The Different Chapters Of Life

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Life Is Made Up Of Many Different Chapters

There are moments in life when you start to realize that things may not be going your way. You start to realize that it’s the beginning of a new chapter but you also start to worry that it may not go your way. Sometimes you start telling yourself that it may be the worst four months of your life that are about to follow. You even wake up sad asking yourself, “Do I even want to go to work today? Do I even enjoy what I do?”

What you are experiencing when this is happening is the transitioning from an old chapter in your life into a new one. No one likes transitions; it’s human nature to feel uncomfortable with changes and to prefer to remain in one place with everything already going your way. But life has many different chapters in store for you and when these changes are ready to happen, it means that it’s time to finish an old chapter and start a new one.

Sometimes you have to hop onto a new chapter in order to improve. You might not recognize the improvements at first but in the long run, you’ll come to appreciate the new chapter that was opened up to you. This is because your new chapter may be cloudy at first; everyone handles changes differently. Some people have a harder time letting go of previous chapters in their life and moving on; these are the ones who have a lot of potential to benefit from future changes.

Just remember that you are not the only one who dislikes changes in life. Many people experience difficulty moving on in life and you have to remind yourself this whenever you are feeling down. The last person that you want to be angry with is yourself. It may or may not be your fault that you are experiencing a new chapter, but you never want to take it out on yourself or others. Just go with the flow and begin the new chapter as life has it set up for you.

In the end, experiencing the different chapters of life helps shape you into the person you are. Don’t fear change but learn to let go of your past and accept your new future. It’s not easy to step out of your comfort zone, but it feels awesome once you get the hang of your new chapter and start noticing the benefits and positive changes in your character and in your life. Don’t be discouraged when the road becomes bumpy and you start feeling insecure and uncertain with yourself; we all go through it!

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I Am Free Of Ignorance

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Positive Affirmation: Ignorance

“I am free of ignorance because I stay educated and seek new information every day, bettering myself and preventing my ego from dipping its feet in a pool of ignorance, which has only brought me negativity and confrontations in the past!”

The Media Flips The Agenda

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From Corona To National Riots Overnight

Since December of 2019, the world has been focused on the coronavirus which started in China. Since it started, many where not paying close attention; a lot of people did not believe that it would ever get out of China. Towards the end of February 2020, the world realized that it was wrong; COVID-19 was swarming nations like the plague. When March hit, so did a new reality based on loss of jobs, social distancing and quarantining. The world changed forever, as if a new reset were established before our eyes.

For almost three months, humanity was quarantined at home while essential workers continued risking their lives. Mental illness increased and deaths skyrocketed from the coronavirus. When May hit, many southern states began loosening restrictions and people returned back to work. Memorial day was big for beaches; people attended like never before.

Things slowly seemed to be getting back to normal . . . until the death of George Floyd, which rocked the nation upside down. Our reality once again changed, but in the wrong direction and for the worse. Rather than continuing on the smooth momentum we had going, which was based on the virus slowing down, we transitioned into a nation based on rage, riots, looting, anarchy and violence.

Did you pay attention to the media? The narrative switched from the coronavirus to riots faster than a bolt of lightening; it’s as if the pandemic almost never happened. The new talk of the town has been these riots. The media does a great job at creating new realities for us, even if these realities do not serve our best intention. How did society suddenly jump from a rare pandemic to a nation boiled on hate? Just because one man suffered an awful and unfair death in Minneapolis?

People suffer many wrongful deaths every day in this world but the media never touches upon them. Why did the media have to go digging and create this entire fiasco? For what? So we can suffer more as if the coronavirus pandemic wasn’t enough? All the media had to do was talk about the incident for one day and then move on. Instead, it added fuel to the fire by raising tensions and stirring up the idea of racism and police brutality.

Instead of the media helping us to transition out of the pandemic and raising awareness for mental health issues for all the people who suffered for the last three months, it decided to infect us with riots, looting and curfews. Are we truly heading towards a new world order? Are these the beginning signs of control by the government? If quarantining and social distancing were not enough, we are now hit with 8 pm curfews. Think outside the box my fellow humans!

Wake up for the enemy is never sleeping.

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The Enemy Loves Chaos

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Riots: A Losing Position

You would think that people would never have to resort to rioting in 2020, but this is the sixth consecutive night of rioting in America. It’s so sad to see so many people who are lost because many who are rioting are not personally affected by racism. They just happen to be lost in the cause by rioting because their friends are doing it or are angry themselves at baseline. Rather than focusing their energy on bettering themselves, they prefer to put our officers in harm’s way and loot department stores.

