Afraid Of Losing

Not Living Up To Your Expectations

There is a lot of pressure to succeed in this day and age. Just open up your MacBook and search among the many successful Twitter or Instagram pages, or a banging Youtube Vlog depicting beautiful sceneries from around the world. You then shut your MacBook off in anger, taking a look in the mirror and wondering to yourself, “what the hell am I doing?”

Sometimes our expectations are little too high and we become too hard on ourselves. There is nothing wrong with having dreams, but if these dreams are making you work in counterproductive ways, then you are doing yourself more of a disservice. It’s not always about how hard you work, but how efficient and smart you also are!

Sometimes you just need to take a step back and reanalyze your expectations. There is nothing wrong if you have to cut back on some or tweak them in order to make them more realistic. This is part of the process of being smart! When you repeat the same mistakes or strategies over and over and don’t see new results, then you are beating yourself into a dead end.

Then there are the people who are afraid to lose because the pressure is just too great; it builds up in them like a steaming pot on top of an oven. Rather than finding ways to redirect their pressure onto other activities, such as exercising, they freeze and allow it to continuously build up until they give up!

When you are feeling too much pressure from your expectations, you need to remind yourself that pressure is what keeps you going. But too much pressure can be counterproductive and even scare you away from your goals! So you find a way to feel less pressure, either by reminding yourself that everyone experiences it, or by tweaking your expectations.

But you cannot be afraid to lose! Once you allow fear to marinate in the back of your mind, then you will start to slowly crumble; your dreams and goals will fade farther away from your reach. Sometimes it’s better to not think so much about the process; just do what you have to do to achieve your goals!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)