Responding With Anger Is Never The Answer
One of the worst things that we can do is to be angry and take it out on our family. They have been there since before we were born. They have provided us with prenatal care, shelter, food and a loving and nurturing environment. And we repay them with irritability and a bitter mood?
Why do we take out anger on our family? The answer is because family members are easy targets: they are the ones whom we feel most comfortable being around with. Comfort is a safe ground for full emotional expressions. We know that our family will take the hit and not retaliate. But this kind of behavior is selfish and unfair.
As a matter of fact, nobody deserves our anger. Who are we to make someone else feel miserable? Even someone who is rude to us does not deserve our anger. Taking it out on other people just promotes more anger and hatred amongst us. There are other ways of dealing with anger.
Anger ruins relationships. Our family can only take it for so long, until they start changing their behavior towards us. And this promotes a vicious cycle of arguments which can turn out to be ugly. Is it worth losing a close relationship with our family over some insecurities?
The best thing that we can do is to find alternative ways of dealing with our anger:
- Talking with a counselor
- Undergoing psychotherapy
- Taking it out through exercising and weightlifting
- Adopting a more relaxed attitude
Life is not meant to be lived in an angry state of mind. And life is definitely not meant for us to be angry with our family and others.
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