How many more lives lost and years passed must we experience in order to learn that rioting will never end racism? Do rioters believe that if they make a point by burning buildings, destroying cop cars and looting expensive stores, that “the system” will suddenly change? The system will not change by enacting violence and anger in the streets; if anything, this will only motivate the system to continue racism and inequality.

Watching these riots on television makes me upset personally and as a psychiatrist, because this is not how human beings should be solving problems. This reminds me of mental health patients who arrive in the emergency department agitated and psychotic, yelling at the psychiatrist and refusing to cooperate. But after a solution like therapy, medications and talking are offered, the patient drastically improves and is no longer angry.

It disappoints me to see people marching in the streets and committing acts of violence and looting because I know that it won’t solve anything. The system is too advanced, sophisticated and stuck in its ways to be dented by rioting. If anything, this situation only promotes the creation of a police state or a totalitarian state controlled by a political police force that secretly supervises the citizens’ activities.

With President Trump in power, this country has never had a better opportunity to be given a reason to instill a political police force into play. These riots are only reinforcing this idea and breathing life into it at the same time that George Floyd yelled, “I can’t breath.” Riots were never the solution in the past and never will be in the future. The solution is peacefully marching and showing “the system” that through strength and dignity, we will continue to stand united for what we believe in.

The solution is never replacing violence for violence; this chaos is exactly what the enemy loves and gets a kick out of. Let’s stop checkmating ourselves through immature and dangerous rioting and looting and let’s start being powerful and mature individuals while standing proudly together during times of adversity.

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Riots Don’t Solve Problems

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Energy Diverted Elsewhere

With any great problem comes the desire for a better solution. If historically speaking, this problem has persisted for over one hundred years, then the solution should not resemble the problem. What I am getting at is that the problem of racism has exited for a very long time and will not stop anytime soon, so the solution that has not worked over the last one hundred years is rioting in the streets. There are more negatives than positives with this solution and it does nothing but hurt us more than we can realize.

You don’t solve violence with violence; this is like a chess match that never ends up earning the king’s reward. To become victorious in this fight against racism and hatred, you might demonstrate love and kindness towards evilness. The bible teaches us to treat our enemies with love and allow them to humiliate us in public for The Lord is keeping track until judgement day.

Riots are exactly what the enemy wants you to be doing; this is feeding into their fire. Stop being so naive and hot-headed and use your heated hearts to radiate love in return; this is the sure-fire way to become victorious and place evilness into its place. You cannot defeat evilness if you rely on violence, anger, looting and riots.

How many more lives must be lost until you wake up and properly learn how to defeat racism? Screaming and demonstrating in the streets does not solve problems; this is exactly what the elite want us to be doing and this has to do with the old agenda of achieving a race war around the world. Why continue allowing them to win just because you can’t control your anger and pain?

Jesus Christ has taught us that God is not of this world; therefore, don’t live for it. He also taught us to put God before our family, including our parents, sons and daughters and to live for God through our heart, mind and soul. When our focus and faith are rested upon God, He teaches and guides us on how to handle problems and create solutions that will help us prosper.

All of the energy wasted on the riots can be made much greater by harnessing it within us and focusing it on God and ourselves. When rioting, we give up our energy into flames and we all know where flames lead us. As children of God, we are of the light, beauty and peacefulness of God’s kingdom; our painful arrows of love are intended to heal and strengthen the spirit.

So let’s use this gift that God provides to every human born from day one of life; this gift is called love. This is how we defeat hatred, mental health stigma, racism and much more. The more we shine with love and do not allow the enemy’s bullets to penetrate our hearts, the sooner this world will turn into our favor. So wake up if you are reading this and share it with your fellow humans!

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Improving For Life

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It Never Stops Ending

As a human being, there is never a limit to how much you can improve. Even when you think that your physical and mental health are top notch, there is more that you can still do. Sometimes when we have everything going for us, we start to become complacent, allowing room for error to creep into our lives. Life is a journey and it never stops short of improvement.

Even spiritually, you can always improve and better yourself. There really is nothing that you can argue against the process of improvement. This is because improvement is very subjective; what may be considered “awesome” for one individual is considered “subpar” for another. The process of improvement is different for everyone, but it should be universally accepted that there is always room for improvement no matter how great everything may be.

If you lack the motivation to improve, then that’s a big problem on your hands. You may not see it now, but over time you will realize how your lack of motivation in the past contributed to your current problems. One of the greatest concepts to live by is something called delayed gratification. This is based on the idea of working hard today while living for tomorrow; delaying gratification in the present moment so that you can enjoy prosperity in the future.

