When someone’s behavior changes towards you, sometimes you end up ruminating over it to the point of affecting your mental health. Things change, people change is something that you need to expect from now on. Don’t be surprised anymore when people change their behavior. It doesn’t mean that you did something wrong. As a matter of fact, you may be doing everything right and the other person just can’t handle it. Remember that you don’t always know people’s intentions from the start. Every relationship takes time for you to spot their true colors. Sometimes their true colors are hidden very well.
People Randomly Change
There’s no point trying to understand why people change because you may never find out the truth. This happens in all age groups from childhood, adolescence and adulthood. Because life is a journey with many ups and downs, people are prone to changing their thoughts and behavior. When this happens, you end up in their crosshairs, sometimes intentionally or unintentionally. It hurts to witness a friend change their behavior and turn into somebody else. The friendship you once thought you had is now replaced by another person.
So what do you do? Well, the first thing you want to do is to analyze yourself. Has your behavior changed towards them? Honesty is important because if you’re in denial, then you won’t be able to salvage the relationship. If you did change, ask yourself why? Sometimes changes are necessary, especially if it’s towards people who you no longer like or appreciate. This tends to happen when someone is abusing drugs or alcohol. It becomes painful to see them changed by drugs, so you start to change towards them in return.
If you didn’t change and someone else changed, then try to analyze if your behavior influenced them. If you can’t find anything wrong about your behavior, then don’t worry about it. This means that it’s coming from them and you can’t do anything about it. You can try pointing it out to them but this often doesn’t lead to good results. They end up becoming defensive and questioning your behavior, leading to no where. The best thing you can do is to retreat and let them contact you when they want to. If they continue to demonstrate a behavior which you don’t appreciate, then distance yourself. Silence is often more powerful than words.
Lastly, don’t get self-conscious and feed into their behavior. They know what they’re doing. If they really care about you, they will come back as their true self; the self that you once appreciated.
Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)