted because this helps the world evolve into a better place, whether or not others recognize it. I am not like the rest because I am not of this world as God teaches us in the bible. And that’s why I am kind-hearted!”

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Gray-Hearted Individuals

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People Who Get Under Your Skin

We have all experienced being around people who get under our skin; there’s no avoiding it. These individuals roam the world like wild flock, crossing your path at predictable and unpredictable times. Some of these people you have to work with and see them on a daily basis while others randomly come and go. Whatever the situation, almost anyone will agree that they are a pain in the ass to deal with. Not only do they get under your skin, but they get under many people’s skin.

One thing to keep in mind is that attempting to understand where they come from will do you no good in the long run; you’ll often never find out. You may ask yourself why. The reason is because they will not change their perception and attitude towards you; if they haven’t after a month, six months or a year, then they never will. So why bother wasting your energy attempting to under them?

I call these people gray-hearted individuals because it’s not clear whether their hearts are filled with love or hatred. A lot of times, it feels like they are in-between; on some days you are able to sense some love while on others, all you can feel is anger, jealousy, envy and hatred. One thing that you know for sure is that their hearts are not full of love because otherwise, they wouldn’t be rude and mean to you in the first place.

People who carry a lot of love in their hearts do not consistently get under your skin. These are the people who you can feel their love radiate not only onto you, but onto everyone in the room as well. These are the people who even if you don’t have much in common with, you can sense that they are loving human beings. Remember that you don’t have to have something in common with someone who is loving.

But these gray-hearted individuals are bitter and lack a heart full of love. If they feel threatened in any way by you, they are quick to jump on your back to stab it a few hundred times; it’s almost an automatic response for them because they have been doing it their entire lives. On the other hand, if you get on their good side, they decrease their attacks on you, but at what expense are you willing to sacrifice your sanity to get on their good side? If you can do it by still being yourself, then that’s what you call emotional intelligence!

What is your experience like with these gray-hearted individuals?

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I Am In Love With The World

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Positive Affirmation: Loving The World

“I am in love with the world for God loved the world so much, that he gave his only Son Jesus Christ so that it can be saved. I do not identify with evilness but recognize its shape and form when it manifests around me and even in me at moments in time. Aside from the evilness in the world, I love the world because I am of God and I am his child. And when someone commits an evil deed towards me, I kiss his other cheek for I am here to spread love, kindness and positive vibes. I am not here to judge the world but to live for God by spreading love.”

The Importance Of Maintaining Professionalism

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You Won’t Like Everyone That You Meet

You’ll find yourself in many situations where you’ll meet new people and immediately feel the disconnect and distance. The first few moments are the warmup stage; you shoot your shot and they shoot theirs. But after about 30 seconds to a minute, you quickly realize that things are getting awkward and that maybe distance is the better option. Everyone experiences these situations and you are not alone!

What I mean by professionalism is that even though you may dislike this new person in your life, it is important to still maintain proper manners and be respectful. This seems like common sense but it’s so easy to lose your cool, especially if you’re not having a great day. Remember that just because you guys didn’t click at first does not mean that you will never click. For some relations, it just takes more time to break the ice.

But you may never break the ice and that is okay as well. Remember that the other person is still thinking about you and observing you despite their lack of connection with you. This means that by being respectful towards them, they are recognizing that your character is valuable and respectful as well. This will help you establish a good reputation that others will remember you by.

You won’t like everyone that you meet but that’s life! Don’t fret over it and definitely don’t lose sleep. Your mental health is much more valuable than getting into pointless arguments with someone who you just met. Just play it cool and focus on what you have to do. The rest will fall in its place.

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I Am Free Of Racism

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Positive Affirmation: Racism Is Not Part Of Me

“I am free of racism because I do not believe that others are less than me based on their skin color, culture, views, ethnicity, opinions or ways of being!”

