Filling An Emotional Void

Disconnected By Emptiness

An emotional void is the empty space that lacks meaningful emotion. It can be characterized as numbness, lack of excitement and purpose, hopelessness, isolation, a sense of nothingness, confusion and feelings of being disconnected. An emotional void is when purpose has left your life and you haven’t been able to pull it back in.

An emotional void does not necessarily mean that you are depressed. As long as you have a good sleep, appetite, concentration, interest and energy level, normal psychomotor movements and no guilt or suicidal thoughts, then you are not depressed.

You can still be functional when experiencing an emotional void, but life becomes much harder to do so. As soon as you start becoming nonfunctional, an emotional void can progress to major depressive disorder. And once depression finds a home, it becomes a pain to evict it; sometimes, even with multiple antidepressants.

An emotional void can occur for many reasons:

  • You have experienced a traumatic event: rape, incest, natural disaster, return from war, etc.
  • You have lost a significant other or family member
  • You have lost a job or something important in your life
  • You simply don’t find pleasure in life anymore

The worst thing that you can do is to ruminate over your emotional void; this is almost a guaranteed ticket to major depressive disorder. It may even develop into depersonalization/derealization disorder. An emotional void is not a mental illness, but it can act as a gateway if you do not quickly find a way to extinguish it.

The key to filling an emotional void is to find something which you enjoyed doing in the past and bringing that back into the present. There is always something which you can pick back up from your past; you just have the find the will to do it. It may be difficult at first to kickstart an old reading habit, an exercise routine or even socializing, but once you get them going, it becomes easier.

Sometimes just talking to someone close in your life can help fill an emotional void. Isolation never resolves emotional or mental health issues. The act of talking is therapeutic, even on an unconscious level! Therefore, when experiencing an emotional void, try the following:

  • Bring back an enjoyable activity from the past into the present
  • Find someone who you are close to and talk about what you are experiencing
  • Start seeing a psychologist who is trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy
  • Start incorporating new activities into your life (anything that sparks your interest)
  • Avoid isolation

Make an emotional void temporary. Make yourself everlasting!

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)


4 Replies to “Filling An Emotional Void”

  1. What if you have had a void for a long time? I spend time with my granny but I have been disconnected from other people for a long time. I am very antisocial. I don’t know what my purpose is… I do not know what interests me. I have stayed at home and done nothing for a long time. I do not feel depressed everyday. I am content but lonely at the same time. What exactly does that mean? I can’t remember the last time I’ve been truly happy but I am not depressed. I do wake up with knots in my stomach occassionaly but not everyday. How exactly do you overcome being detached and never socializing enough to form a relationship with anyone? I don’t even know how to have intimate relationships anymore.

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    1. You do the opposite. No matter how difficult, you force yourself to interact with others. You go to a public place like Starbucks or the mall and interact! You define your reality. If your intuition is telling you to seek company, act on it! Don’t become imprisoned by your mind.

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      1. I think I was imprisoned by my mind for so long that I’ve forgotten how to interact. I am a lot better now. Maybe I will try and talk to people even if I am socially awkward now. I guess it takes practice. Not really sure I know anything to talk about though. Hopefully it will just come to me…

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