A Ten Year Battle

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The Battle Known as Loneliness

The pain harbors in the center of your chest

The empty corners of your room remain isolated

People come and go

Yet you remain in the same place

Isolated with pain and arrested in shame

But is it your fault you constantly ask yourself

Or is it destiny observing the cards that were dealt to you?

Whatever the reason may be

Your loneliness continues to eat you alive

The weekends are worse, the weekdays you manage by

How does one exit this trap called loneliness?

Do you just accept like a prisoner and hope for the best

Counting down the days until you can hold someone abreast . . .

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

War On Your Mind

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Spiritual War for Your Mind

The mind is your battleground

Fought on a spiritual level

God gave you life

But the Devil tries to take it

You end up confused

Sometimes dazed too

But evilness does not care

It’s better for you to be in despair

God warns us every day

But our soul gets lost

Our mind fights even during the night

Are dreams reality or just imagination?

How long can this fight go on?

As long as you live it will continue on . . .

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

The Stabbing Pain of Insecurities

Dealing With Insecurities Before They Get Worse

Your insecurities do not manifest from outside sources. Outside forces have an impact on how you feel every single day, but it always comes down to you on how to handle the effects of outside forces and cleaning up your insecurities before they become worse. Rather than blaming others for how you’re feeling, take action into your own hands by managing your insecurities through different vehicles, such as exercising, mindfulness, therapy or talking to a close friend or family member. You are the master of your mind.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Camping In Your Brain

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Alcohol Loves The Human Brain

Whether it be through your genes, environmental experiences or simple curiosity, once alcohol enters your bloodstream, it salivates its way to your brain, smoothly crossing your blood-brain barrier and camping for as long as it can; tonight it has found a home and your brain is it! If you are already vulnerable, such as experiencing emotional pain, suffering from a mental illness or the victim of peer pressure, you will quickly learn that alcohol is like a potion, quickly numbing away your painful experience. Once booze and your brain shake hands, call it a deal made in hell.

Does this mean that you are now prone to developing an addiction? Not necessarily. Is it possible? Absolutely. Many people with anxiety disorders or depression love alcohol. The substance helps lubricate their shyness, fears, anxieties and low mood, but only in the moment! Once your brain soaks up all the ethanol like a sponge, it crashes: you feel hungover or even worse you start to experience withdrawal effects such as tremors, anxiety, restlessness, sweating, insomnia, excessive thoughts of acquiring more alcohol and even seizures, shaking, confusion and hallucinations, something known as delirium tremens.

Why does alcohol love your brain so much? Or simply reversed, why do you like alcohol so much? I’ll let you answer those questions.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

You Write The Rules

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Chapter 2: Outside Forces

How do you know that you have control over yourself? How do you know that you’re being yourself? How do you know that your thoughts aren’t being manipulated or influenced by your environment? How do you know? Everything you do is influenced by your surroundings, even when you think that you are in control. Now this doesn’t mean that you aren’t enjoying your experience; you may very well be celebrating quite often that is! But please understand that you are being influenced every second of your celebrated experience.

Who are these outside forces? Everyone who is part of your reality: movements outside your window, strangers passing you down the street, marijuana smokers staring outside their windows, parking garage employees, liquor store workers, friends, family, social media, the news and the list goes on. Do you get my point yet? Even if you have a strong grip on your reality, your mind is being influenced. Keep in mind that influence does not necessarily equate to manipulation.

What is influence and what is manipulation? Being influenced to think, feel or behave in a certain way can be a good thing; it’s not always bad. Being manipulated can be good or bad but it’s always at the advantage of the person or entity who is doing it. Also keep in mind that you can be influenced and manipulated by the internet, television, podcasts, apps, billboards and books; it doesn’t always have to be by people.

The bottom line: step outside the box once in a while.

Are you Ready? (This is Defeating Stigma Mindfully)

Negativity is Contagious

We’re all surrounded by negative people; some are our friends, family members or even coworkers. At what point do you draw the line and stop interacting with them? Many times, we love these people and find them funny, entertaining, attractive and fun to be around, but their negative temperament often causes you to feel sad. It’s very important to keep this in mind because who you surround yourself with influences your thoughts, behavior and expressions. Being around negative people for too long will slowly turn you into a negative person as well.

Opening Up About Your Mental Health Symptoms

In therapy, the psychiatrist can only help you as much as you want to be helped. It’s very important to find that comfort zone and open up about your symptoms so that your doctor can better understand you. Withholding your symptoms will only delay the process to your mental health recovery and you will suffer more during the process. Find a psychiatrist who makes you feel comfortable and divulge to them everything going on in your mind like an open book. Your doctor can’t wait to help you but you have to want to help yourself as well.

Exercising For Your Mental Health

Exercising is not just about physical health. The point of exercising is to also feel good mentally. Exercise helps decrease your anxiety, improves your mood, promotes the birth of new neurons in your brain and elevates your self-esteem and confidence. Not to mention, exercising feels amazing! When you feel physically and mentally good, you radiate that positive energy into the world and people can sense it; this can lead to an improvement in your relationships! Start with baby steps if you don’t currently exercise: every day, go for a 20 minute walk on the street. After doing this for a week or two, include some jogging, fitness bikes, weights or whatever you enjoy. You’ll notice soon enough how beneficial exercising can be for your mental health.

Social Media Toxicity

Everyone talks about what they love about social media, but the negative aspects are often left out. Social media can be toxic and detrimental to your mental health when you are exposed to negative comments. These negative comments can be very powerful and make you feel sad at times. Social media is also toxic if you are constantly comparing yourself with people on Instagram who post exotic and wealthy pictures. This can make you feel sad as well by comparing your life which lacks those elements of materialism. When using social media, keep your mental health in mind and learn to spot and eliminate the negative aspects of them.

Psychiatric Labeling

When psychiatrists inform you of your diagnosis, they are not doing it with the intention of labeling you with an illness to make you feel bad. A diagnosis is given to you to inform you of what we think may be going on and as a guide for treatment. Psychiatric diagnoses do not define you as a person. It’s important to mention this because many patients experience an uncomfortable feeling when certain psychiatrists slap a diagnosis on to them. Informing patients of their diagnosis is very important when it comes to delivery of the information; empathy and being nonjudgmental are crucial to making patients feel comfortable. At the end of the day, we are here to help you overcome your symptoms and lead a happy and fulfilling life again.