I Am Free Of Hatred

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Positive Affirmation: Giving Up On Hatred

“I am free of hatred because I do not identify with jealousy, envy, evilness, anger, fights, emotional upsets and my pure heart has no room for hatred when its intention is to keep on spreading love!”

Psych Patients Desire Authenticity

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I Want To Learn More About You

It’s not so much the content of what you say but your approach and delivery. Anyone can walk in with pride and command a patient to do this or that, but the chances that the patient will listen to you or open up are not that high. An honest approach followed by consistent listening and the development of rapport and a strong therapeutic alliance will take the patient much farther into his or her treatment.

This is because like anyone in life, psychiatric patients desire authenticity. Patients are very good at sniffing doctors who are authentic from those who just go to work to make a living. The former are the ones who tend to be of the most help, regardless of the medical school or residency which they have attended. Patients want a doctor who can connect with them and put them before the doctor’s pride and image.

It’s very difficult for psychiatric patients to deal with their mental illness, especially when they are involuntarily locked into a psychiatric unit for up to 60 days at a time. Not only are they battling their internal demons, but their environment which is a closed unit with windows, some computers and a television displaying negative news from around the world. The last thing that they need is a doctor who is not authentic in their ways.

On the other hand, many physicians are struggling themselves with balancing work and their personal lives. Especially in the field of psychiatry, it’s not easy to listen and talk all day about other people’s problems and then go home and take care of yourself and your family. There is currently a high burnout rate among physicians around the world; the stress and pressure of the job is very demanding and adds up over time.

Many physicians don’t actually intend to mistreat a patient with disrespect; they are just so stressed out themselves that their encounter with the patient may come off as non-empathetic. But this is the difference between great physicians and mediocre ones; the former know how to keep their stress levels in check and maintain their professionalism at all times.

Overall, the field of psychiatry is not an easy one. Many believe that it’s not difficult to just sit around all day and talk, but talking everyday for 8-12 hours does become very tiring, especially if your life is not balanced. Whether patient or physician, everyone has a different struggle that they experience, but at the end of the day, we should all aim for authenticity and respect and nothing less.

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Don’t Allow Racism To Stir Up Hate

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Life’s Challenges In The Mix

Racism is nothing new; it’s been around since the beginning of time. Racism is not just white against black; everyone is racist against everyone, even if the mainstream media rarely reports on it. Racism will not go away anytime soon; don’t count on it. So why allow these terrible murders to stir up so much anger, negative energy and hate in our society? Why allow riots and looting to go on? These things will not solve racism and will only worsen our mental health.

You have to understand that this murder of George Floyd was not by accident when you look at the big picture. This is how life works; it introduces a powerful event in society which often ignites a wildfire of anger, frustration and anger in the masses. This is to see how the world reacts to such events and guess what? We are still failing in our reaction! Rather than remaining cool, calm and collected, we are allowing the weak side of our psyche to prevail.

This weak side of our psyche is based on anger, poor judgment such as looting and burning buildings and even violence. As a whole, society is failing in the solution to the problem. We need to be constructive in our solutions to racism and this is done by protesting in peace, carrying on with our daily objectives and not allowing anger to become our dominant emotion. The day that we will start to implement this solution towards racism, will be the day that we will no longer feel defeated and overwhelmed when another innocent person has their life robbed from them.

Honestly, do you really believe that there will not be another black man who will be killed by a police officer in the future just because we are having large demonstrations in public in 2020? There will be hundreds of more deaths and this is the sad reality of the world that we live in. Even if your grandiose goal of driving out President Trump from office ever comes true, do you believe that racism will end the day after?

Racism runs through the blood of millions of individuals worldwide; this is not something that can be stopped. So rather than igniting anger and frustration, we need to continue to live our lives in love and dignity and pray to God to help guide us. You can put the most “liberal” person in office as president and racism will still flourish; this is human nature and as I’ve said many times, human nature does not always carry the best traits in a population.

