Knowing Who Your Real Friends Are
Having good friends is crucial for your mental health because it helps to prevent loneliness, increase your self-esteem, improve your confidence and much more. But as anyone knows, it can be quite difficult to make good friends. Many friends who you think might be good, actually turn out to be envious: these envious friends can be quite poisonous.
Knowing who your real friends are can be quite a challenge at times, especially in the beginning when they are new. They may be nice, supportive, entertaining, funny and caring, but these traits can often disguise their envious nature. If you are not good at reading between the lines, you may not notice that one of your friends is actually envious of you and does not really like you as much as you think.
Spotting envious friends should not be that difficult. Look for some of these signs:
- They often make fun of you for no apparent reason
- They often look at you from the corner of their eyes like you’re better than them
- They may talk behind your back in a negative way
- They may not seem that interested in your presence when hanging out
- They may appear superficial and distant around you
. . . and more. You’d be surprised on how many people miss the above signs in their friendships, carelessly holding onto these toxic relationships. Because they miss these signs, the toxicity may not necessarily be apparaent to them, but guess what is working 24/7 and recording everything?
You guessed it! The unconscious mind. These toxic friendships take a toll on your unconscious mind, further adding to the pile of mental conflicts that we all carry on a daily basis. Even worse, some people may know that they have envious friends and still hold onto them!
It’s not that surprising. It’s similar to people who remain in dysfunctional or unattractive relationships out of the fear of being single again or starting their dating experience from scratch. But if you are holding onto envious friends or a bad relationship, then you are doing yourself a disservice.
You should always put your mental health and well-being first, even if it means cutting down on many current friends that you have. It’s better to be by yourself than to have friends who are envious or don’t care that much about you. Even though it might be emotionally difficult to be by yourself in the present moment, it’ll be better in the long-run when you do find meaningful friends who have your back.
Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)