Not many people have the will or stamina to apply delayed gratification in their lives. This requires sustained discipline to live by this concept day in and day out, especially when encountering many setbacks and failures. Many people fall short of reaching their full potential because of the lack of sustained discipline; they allow life’s adversities to prevent them from progressing in the right direction.

But if motivation has never been an issue for you, then remember to never stop improving. There is always something that you can find in your life that needs to be worked on; you just have to be honest with yourself and find the energy and time to dedicate to the task at hand. This is especially important when it comes to your physical and mental health; no one is going to help you be healthy without you first helping yourself.

Most people think of physical health but forget the importance of improving their mental health. As the body gets rusty year after year, you think the brain remains invincible? You have to make adjustments to your thoughts, perception and perhaps even interests in order to keep your mind in alignment with your present reality. One big traumatic experience may be the trigger to your slip and fall, turning you into a raging alcoholic and sacrificing your mental health in the process.

Always aim for improvement even when you think that you have accomplished everything; it never stops ending.

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Encountering The Memories From Your Teens

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Riding The Wave When It Brings You Memories

They say to never live in your past but that only applies if your past is haunting or preventing you from moving forward. Your past can hold you back if you don’t let go, especially if you have encountered traumatic experiences. Sometimes people hold onto their past, reanalyzing their mistakes over and over again, as if revisiting those memories will do anything productive. I think you get the point; avoid your past if it doesn’t contribute anything meaningful to your present.

But if your past is full of beautiful memories, by all means, revisit it as often as you get a chance! Beautiful memories from your past can still serve as insightful lessons which you can utilize as refreshers. Think of your memory vault as a bookshelf full of useful information; all you have to do is dust off the pages and dive in. Don’t let the memories stored in your hippocampus go to waste.

If your hippocampus is good enough to still hold onto childhood and adolescent memories, why not use them to your advantage? Diving into the past can help you relax in the present, especially after a long week at work. But many don’t revisit their awesome memories because they are afraid of feeling sad in the present moment, especially if their present moment is not as exciting as their past.

This is a bad way to view the situation. Many people don’t have as good of a present situation as they had in their past, but this does not mean that they should not revisit their past. Your past is not something that you should feel jealous or envious of just because your present is not as exciting. If anything, revisit those memories and learn from your past to see if you can implement some of those tactics in the present.

In other words, utilize the power of your brain; don’t just live in the present. Your brain is capable of so many extraordinary tasks, but many don’t take advantage because they are too caught up in the present moment. Sometimes you have to check out of the present moment in order to obtain a greater clarification of your life. The saying, “focus on your present and future cause those are the ones that you can change” is not completely useful because it’s leaving out the past.

It is true that you want to focus the majority of your energy and time on the present and the future, but dedicate a small percentage to your past as well. Retrieving memories is one of the most beautiful capabilities of the human mind; utilize this to your advantage and don’t let it go to waste.

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Aiming To Be Better Than Yesterday

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Everyday Is A New Opportunity

Are you waking up everyday with hunger in your heart and mind, desiring to be better than yesterday and seeking more out of life? Are you tired of mediocracy and aiming to better yourself and no longer be a slave of money, allowing it to work for you while you kick back and relax? If you answered yes to both, then you are already on the right track, but the next logical question is, are you actually putting in the work to better yourself?

This article will not focus on the hard work necessary to achieve more success and financial freedom in your life. I’m assuming that all my readers already know that dreaming without hard work will not get you far in life. I want to focus more on the mentality required to achieve success because many work hard and fall subpar to what they deserve. The more important factor are the thoughts that you hold on a daily basis.

You have to understand that 95% of life has to do with your perception of reality or the way that you interpret yourself, others around you and the environment. Many are pessimistic and complain on a daily basis, not realizing that this is bringing much negative energy into their lives. The dangerous part about the mind is that if you are not aware of your thoughts and are living in oblivion, you’ll never realize why you are not getting the results that you want.

You cannot continue to keep living blindly, not paying attention to your thoughts; they control everything about you. Think of your mind as a computer: whatever you place in it is what you get back out of it, known as the “user experience.” If your thoughts are not improving everyday, your experience will become dull. This is why many turn to alcohol and drugs to spice up their perception of reality.

Many are going to argue back, “I don’t want to focus on my thoughts everyday. I prefer to live the simple life and for me that is living day by day.” The problem with this mentality is that not much will be accomplished, even if they do desire more out of life. The difference between those who prevail and those who remain at a certain level of mediocracy is motivation and intent: they do what it takes to get ahead but in an ethical and honest way.