We are doing more damage to our mental health by living in pain and anger. Yes, it hurts to see George Floyd die a tragic death. Yes, those police officers deserve a grave punishment. Yes, we are in pain. No, racism will not end tomorrow or in ten years. So we must devise a new solution because the current one is failing terribly. You cannot extinguish fire with fire and that’s what we’re currently trying to do.

Let’s come together and remain cool, calm and collected. The DSM Ready Community is about uniting all races, ethnicities, religions and political affiliations, but we are not a community based on anger, protests, looting and other counterproductive emotions and behaviors. We are based on love, purity and intelligent solutions.

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Hatred In Our Hearts

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Racism Has No Boundaries

Not only is the mental health sigma up and running throughout the world, but racism as well. Stigma and racism should not even be separated; they’re both different forms of hatred but with a common goal of dividing the masses. Stigma focuses on preventing people who suffer from a mental illness from getting treatment and making them feel ashamed and insecure, while racism focuses on physically and mentally destroying others based on their skin color.

But where does stigma and racism stem from? The answer is more simple than we like to think and one does not have to go to school to find out; our hearts! Just based on numbers alone, the 7.8 billion worldwide population is going to have many bad batches of rotten fruit that will promote and approve stigma and racism. These people are either uneducated, educated but evil or simply full of hatred.

Is someone born with hatred in their heart? Absolutely not. There is no known genetic makeup that will inform parents that your child is born with a characteristic trait known as hatred. Hatred is taught and learned through human behavior and experience. If a child gets beat up by two white kids or vice versa, he or she will learn through their own experience to hate that child, along with what they hear in the mainstream media or on the internet in relation to racism.

Stigma and racism are also taught by parents and family members who promote such ideologies to their children. When children are raised in such households, they observe from a young age the thought process, content and perception of viewing others in a negative light. Racism is not only white against black; it has no boundaries and goes all ways. Do not make the mistake of believing that racism is only white against black.

How can we actually end racism rather than turning on the news and witnessing more protests in the streets? Everything stems from our hearts. What will help is establishing a global platform that will bring people to stand together against mental health stigma and racism in a peaceful way. This platform has to start somewhere but without consistent support, it will become very difficult to establish.

I started The DSM Ready Community with the vision of creating this platform, but I cannot do this on my own. That is why I am thankful to meet many of you who support this blog and comment on my daily posts. Together, we can continue to help grow this really small community so that we can one day stand on a world stage and celebrate the progression towards the end of mental health stigma and racism.

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Being A Great Sport

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Maintaining Composure During Times Of Adversity

You will encounter many situations in life where you will lose your cool and make a fool out of yourself. Let’s hope that those situations are in the past and that you can now prevent future ones from occurring. But we all know that life is very unpredictable; one minute you’re on top of the world and the next you’re fuming and steam is coming out of your ears. The key is not avoiding distressing situations as sometimes life just throws you in the middle of them without any control on your part.

But just because you lack control in certain situations does not mean that you should allow them to throw you off your game. You have to be quick to react and come up with effective solutions on the spot while maintaining proper composure. By doing this, you will avoid many awkward encounters, problems with your job and burned bridges. Anyone can act appropriate from time to time, but not anyone can be a great sport at all times.

Maintaining composure during times of adversity is not easy depending on the situation that you find yourself in. It’s so much easier to just blow up, get your anger out of the way and move on with your day. But what’s easier is not always most effective; this applies to anything in life. Oftentimes, the easier solution brings upon temporary fixes that end up crumbling when more adversity is encountered down the road.

You have to find a way to remain composed at all times, even when dealing with conflicting and uncomfortable emotions. This applies to your professional life as well as your social; the more consistent you remain in your display of emotions, the more trust people will have in you. This is all based on behavioral psychology; people are turned off by hotheads and attracted to those who are cool, calm and collected.

So the next time that you encounter a situation where you feel like you might lose your cool, take a step back and remind yourself, “This too shall pass. Just play it cool and try to make the most out of it without displaying your frustrating emotions.” The more you practice being a great sport, the easier it will become for you to handle life’s conflicts and roadblocks.

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