The truth is that you’ll encounter many days when you’ll feel like giving up, but those are the days when you have to push extra hard to maintain your positive state of mind. Think of adversity as life’s way of strengthening you; you have to experience pain before you experience more joy. Think of the stock market: it has to go down before it goes back up again. This is the cyclical nature of life; not everything can keep going up forever. So don’t become discouraged when you don’t see the results that you want; you have to keep chipping away and believe that whatever you want will one day manifest.

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The Stressful Nature Of Life

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Remaining Cool, Calm And Collected

One of the most annoying things about life is the stressful nature that comes with it. It seems that no matter how well you are doing, life still finds a way to annoy you and provide you with stress. But is it life that is doing that to you or are you doing it to yourself? It’s a complex question because I don’t believe that all fingers can be pointed to only one source. Sometimes you are to blame, while at other times life just gets in the way.

You don’t always have control over your environment. You should always strive to do your best, but unfortunately, life throws at you obstacles which you have no way of avoiding, besides giving up. We all know that giving up should never be an option because to do so is like accepting a negative fate because of your lack of effort and belief. As a matter of fact, life often throws at you difficult situations so that it can shape your character and help you become a stronger person.

If it weren’t for life’s obstacles, we wouldn’t be growing as human beings. There is no such thing as a perfect life without obstacles and if there is, it’s probably experienced by people in the middle of nowhere who lack motivation and are satisfied with sitting in a cabin. If that’s what you want, then so be it; we are not here to judge. But is that what you want? In order to gain more out of life, you need to face life’s challenges and obstacles without running away.

Sure, it’s annoying and sometimes you just want to pull your hair out or drink five shots of bourbon to calm your nerves, but none of that is necessary. The key is to remain cool, calm and collected and know that this phase will eventually pass. What you have to do is to learn how to handle difficult scenarios by living in the moment and not worrying about the near future.

When we worry about the near future, our mind comes up with many “what ifs” which only stress us even more and slows down our course of action. A good way to help you remain calm in the moment is by practicing mindfulness or the act of being nonjudgmental to your thoughts; you have to allow the thoughts and emotions to float away like clouds. When you practice mindfulness on a daily basis, you’ll start to notice that events that previously annoyed you will no longer have as strong of an impact.

Mindfulness is like a bulletproof vest for your mind. The key is to actually wear the vest and not just utilize it once; in other words, mindfulness requires much practice but it pays off in the end.

How do you handle life’s stressful situations?

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Keep Pushing Forward

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Questioning The Things That You Do

I think no matter how good or bad you have it, it’s human nature to question your thoughts, decisions and behavior. It doesn’t matter how much or little money you have; materialism is irrelevant when it comes to analyzing your life. We often question our lives because we are curious beings by nature. As long as we don’t know how we got here, we are going to always continue questioning. We question because we don’t understand the concept of life; if we did, then we wouldn’t be questioning in the first place.

How many of you question your ways of being on a daily basis? Even if you’re having the best day ever, you somehow still experience a moment where you wonder why you do the things that you do. It seems that no matter how much you improve in life, you still find something to complain about or question. It’s as if we’re not capable of experiencing peace and acceptance. We’re always searching for more.

But do not fall in the trap of being left behind. There’s a difference between questioning your ways and pushing forward versus questioning your ways and falling behind. Believe it or not, many fall behind because stress overloads them, paralyzing them in the process. They either give up on their goals and dreams and rewind back down to an easier path based on comfort, or they turn to substances to assist them with their daily struggles; some even develop a mental illness.

No matter how many lemons life throws at you, you cannot slip and fall. You have to always keep pushing forward, even if you’re tired, mentally exhausted and emotionally drained. You have to find a way to replenish your body and mind with positive energy and move forward. It’s always doable because you have gotten this far in life and you can just as easily continue marching forward. But you must not give up.

Giving up is quite tempting when you are mentally exhausted; who doesn’t want to accept an easier path in life? But if you want to achieve success, abundance and financial freedom, you must keep pushing forward. The easier path in life may bring you happiness but it will not necessarily bring you success. The harder path in life may bring you happiness but it might also not necessarily bring you success.

You just have to know what you want out of life and strive for one that will bring you happiness in the end. The point is to not allow the difficulties of life to prevent you from reaching your full potential. When potential is wasted, it increases your chances of future regret and living a life full of regret will not contribute to your happiness; it can even lead you into depression.

Always be on guard when it comes to your mental status, but learn to also take it easy in life and enjoy the journey no matter how rocky your path may become at times. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.

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